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Alright Bees, yesterday was my first bridesmaid shopping trip. The girls and I really liked the Alfred Sung Dessy line. So I made an appt. at a shop that said they carried them. When we walked into the shop it was insanely crazy, just people everywhere. My consultant shows up, and I ask if they have the line of dresses we liked, and she's like "well we don't have a lot of those. Let me check and see if we if we carry it.'

In the mean time, I'm trying to keep tabs on my FMIL who is looking for the "After Christmas Sales" she was sure the bridal shop, and keeping my FI's cousin from picking mid thigh length dresses.

When she comes back she says they don't have it. I understand, they might be a new 2011 line or something, but they would still be order-able. I ask her if she has the color swatches so I could see if it the dresses were even in the right color, so I'm not holding out for a dress that won't even work. She wouldn't do it. I ask her if she has anything that would be similar to what we picked out. (Assuming she knows the racks and racks of dresses better than I do) She just says "Well feel free to look" And stands off on the side.

I was a little irritated with her for that comment and attitude, seeing as I had made an appointment and drove over 2 hrs just to come to their store, because I had been told they were the best. The combination of FMIL, the cousin, having to pick up a dress, and find it in a sea of dresses what completely overwhelming.

I asked to see another dress by another designer, which they did have. It looked great on my sister, but not so great on the cousin. The cousin decides she needs straps so she can wear a bra. (I'm not sure if she's ever hear of a strapless bra which works for almost any style but whatev.)

So we called a couple other stores to find out if they carried the dresses the girls really wanted to see, so we could salvage what was left of our day. As we were leaving the consultant was like "sorry we didn't have the one style you wanted."  I really wanted to tell her off, telling her how she couldn't even help me find that color, or find something similar, or tell me if they ever were going to carry that line (so we could come back when they did), and how completely unhelpful she was.

So FMIL wanted to go to Macy's to see if they had anything. My sister and I knew they wouldn't have anything, but I really didn't feel like shooting her down, so we went to look anyway. We didn't find anything.

Added to that, the cousin and FMIL had multiple conversations about how we should be looking at 2nd hand stores for things for our wedding and DIY on more things. They were even discussing how we should see if here were bm dresses from a 2nd hand store, but it would be too hard to find 3 and probably impossible because of the color I've chosen.

So this is where I stand as of today. I'm going to find a store that carries the swatch card for that group. I'm just picking a color, giving them a choice of dresses with straps, without and halters. I'm just going to go let them order the dress from whatever store they want. I really don't care at this point.  I just keep telling myself, well at least we were shopping early and not at the last minute and found all this out. 

Sorry this is so long, I just need to get it out.

My experience was similar - my girls are all from different regions (different states, even) and it was impossible to shop together. At first I told them just black, cocktail length, fun dresses... well, everyone has a different idea of fun! lol 

Eventually I just picked out one style online and told them to get it. And it worked out perfectly! It looks gorgeous on everyone, I love it (so much that I bought the white version for my reception dress) and I didn't have to stress anymore. :)