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I agree that guest book attendant isn't very fun, but i will argue sometimes it's necessary. At my cousin's wedding they had a photomat that you signed and even though it was right at the entrance of the reception hall the majority of the guests had no idea what to make of it. Just keep in mind what is obvious to us brides isn't always obvious to the rest of the world. (I will say, even though most guests didn't know they were supposed to sign it I still felt like an idiot asking them to do it.)
Probably as a direct result, our officiant will ask everyone to sign our (Quaker) wedding certificate during the ceremony and nix the tradition guestbook completely.
I agree with Guest book attendent as a ridiculous job, as for the adult flower girl. I had my own experience. My FSIL got married about 7 months after my daughter was born. They wanted to include her but didn't know how she was going to get down the aisle. So FMIL and FSIL had the idea that I could walk her down the aisle. I didn't have to wear anything like a floral headpiece or carry a basket. Although my FMIL told me when I asked her about my attire to probably look for a Cream or Ivory dress. I felt completely embarrassed. I knew my ears were turning red as I was going down the aisle and about halfway through had to grab one of the other flower girls hand because she was freaking out that her petals were flying away.(outdoor ceremony) I would have been perfectly happy sitting with the rest of the family with my daughter as an honorary flowergirl or something.
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ok i wasn't a bridesmaid, just a guest..but i was asked (more like instructed) upon arrival to my FI's (then boyfriend) cousin's wedding that i would be the babysitter during the ceremony. i was told that i should stand near the back and if a child started crying i would be the one to take them back to the "quiet room" and entertain them.
lets just say i was not overjoyed.... luckily there were no crying outbursts and got off the hook, but i would've liked to have sat through the ceremony with the rest of his family.
@krissybee: how could they even ask/tell you to do that? That just seems horrible! Maybe they didn't think you'd mind. But honestly- if a kid cries, it's up to their parents to take them out of the room!!
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I was a guest book attendant at my sister's wedding (I was like 11 years old) and I hated it. My FSIL recently asked me to be a guest book attendant at her wedding (I'm 21 now). At first I said I would, but then I changed my mind. I really wanted to be able to take pictures of them getting ready, etc. and I think if they really want someone to watch the guest book a 10 - 12 year old is plenty capable, so I told her, and now she is having someone else do it. Yay! As long as it's not me. I think she was just trying to find a way to include me since my her brother (my FI) is a groomsman and she is a bridesmaid in our wedding.
@MissStellar: honestly i'm not sure WHY they would ask me to do that.. i know alot of the cousin kids just because my FI and i have been together for so long, but i'm not close with them at all. i'm sure if i picked up one of those kids they would cry more because i was a "stranger" to them.
( this post was not intended to be a vent, but my FSIL was the one who told me that babysitting was my job..and get this, she told me "because you are not part of the family we thought you'd be the perfect one for the job"..hmm, ok.
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and i totally agree, its the parents job to take disruptive kids out of the church!
Day of Bridesmaid. I was plucked from the sign-in table because I was roughly the same size as the bridesmaid that failed to show that day. No explanation! I was just told to do it :) lol
A very good friend of mine told when I asked her to be a BM that she didn't really want to do that, but would be happy to do guest book, cut the cake, do a reading-interesting. I was thrilled to be able to have someone who WANTED to cut the cake. She said "Lisa, no offense, but I was just in two weddings in the past 6 months and I really don't want to be a BM." I didn't think it was rude at all-being a BM is expensive & usually has "duties" that go along with it-so I was happy with the turn out and so is she!
I understand that there are jobs at weddings that are not the most glamourous...but they are things that need to be done, watched over, or taken care of on the big day. Why can't we just do things to help people out and to make their day as stress-less as possible instead of making it all about ourselves?
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Guestbook attendant is not a fun job to do if you sit there and have people sign. At my wedding, the GBA will be walking around to the tables at the reception and taking pictures for the photo guestbook. I will not be having candlelighters though, candles will be lit before the ceremony.
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I didn't actually have a job at my friend's wedding, but I sure wasn't a BM. She just asked me to come watch them get ready, pick up food for everybody. Her reasoning for not asking me was that she was reusing dresses from her first engagement and there wasn't one that would have fit me. I understand a little bit, because we weren't as close as we used to be, but it kind of hurt my feelings. Oh well, I don't like pink dresses anyway! ;) Day of, I kinda felt like her bi%ch to tell you the truth, but it was fun and she bought me the same gift as the rest of her BM. My husband and I always were invited to the rehearsal.
When I was in younger my mom did catering for many of the weddings in our small rural town. So it's generally known in my family & hometown group that both she and I know how to cut cakes, make sure buffets are filled,etc. So we are ALWAYS asked to be cake cutters or "servers". This means we typically leave the ceremony early and spend the remainder of the event in the kitchen, even though we are also invited as guests. Let me just say August in a church kitchen with little AC while in a dress with heels serving up meatballs and cocktail weiners....yep fun! I know they feel like they need to include us and we make a good team but really for once I'd like to see the whole wedding and have dinner! On the other hand they've now all asked what they can do to help us out... :)
i was basically the day of coordinator for a cousin back in May...in Texas, in an outdoor wedding, no less it was sooo hot. ugh. Everyone came to me for their buttonieres, corsages, bouquets. I had to find all the family members for the pictures. My and her sister were given a ton of stuff at the house to set up the reception area and we forgot the escort cards so we basically had to seat everyone. All the vendors came to me for questions. it was AWFUL.... and so for my wedding the first person i booked was a month of (not day of) coordinator. lol
This certainly wasn't the worst job but I found it was an ironic job. I recently sang during communion for a friend's wedding. I've never attended church and was never baptised...that's the closest I'll probably ever get to communion! :)
I'll have to add one that was asked of my sister: Passing out bubble girl! She wasn't even that good friends with the bride, but my friend invited her. I was a bit shocked she asked my sister to do that! I say leave them in a basket by the entrance! or sit them on the chairs! ha ha...
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@aja0829: I agree about the cake cutting. I was a cake cutter, along with my sister, at my cousin's wedding. I was pouring sweat by the time we finished cutting the two enormous sheet cakes, the dental floss they gave us to cut with DID NOT WORK so we had to use a knife and server, and the bitchy bridesmaids were harping on us the ENTIRE time: "GO FASTER! BE NEATER! THESE ARE ALL MESSY, I WANT A NEW PIECE!"
Honestly, if it hadn't been for the nasty bridesmaids, I wouldn't have minded that much. How my sweet cousin has such bitchy friends, I'll never know.
Guestbook attendant as a kid. First of all, I was very shy at that age. Then I quickly learned that if someone doesn't want to sign it, there is nothing you can do to force them.
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