ok…PART 2 OF MY STORY ….NITEMARISH EVENTS…ON DAY OF:
So on way to drive to ceremony/reception site,..i pull up take quick look at ceremony site issues, and head over to reception site TO FINISH GETTING READY…AKA DO MY OWN. F” ing makeup..which i really really really hate to do my own esp for special things..so I call my fiance who is at his pals house spending quality male-bondo time w/ groomsmen.. – well poor baby he was in for a rude awakening…lol from me..IM in tears, shaking, and screaming on phone..telling him ALLL OF THE DAY IS FALLING APART. COME FIX THIS!!.all these 9 months of work..and its All a disaster…so i start sounding off to him the probs: ( that all of the rentals/columns are falling because of wind, the tents set up on premises for us/bridal to hide in..UNTIL ITS TIME OF PROCESSIONAL..are not in correct places, the sand/unity table hasnt been set up, the huge glass cylinder aisle markers had not been put out, the prom kids playing on our stuff and little kids are WEARING MY STRANDS OF FLOWERS…that were supposed to be hanging behind columns to add a simple elegant touch to natual backrop..(the lake, the sky, the flowers growing at ceremony site..etc)…and he couldnt get me to calm down or shut up for nothing…I was like the photographer is here to do getting ready shots..and im not even close to ready..and i just realized i didnt grab the thinner lace for corset dress..and i dont like the way the wide lace for corset looks…and i got a smidge of red lipstick on dress, and we are supposed to be doing our “FIRST LOOK PICS IN 15 MINS”…and ceremony musicians..are having issues w/ wind and it affecting sound of their performance…DJ..never got reception playlist……FINALLY HES LIKE JOSIE – get ready and ill take care of whatever i can…and i tried to talk ..and hes like..josie bye. so then my bridesmaid michelle arrives, and has a bottle of zinfadel which is shown in pic above, and she’s like Josie – “John called me saying you were freaking out” “heres a bottle of zinfadel lol (shown in pic above) and good ol Bridesmaid or Best Man michelle – she brought some bricks for columns to weight them to ground, and called her cousin Aimee (who was in town to come to my wedding and is a stylist/makeup artist in Baton Rouge LA) to come asap to do makeup. if we have time…so THAT KINDA WAS A GLIMMER OF HOPE IN MY DAY…
(oh and i forgot stupid prom kids..were also trying to come into reception venue,..one boy walked into bathroom when i was getting dressed..and im like..OMG..are u serious…MY moh..went and told them off, and assigned someone to stake post..who was done getting read..i was pissed..i mean.i rented this place for $975.00..why are these stupid inconsiderate kids coming in here
BUT. UNFORTUNATELY AND HOUR or more HAD PASSED and i couldnt wait on the makeup artist friend..(so..i did my own makeup and was running around like a nut trying to get ready..JUST TO DO THE “FIRST LOOK” SESSION W/ JOHN…and poor thing he was waiting out there forever..so me, the photographer, and my maid of honor..finally get to first look session at 5pm …(RUNNING SO LATE) her boyfriend drives us there…and my maid of honor, has MP3 SPEAKER THING.
.ready to cue my music, and i step out of vehicle, and expected john to be waiting..well because..we were wayyyyy wayy late..now there were people arriving to site, and all the groomsman had shown up ..at their correct time to take bridal party pics prior to ceremony-which was supposed to follow our FIRST LOOK session…(like i got out of car and was upset all over again..even though the walkway is a 1/2 mile..down..and John didnt know i was there…and im like JAMIE (MOH)..”THIS WAS SUPPOSED TO BE A PRIVATE SPECIAL MOMENT FOR US TO SHARE..AND THERE ARE PEOPLE EVERYWHERE..”
…so jamies handy dandy bf/driver of yukon…runs all way to front of ceremony site, and gets john to go to an area where there are less people..and turn his back to us….SO THEN IM OK AGAIN…so jamie (MOH) PLAYS “yellow” by coldplay and i start walking..
and it was special and i was getting so emotional, and about 6ft before i reach my fiance/future husband.. NO LIE..I KID YOU NOT!! a runner..YES A STUPID SKINNY BEOTCH..LOL..runs btwn us…I WAS LIKE wtf…did she really not see a guy in a tux with his back facing me..a bride approaching him…(with my Maid/Matron of Honor on sidelines w/ music going) and photographer on sidelines snapping shots of everything…I WAS..at this point…NOT EVEN ABLE TO GET MAD..i suppose from too much trauma.LOL I SHOULD HAVE TRIPPED THE RUNNING woman in retrospect. (LOL DOWN, INTERNAL BRIDEZILLA..LOL)
So after the running woman passed.. i stopped, and then continued going forward. toward my fiance…and my photographer told him “John turn and face your beautiful bride…”
and the second he turned around.. I LOST it..lol..I hugged him and kissed him and tears flowed..and flowed..AND he was like Josie its all ok..its all ok, and you are so beautiful and im so glad im getting to marry you. everythings going to be fine.
oh i love him!!!..he so knows how to calm me down. by BEING sooo sweet and soothing, and he knew id been through a lot of sleepless-ness and stress the weeks surrounding the wedding and he knew including the drama on day of that i was just ENTIRELY OVERWHELMED….. he held me tight and we talked and photographer snapped away at good distance..and i told him i dont know if i cant keep myself together for the rest of the day..everything keeps going wrong…and he assured me..josie, its gonna be fine, everything might not come out exactly perfect but the important part is we are getting married today and we love each other so much and will be husband and wife, and thats all that matters…and i agreed, and i calmed down…
and then it was time for me to go into the TENT/ hiding since more and more guests were arriving…AND ABOUT 15 MINS BEFORE CEREMONY..the makeup artist cousin of my bridesmaid michelle, showed up..and retouched up my makeup and gave me fake eyelashes, and did it all soo beautifully and much bettter than i ever could.alll while i was holding my flower girl on my lap..:)
sooo -THERE WERE GOOD MOMENTS too..and overall it really wasa beautiful ceremony…and there were a few other hitches in OUR BIG day…some i didnt know about til later…
-beer was spilled on marriage license before we got to reception site, and before we signed it.. (also other side note..somehow when we did sign it..i wasnt told to sign 1 line) – so day we get back from honeymoo we had to go ..sign license again..I WAS LIKE..oh joy..lol getting married again!
