Weddingbee boards

About two years ago my now-fiance was invited to a wedding in San Francisco.  He called the groom to ask if he could bring me (we'd been dating for over a year).  The groom said "of course" and we RSVP'd for two, but it turned out to be a fairly small wedding (around 80 people) and I definitely got the feeling that the bride was annoyed at my presence.  I still feel bad about that, especially reading so many posts from brides who are so stressed out at all of the requests to add a +1!

I'm getting married in July and one of my friends cornered me the other day just to tell me she spent a ridculous amount of money on a dress that she plans to wear as a guest to our wedding.

When she bought it she realized it was white, but called my MOH to ask what color my wedding dress is. I'm wearing ivory and she said, "I'm wearing white to your wedding and you can't say anything to me because you're wearing ivory." Seriously1

I accidently brought a +1.  I was a BM and had a friend from out of town.  My other friend and I kept asking the Bride if we could bring our friend.  Her coordinator finally called my other friend and said to quit bugging the Bride about getting the extra invite.  We felt horrible.  We didn't realize how much the +1 thing stressed people out (I was only 18 at the time and had NO clue).  Eventually, our friend was able to come, but still.  I cringe at the memory.

I was 19, and I went to my boyfriend-at-the-time's cousin's wedding. It was the first non-family wedding I had attended. I wore a white shift dress with a small pink flower embroidered on it. I didn't know it was wrong until a few years later when my BFF was getting married and her FMIL was talking about wearing white to their wedding--MUCH bigger faux pas, iMHO!

At my grandmother's wake when I was 11, I was trying to stay upbeat. My method was to joke around with a cousin who I didn't see very often. He was probably around 24 at that point and had been with his girlfriend for a good 4 or 5 years. My idea of a "hilarious" joke was to keep asking him when he was going to marry his girlfriend already - in front of his girlfriend - off and on for a few days. I got really specific, too, like "Gee Sean, you're both done school, don't you think it's time now? Huh?" Like an 11 year old version of a grandmother. I'm sure they both thought that was just hilarious. I feel bad, but I was just a kid.

 The second thing - and I'm still not positive if I did commit a faux pas - was bringing my boyfriend (of about a year and a half at the time, and he had already met my extended family a few times, including the bride and groom) to my cousin's wedding. I had never had a wedding invitation addressed to me before so I threw out the envelope and put the RSVP card in a different place. When I got ready to RSVP, I realized I had no idea if my boyfriend was invited or not. I should have just asked my cousin, but instead I put his and my name down on the RSVP card. It must have been okay, because all of my other cousins brought their boyfriends and girlfriends, and my one cousin even brought a friend. But I still should have called my cousin to ask if it was okay to bring him.

Our invitations have ampersands in them - shame on us!  But we wanted to put my fiance's parents on the invitation, and they are divorced and both have really long names!  So we just had to do it.  Emily Post would be upset, but who cares!

A few years ago I went to my FI's (then boyfriend) cousin's wedding. We had been together for a couple of years, but I had never even met these people and I ended up going to both the ceremony and reception with him and his parents. I don't even remember how or why I ended up going, but I know I defiantly wasn't on the list. I'm pretty sure they didn't have a dinner, and I didn't even eat cake, but now that I'm trying to plan for a specific number I'm realizing how rude it was for me to just come. Makes you want to be a little more forgiving to your guests when they slip up since everyone's been there at one time or another :)