Post # 1
So all this talk about weird and random wedding gifts that people get has made me think back to the first weddings I went to sans parents and how many rules of etiquette I’ve broken over the years.
I have given some not so great gifts back in my early 20’s and I’ve even been the uninvited plue one in attendance.
FH and I once gave a couple a set of Champagne flutes that came from Avon and cost about $15…we were poor students at the time, but in hindsight, we probably could have done better….
Post # 2
really – no one else thinks they’ve given a bad gift?!
Post # 3
Actually, this past November DH was a gm and we got them a plastic thing that holds soda cans in the fridge and a dish soap dispenser. To be fair they were both on their registry, but I could have picked better stuff. I had to buy gifts for two other weddings at the same time and I was 8 months pregnant, so I really didn’t care.
Post # 4
I’ll fess up…
Yhe very first wedding I was invited to on my own, I brought a card with only $20 (I was a very poor student who traveled 2 hours to be there) and forgot the card in my room. Aaaaand then I just never sent it
Post # 5
This past November I was a bridesmaid in my friend’s wedding, but it was a DW and I was pretty maxed out money-wise come time for the wedding. It honestly slipped my mind until about 1am the morning of the wedding that I hadn’t gotten her anything and I kept “intending” to go when I got the city of the wedding. My FI headed out early the next morning, but all that was open was a Walmart and we were still really strapped for cash (srsly, it was an expensive wedding), so we grabbed a thing of $6 tupperware that was leftover from Black Friday and wrapped that up for her. I felt so embarrassed, but when we got home, we sent her and her husband a really nice Christmas gift.
Post # 6
MsGinkgo: This one makes me a bit embarrassed to think about. FI (before he was my FI) was a groomsman in his friend’s wedding. I was about 21, he was about 24, but neither of us had been to more than one/two weddings prior to it. FI had to pay about $200 for his tux rental, we had to pay another $150 for the hotel, then probably $50 in gas to get out to the country club it was at. I was still in college, we were BROKE…anyways, enough excuses. We bought them a couple small items off their registry (cooking spoons and a serving tray if I remember correctly) but we bought them at Target on sale and texted them to say “we got X and Y items elsewhere, if you want to take them off the registry so there aren’t duplicates” and then FI insisted we get them a “funny” gift. Which ended up being a cheap, crappy picture frame in which he put a “congrats on getting married” certificate. Apparently it contained some kind of inside joke between him and the groom…but I was a bit embarrassed about it.
Off the gift topic, I’m still a bit embarrassed about the only other wedding we had been to prior to this one. We got them a good gift, but we didn’t stay past the dinner. They’re really, really good friends of ours (we used to all live together) but we had just adopted a dog the weekend before and couldn’t leave him that long. It was about an hour and a half away from home, so we went to the ceremony, stayed for dinner and toasts, and about half an hour of dancing…and then left. I still feel bad about that one.
Post # 7
I’m glad I’m not the only one!
I’m pretty embarassed about those champagne glasses still…we were probably 22 and I think it was the first wedding FH and I ever went to. That was the same wedding that I was the uninvited plus one. I didn’t realize it until we got there and all his friends were there without their SOs and we realized that he shouldn’t have brought me – oooops!
Post # 8
A Lowe’s gift card. A close friend of mine from high school had “no boxed gifts” on her invitation, and I completely missed it. At the time, I had no idea how wedding gifts worked. Thankfully another friend clued me in during her reception, so I had to rush over to the nearest plaza to get her something that wasn’t a physical gift. I still cringe at the memory! Thankfully, she’s one of my BMs, so I have a chance to make it up to her with her BM gift.
Post # 9
When I was in college I was mostly only invited to weddings that my parents were also invited to. I always just added my name to their card and didn’t actually give them any money towards a gift… I cringe when I think about that now.
For the most part I think I have given decent gifts since I’ve started attending weddings on my own. Most of those weddings occurred after I had my wedding so I was a bit more knowledgeable I think.
Post # 10
MrsBeck: I did this too – I was invited to my step mom’s cousins wedding but really only as a babysitter for my half brother and they invited me to the actual wedding so I wasn’t sitting in a hotel room by myself or whatever. I don’t think I even brought them a card, in hindsight I feel pretty bad about it.
Post # 11
I wouldn’t say these are bad gifts, but now that I know how much weddings cost I feel like I should have done more.
I went to a friends wedding shortly after college. I was working a crappy part time job at the time and had to travel to attend, so I was pretty broke. I knew I couldn’t afford a great gift (and all the stuff left on their registry was really expensive) so I spent a ton of time trying to find creative ideas, came up with a gift basket that had a cookbook called like “Cooking for Two”, some wine, nice pasta, sauce, etc. All non perishable. I knew that the bride was not a great cook but was always trying to get better and cook him a nice meal so I figured it was a good theme. It cost in total around $40. I’m thinking now that would have been a good shower gift but maybe not right for the wedding. Like I know the thought was good, but it might have seemed cheap.
Post # 12
We bought these for friends of ours who got married last year:
It was a gag gift, of course. They had just bought a hot tub and we all made jokes about the best ways to hold a beer in the hot tub. The “real” gift was a nice decanter set with glasses.
Also, one time my FI brought a card to a friend’s wedding. It was a sympathy card that said “Sorry for your loss” or something like that. The husband thought it was hilarious, the wife…not so much.
Post # 13
I bought superhero stuff off a friends registry that I know the groom registered for behind the bride’s back. The bride was kind of a NSFW, so I didn’t feel too bad about getting something I knew the groom would like more than the bride. I still feel slightly bad about it, but I did get her the set of pink towles she wanted for her shower, so it all works out in the end.
Post # 14
I gave a coworker a Pepe Le Pew and Penelope Pussycat ornament. I had been at the company for 4 months and was actually surprised that she invited me. She loves Disney and for some reason when I was buying it I was like, this is perfect!! 😛
Post # 15
When I just graduated college and wasn’t making a lot of money, I got one of my college friends these weird bag things that were on her registry. I honestly don’t know what purpose they served – I just got them b/c they were one of the cheaper items left over. In addition to that, they were HUGE, and I stupidly brought them to the wedding reception itself instead of shipping htem. I’d say I was embarrased, but honestly this “friend” never stayed in contact with me when I moved so I don’t really care, lol. I did learn for future weddings though.
Around that same time, I had another wedding to go to. These friends already had a joint shower to which I brought a nice gift. I didn’t realize that you have to gift at weddings as well so I went empty-handed. Again, these friends didn’t stay in touch with me, and the wedding was considered a DW for me as I had to fly cross-country for it. Again, I learned.