Worst job you’ve been given at a wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

 I agree Mighty.  I think if someone tried to "honor" me with one of these assignments, I would decline.  Granted I understand they were trying to include me in some way.  But I’m good with being a guest. And you’re right, they really don’t need people for that stuff anyway.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Bridesmaid  I’m much happier with being an overly-excited-for-you guest!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Flower Girl at 20. She had "too many bridesmaids" so she made two of us be flower girls half way through the process. She was thinking me, but another girl offered to do it. They didn’t get bouquets but ugly baskets and honestly it embaressed them because she thought it would be cute if they still threw petals. It made them feel like less important friends, at least one of them, the one who took my spot didn’t mind that much. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Yeah! It’s just that I really really love being able to do fun things for the bride just because she’s my friend. I went to a bridal show a few weeks ago with one of my friends because I really wanted to, not because it was my "job" as a bridesmaid. I’d just rather be the person who snaps loads of pictures of the ceremony and then emails them on all to you on your honeymoon, instead of standing up there holding a bouquet. I just think that you don’t enjoy the planning process and the wedding as much if you’re a bridesmaid — it’s like you’re obligated and expected to do things, rather than wanting to do things.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I too am not a fan of the guest book attendant. I mean, really, as a guest you know what to do! haha!

But, at the same time, I do understand girls wanting to include more of their friends/family and would think it was nice of them to ask me, even though I too would rather be taking a million picturese!

And the 20 year old flower girl… wow! No words for that!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

Once a guy friend’s fiancee asked my sister to basically be their wedding coordinator.  They needed a DOC, so they just emailed my sister to ask her to take care of it.  Oh, and she’s *not* a wedding planner or anything, just a relatively organized person.   My sis was kind of bummed and a little offended that they just expected that she would take care of all the stressful stuff for them, when really she just wanted to be a guest.  She actually declined their "offer" so she could just have a good time at the wedding, instead of spending the day running around like she was on "Whose Wedding Is It Anyway"!

I was an usher once and it was only okay.  I felt sort of awkward doing it, as a woman, but it was nice to be included, I guess.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

@quirkyparsnip: That is hilarious! Maybe a Guiness Record Book entry for Oldest Flower Girl Ever?

Did she carry a basket and throw flowers and everything?

Post # 12
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Worker bee

I was once greeted at the Airport with a massive To-Do List!  The other girls got them too, and we were all annoyed.  She expected us all to do an enormous list of things that should’ve been taken care of long before the wedding, especially considering that the Princess Bride did not work for a living like the rest of us!

I’m not friends with the Bride anymore for a list of reasons and that was definitely on it.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

There’s a pretty awesome wedding on OffbeatBride with an adult male flowergirl. The pics are hi-larious, but I’m pretty sure you have to be really into it in order to carry it off. ^_^

I’ve been a guest book attendant three times and every time I’ve felt like a freaking moron. Everyone knows to sign it, it’s right there by the programs. Of what possible earthly use is it to make someone stand awkwardly by it, forcing a smile and saying, "Would you care to sign the guestbook?" like a broken record? Ugh. No GBAs at my wedding, tyvm, unless some crazy soul volunteers.

Being a candle lighter twice also kinda stunk, in my opinion. But I think that’s because there’s too much pressure–everyone’s staring, you have that giant 5ft lighter, walk up and down the altar steps without tripping in your high heels, don’t let any candles blow out…ugh.

I’d rather just be a guest and be there to celebrate their happiness. ^_^

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

Oh my, 20 year old flower girl has to be the big winner!  I too would have declined, even if that meant not being in the wedding at all.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I can’t remember if they actually threw petals at the ceremony, they were in their baskets though. They pretended to at the rehearsal. They were dressed the same as all the other bridesmaids, but they had to walk down the isle together and it was really akward. The bridesmaids bouquets were silk flowers, and I gave mine to one of them, because I felt bad that she didn’t get to have one for the ceremony and I didn’t want to keep it. 

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

My brother had a small wedding at his future in laws home a few years ago.    It was 103 that day…and I was in charge of standing outside and directing cars where to park.    Ah…the joys of being the younger sibling! 

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