Worst. Party. EVER?

posted 1 year ago in Etiquette
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Busy bee

@lanalnoco:  Wow, I’m sorry. It’s amazing how some brides forget that they don’t invite guests to ooooo and awwww over the dress that they are wearing, but they are hosting these people to celebrate with them. 

I don’t have any real horror stories. Things never go 100% as planned at these things, but overall I adored the people who were getting married and was happy to be there. Ranging from fancy weddings in LA to budget weddings where the couple needed to get married for health insurance or visas, all of them tried equally hard to make their guest comfortable enough to have a good time, which makes a huge, huge difference. 

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Buzzing bee

At my cousin’s wedding, myself and the bride’s sister, my other cousin, although Bridesmaids, were sat on a separate table from all the rest of our family, and anyone else we knew. Instead, we were sat on a table with all her friends from University – and not even allowed to sit beside each other due to boy-girl-boy-girl seating arrangments. So we spent the WHOLE meal listening to these strangers talk – they didn’t bother including us, and they were…

Well, she went to an Agricultural University. They were all rich farmers/landed wanna-be gentry. I remember one gentleman complaining that the next week was going to be so hard for him because he had to take the string of racehorses to York and then to Leicester because his father wasn’t around to do it. That was the sort of conversation we were talking about. I don’t think they thought we were worth including, being as we weren’t ‘of their set’.

All we could do was subtly exchange looks and sneak off quickly after the speakers to hang out with our own peeps.

 

Added to that, the groom’s step mother didn’t say a word to us the whole day (still mad her daughter wasn’t a bridesmaid), and his little step brothers spent the afternoon either throwing stones at us, or trying to kick a muddy football at us, whilst the grownups looked on with indulgent smiles, I was thoroughly sick of the lot of them by the end of the day. I wish I’d drank back then, because I think now the open bar would have lubricated things much more pleasantly.

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Sugar bee

@lanalnoco:  They seated you at the kids table rather then at the same table as you parents, WTF! I’m not giving +1s to all my guests, only those living together, engaged or married get to bring their dates and that is simply because if their living together, engaged or married, we know both parts of the couple. If it’s a newer relationship chances are we don’t. All our guests will be seated with their families though, anything else just sems weird to me, and friends will just be seated together.

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Sugar bee

@lanalnoco:  To me my plan just makes sense, couples get seated together, amilies seated together and groups of friends get seated together. Maybe they figured they would put you at the kids tble to babysit their kids. 

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Busy bee

oh my what an experience. And I thought my family was bad… lol I wouldn’t constitute this as being the worst party ever, but I went to a church friend’s wedding with my parents and I was seated at a separate table from them, a few other people from church were at my table, but then this guy from the groom’s side kept stalking me at my table and wouldn’t take the hint that I wasn’t interested. I spent a majority of the reception out in the hallway with one of my friends, apparently the guy only noticed me when I was in the room lol.

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Buzzing bee

My sorority sister has a budget wedding (2k) which was fine, except that she only did a heavy hors d’oeuvres reception yet still had a cocktail hour between ceremony and reception, that ran for two hours because their bridal portraits took foreveeeeer, yet we weren’t allowed to touch the food, we just stared at it longingly. This was a 3 pm ceremony, so by 5:30 everyone was starving. All we were allowed to eat were little plastic swans filled with peanuts. And as if that wasn’t bad enough, when people were finally allowed to eat we got to eat for about 10 minutes before we had to stop and listen to toasts and speeches then they went right to cake cutting. Most people left after cake because they were starving. Needless to say I am having tons of yummy food at my wedding!

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Bee Keeper

I went to a wedding once that took place on a yatch. All the guests could not fit on one floor for the meal.  So the important people were sat upstairs with the bride and groom and the rest of us were relegatated to the first floor.  There was no central sound system so all the special events like the toasts, first dance, cake cutting, etc, happened upstairs without us even knowing.  And the worst part was that upstairs they had a nice platted meal while downstairs we had the worst buffet food I’ve ever had.  

Everyone down there felt so insulted.  Like we were invited just for the gifts.  (and to make the story even worse, when that couple came to our wedding a year later, they never brought us a gift!).

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Bee Keeper

I’ve been to hundreds of weddings, and the one that stands out for me as the weirdest, what were they thinking moment was in the late 90′s, I was a teenager and this couple consisted of a body builder and an NFL cheerleader…they elected to get married in a cow pasture in the high country, however failed to discuss cleaning up the cow patties left there by the Rancher’s stock which he had simply moved to a higher meadow for the day.

The stench was amazing, not only from what we were standing in…but from the cattle only a few hundred yards upwind of us.  During the ceremony you could hear them mooing and shuffling around AND then, one of the bridesmaids gets up to sing….A Whole New World…from Aladdin…yup, that happened.  It was unfortunate enough as it stood, but my father and I, who are adept musicians had to cringe through the whole thing when we found out she was also tone deaf….

So we get through to ceremony, become accustomed to the methane fumes we’re surrounded by and what happens?  We find out that the groom had elected to shave his ENTIRE body the night before and has to leave the reception NOW, because he’s too stubbly and itchy….seriously.

The reception kind of fell apart as the bride and itchy groom made an unceremonious exit and we stumbled out of that god forsaken pasture and to the nearest steak house…seemed a fitting end when you consider what we had to smell for the last three hours.

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Busy bee

Oh this brings back memories. My FI was a groomsmen in a friends wedding that he had known for more than 10 years. I’d known them for 2-3 years as we had been dating for that period of time. He had to sit at the head table for the wedding, which was totally fine.

I got sat at a table with people I had never met before who all had been besties throughout high school and hda a million things to talk about. I was a very socially shy person at that time and everyone was so cliquey they never even made an attempt to talk to my. I tried to join in the conversation but they were so busy catching up as good friends that my attempts were all ignored.

The worst part is that there were 4 other tables of people that I knew or was friends with and I also knew all of the other SOs of the bridal party, but for some reason I wasn’t sat with any of them.

It took more than 2 hours to get through the speeches and dinner sitting with a table of people that ignored me and to a point where it was appropriate for me to get up and mingle with other people. It was excruciating.

Maybe it’s selfish that I feel that way, but we are ranting about terrible experiences!

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Buzzing bee

@lanalnoco:  there was tons of yummy food but we could not eat until the bride and groom arrived and they took two hours because they took a gazillion photos.  All we could eat until they got there was a tablespoon of dry roasted peanuts in plastic swans on the tables.

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