(Closed) Worst unsolicited advice you received when planning your wedding

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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763 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

When we got engaged, one family member took it upon herself to tell us stories about every amazing wedding she had ever been to.  “Did you know that they gave away GOLD BARS as guest favours?” (ok, I kid…but you get the idea).  After she listed off every amazing detail she could muster, I finally stopped her and said “well, we won’t be able to afford most of those things, but I hope you enjoy my wedding anyway”.   That shut her up! lol.

Post # 4
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1579 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

“Elope.” is the most common piece of advice I’ve been given. ):

Post # 6
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4695 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

“Don’t do it.”

Ugh.  This was a customer who came in to work, knows literally nothing about me, and told me I was making the biggest mistake of my life.  What a charmer.

Post # 8
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122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

When I was wedding planning with my ex (thank GOD that wedding never took place) the best advice was from his mom,

“They have dresses at the Goodwill over in Canton!  They’re real nice!  They got em’ right next to the mattresses!”

Really?  So I can try out my hubby on a mattress before getting into a dress?

HORRIBLE.

Post # 9
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40 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I think mostly just really basic things that people think are brilliant ideas they’ve had themselves, when it’s something that I’ve seen/read about 1000x (i.e. like needing to make a guest list before you talk to a caterer to get a head count….yes, I am aware that is how head counts get made.)

Post # 10
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46 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2014

You’re too young is the one I get.  I am almost 24.  Also, “Don’t you want to have a career first?”  Um… can’t I have both? 

Post # 11
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5983 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

We skipped all of this, got married before most people even knew we were engaged, it seems like once you jump through that hoop, people keep their mouths shut with the advice until you decide to have kids…which he already had, so I avoided all of that crap…sorry though, that would get annoying!

Post # 12
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4804 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

From my MIL…”Oh, I don’t know why you want to bother with those RSVP things, just forget about it, people will change their mind at the last minute and bring whoever they want.”

Post # 13
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937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I have been told about 4 times that I should do betta fish in fishbowls as centrepeices. All from different people. Where is this idea coming from!? Not only is it very cruel to the animals, but I hate fish!! And everyone knows that about me! 

Post # 14
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835 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

“Don’t do it”- I cringed everytime someone said that. Most people who say that are not happy in their marriage or have had a divorce. Sorry that happened to you but don’t tell me not to get married either. Couples who are happy in their marriage tell you congratulations.

Post # 15
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30 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2012

”Maybe you should go with ivory… cause… well… I mean, c’mon.”

Post # 16
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100 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

The worst advice I got was from people who were not paying but who wanted me to upgrade this thing or that thing. I didn’t really care about other advice (for example, suggestions on guest books didn’t bother me), but I did get upset with people who said things like “you HAVE to have filet mignon” but who were not paying. P.S. those were the same people who ended up being very vocal about what went wrong at the wedding. What’s the take home lesson? You will not please everyone

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