Worst ever wedding behaviour……

posted 2 years ago in Beehive
Post # 2
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Helper bee

I guess mine was a family wedding from a few years ago. It was a small wedding, maybe 60 guests. The brides family was a pretty formal bunch and they made up nearly half the guests. A lot of them had put a lot of work into special presentations and speeches. Most of the speeches were very emotional. The grooms immidiate family, though a lot more casual were pretty cool about the formality of the whole thing. They gave some sort speeches and then basically just sat back and enjoyed the reception. Unfortunately though, a group of the grooms friends and cousins got COMPLETELY trashed. I’m not talking teenagers and early 20s somethings, these people were in their late 30s and up. They were loud, talked at full volume through most of the speeches and yelled out comments and jokes accompanied by big laughter. None of them seemed to pick up on the fact that this was pissing off nearly the entire room and mortifying the bride.

I remember as the dance portion of the night was about to begin and I was heading out of the dining room I heard one of the really drunk women point at my Uncle and say to her friend “did you see the dirty looks that man was giving me all night? I mean c’mon, it’s a party! Who does he think he is?”. I was tempted to point out that he was the man who just paid for her dinner and the open bar.

 

Post # 3
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Blushing bee

I was at a wedding where the ex got up and did an impromptu speech about the bride and him having sex in their parents bed… I kid you not… I mean it was such a cringe moment… Firstly I have no idea why the ex was invited… I guess it was many years ago they were together and they obviously remained friends …. But honestly to reveal that at a wedding when the bride is marrying another man was just awful…. I think most people in the room didn’t know where to look…. At the groom that was about to punch him or the bride that was in tears…. Hmmm alcohol… Ex’s… And wedding speeches don’t mix.  

Post # 4
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Helper bee

Missjan2015:  Holy crap, how could anyone think that’s a good idea?! I really feel for that couple!

 

My biggest fear is that people will bring their kids to our party (we’re eloping, then having a 40-person cocktail party next summer). I’ve heard so many horror stories about people just showing up at weddings with their kids, even if the invitations said “adult reception”. My partner and I are childfree by choice and very, very uncomfortable and awkward around children…that would be a nightmare for us. We’re trying to use word of mouth to get the point across. Most of our friends are well aware that we’re bad with kids, but I’ve read stories where the couple thought their friends knew, but they still ended up with screaming kids at their weddings. We may have to get a bouncer…!

Post # 6
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Busy bee

In my former company, someone from HR had their wedding end up on the evening news…

People went out to a bar post reception and there was a drunken brawl.  Well the bride’s uncle had a heart attack and died mid-brawl.  Now, when you Google the bride’s name, the news story is the first thing that comes up. 

However unfortunate and sad for her, I certainly couldn’t take her seriously in a professional capacity thereafter.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Steph77:  

We eloped to get away from my overbearing mother. She was trying to take over our wedding and discussions didn’t work.

Our three wedding guests were 40 minutes late which caused a huge inconvenience in terms of our plans. I believe that one should strive for perfect punctuality, especially when it comes to important meetings and events. I am rarely late for anything and it grates on my nerves when others think it is okay to make people wait for them. The other painful part of our wedding day was that one of my so called friends was disparaging me to her boyfriend and sharing private things about me with him. He was dumb enough to confront me about what he was told, which was also a betrayal to his girlfriend. I don’t talk to any of the three people who attended our elopement. 

I am hoping that our vow renewal will be a lot better. We are inviting only loving friends and family. My husband and I have survived a lot of difficulties during our short marriage and we want to celebrate with family this time. My mother and I are getting along a lot better and she even apologized for her behavior when I was engaged. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I went to a wedding last year where there was (obviously) no smoking allowed in the reception hall, so many people were smoking outside on the attached patio.  No big deal.  Except, despite the fact that there were TWO entrances, (one leading onto the dance floor, and one about twenty feet away that led to a more open area), AND the fact that the wall was made of WINDOWS and they could clearly that the couple was having their first dance, people insisted on walking in and out through the doors on the dance floor.  WORSE, they proceeded to do the same during the Father/Daughter dance.  I don’t think there was a person there who couldn’t tell that Father was in poor health, (you could tell by looking at him, even if you didn’t know he was battling an aggressive cancer).  What should have been a very precious moment for them, their family, and everyone watching, was punctuated by random people rudely walking across the dance floor.  BTW, Father passed away about six months later.  It makes me tear up thinking about their dance, (I had tears streaming down my face watching them that day), and seriously chaps my ass every time I think about the jerks who couldn’t wait two minutes for a cigarette or at least use the other damn door!

Every wedding I’ve been to with children has reaffirmed my decision not to include them in our own wedding, (which was five years ago now).  Several times I’ve seen children running around the reception unattended.  The worst was a friend’s wedding.  She and her groom were on the dance floor waiting to start the first dance.  There were several children using the dance floor for their own entertainment.  The DJ asked MULTIPLE TIMES for the dance floor to be cleared so the couple couple have their first dance.  And NOBODY MOVED.  It was like he was speaking a foreign language. That or he couldn’t POSSSIBLY be talking about THEIR precious angel.  FINALLY people got off their butts and got their children off the dance floor.  The worst part was that most of the kids on said dance floor were old enough to know better and should have moved themselves.

Recently, I was inadvertently a semi-rude guest.  I was actually a little concerned about it before we went to the wedding.  I am 21 weeks pregnant.  I am not so obviously pregnant to attract attention from people I don’t know, but people who know me and know I’m pregnant can obviously tell.  It was the wedding of a relative of DH’s, so of course, the couple knew I was pregnant, as did the members of DH’s family in attendance, most of whom we haven’t seen since Easter.  I had several people come up to me to congratulate me, (at least it was done fairly discreetly at the reception).  I just felt bad, because as excited as I am, I didn’t want to steal the spotlight from the couple in any way, because it was THEIR day, not mine.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Steph77:  

I can understand lateness once in a while as things do happen. However, chronic lateness is lack of respect for other people’s time. I would NEVER be late for someone’s wedding, especially if it was an intimate celebration. 

My mother and I have both matured. She is far less critical, rude and controlling because she knows that those character traits drive a wedge between us. My elopement was a wake up call for my mother. I no longer argue every time she tries to help me; my mom enjoys giving advice because it makes her feel needed. 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

One of my friends told me she wouldn’t be using her plus one, but ended up bringing her mom and a guy friend.  It’s a plus one, not a plus how ever many people you want to bring.    Oddly enough, this is not the first wedding in our social circle she did that at, but the others I assumed her mom was invited.  I found out later her mom was never invited, she is just noisy and has done that to other people’s weddings too.   

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Steph77:  Thank you, that makes me feel a little bit better!  I went through the receiving line and the bride congratulated me before I could congratulate her, and I felt pretty badly about it!  lol!  I definitely wasn’t TRYING to steal their thunder, but I still felt guitly every time someone stopped by our table to congratulate us. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

 

jamb:  you’re judging someone’s ability to do their job because her uncle died in a bar fight? 

Post # 15
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191 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Miss Apricot:  Don’t feel bad, it wasn’t your fault. I found out a couple of days ago that one of my Bridesmaids will be six months pregnant at my wedding, people can congratulate her if they want. I’m pretty sure she will just be shattered she can’t have a wine!

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