-i was so embarrased of toes and fingers..(because i was stranded at home all day..and missed beauty appts..except for hair..(i never got nails and pedicure)..and my toes nails were ick..and we tried using these self adhesivable nails on my toes and finger nails..(my bridesmaid KASEY..DID this while i put on my own makeup and drowned myself in wine)…i wonder now if i smelt of a WINO..all throughtout day..lol..anywho..so she was sweet enough to put those lil things on all my toe nails and finger nails.while im moving around and doing other things..but…MAYBE THE PRODUCT IS JUST crappy..because..before I had done first look..i lost 2 toe nails, and 1 finger nail….by end of actual ceremony..i only had total 4 finger nails..and 2 toenails…lol…I WAS LIKE..OH GEEEZEE..PLEASE DONG TAKE PICS OF MY HANDS..
-THE dj not getting my playlist/order of evening (“to MC” was an issue..but totally my fault..so..it was alldone on a whim..which was stressing me out..my Maid/Matron of Honor..would run up to me..OK ..WHAT SONG DO YOU WANT FOR THIS..”and she’d run to dj booth” and ask if he had..and if he iddnt she run back to me to report bad news.& pick.another choice
-the reception venue had two rooms separated by a lg hallway..the larger room is where all the food and seating were, and the smaller room is where dj and dance floor, beverages and a few tables were…well bad thing was..music wasnt connected to speakers in big room nor..announcements..such as first dance..etc…they tried fixing..but didnt wk and show must go on..
-so when we made our grand entrance..someone told me to go into big room..i think our officiant (because we were to sign marriage license directly after entrance)…so..we run into building/LG room bypass small room..where i hear the dj announcing MR AND MRS CHASSON…lol.. (well i didnt know i was suppposed to go in small room where all bridal party was!!)..so like some fools..we go into the big room..and since the music wasnt transferring to big room..u just hear a room of people softly talking., while sitting and eating.(about 115 something peoples..) and we kinda..go in halfway.and they look at us..and im like john..OMG..i feel stupid..and hes like cmon..lets just go to cake table at front…- so then bridal party figures out were missing and joins us in big room…(but it took like 10 mins to get them alll in the big room – so we were just kinda hanging out..clulessly in front for awhile)…so MY Maid/Matron of Honor..is like what do you wanna do now..IM LIKE..idk..everything is not going accdg to my timeline/very detailed schedule i made..and i was lost..i said lets just sign license, do toast and cut cake..since were in here and everyone is just eating and staring at us..probably trying to figu out whats going. on – THEN she announces us to room 🙂 – then we sign license, then we do toast..and one of groomsman (on accidnet) broke my special “BRIDE” WINE Glass that i was going to use the rest of night..( i literally said here..CAN I JUST GO HOME.. :(. THEN my Maid/Matron of Honor did her toast and it was soo sweet, i love that girl!! she killed herself for me and my wedding..and is like a mother to me. – then we cut cake..and noone really was watching.a.nd then there was no cake plates out (i suppose because we were doing this part..wayyyy to early)..
-my psycho ex bf and an ex college friend (amanda) supposedly drove up and was going to come to wedding – no idea why?? but my KATI (a dear friend of mine who also was my day of coordinator..TOLD Them to leave)…LOL i had no idea they had showed up and honestly didnt fathom the thought of either of them coming..probably because #1 they werent invited and #2 i had talked to either of them in almost 2 years..weird and random
-the photo booth was placed on outdoor wrap around porch..when i wanted it somewhere guests could easlily access it..and i told them i wanted her to set up in entrance of reception venue..but..for whatever reason..she was outside..and i really didnt get a whole bunch of shots in my scrapbook..so i was bummed later because of that.
several blown up bridal pics never made it into a frame and werent displayed..
AND BY END OF PHOTOGRAPHERS TIME.9:30PM..i decided we would do sparkler exit..and really leave..lol..I WAS SOO READY TO BE AWAY FROM MY WALKING DISASTERS….
BUT ALL IN ALL IT WAS BEAUTIFUL, AND I THINK..EVEN NOW..WORTH ALLTHE STRESS LEADING UP TO IT..AND ALL THE STRESS ON DAY OF..though it would have been nice to relax and enjoy my day instead of clenching my teeth, and having my blood pressure go sky high, and me imagining doing really horrible things to prom kids and park dog walkers and runners LOL…and now 12 days out from that day…I CAN FINALLY BREATHE..i still have tons to do..THANK YOUS, RETURNS, ORGANIZE GIFTS..DO ALL THAT NAME CHG STUFF (UGGHHH..) but life is definately more enjoyable and fun now that its over!
BEST WISHES TO ALL YOU OTHER BRIDES TO BE/BEE’S..AND I PRAY FOR YOU ALL A NICE STRESS FREE WEDDING DAY! 🙂