Post # 1
well bees, my absence has a reason.
I just got out of the hospital for surgery. (my fiancee is making fun of my bee addiction right now but, anyway!) i went to the ER thurs night after i flew into pittsburgh to see my fiancee, apartment shop and get school stuff squared away for transferring. not even 3 hrs after i got in i had severe abdominal pain, which my fiancee made me go to the ER right away….well i fought it for a few hrs but he took me at 3 am. so for the next fifteen hrs i was screaming in pain as obgyn and general surgery played hot potato with me. general surgery thought it was a cyst on my ovary, obgyn thought it was my appendix. finally they did a blind emergency surgery and found a whole bunch of fun. I have endometriosis and they removed a cyst that enlarged my ovary twice its size, and they thought they would have to take my ovary. i was finally able to leave the hospital monday, and thats where all the problems start. first of all – looming med bills…second of all, i work at a furniture store, so im not allowed back by policy until i can lift at least 35 lbs, which isnt until 6 more weeks. i have a laon to pay off, which is hard to do wo income, which it looks like i wont be getting for another 2 months. im moving to pittsburgh on july 1st. my fiancee could lose his job for needing to take time off to take care of me. i cant fly on a plane back home until saturday, and now his job has a conf. call ab the situation today and hes officially on probation.
where’s the silver lining? oh…theres not cause im fucked.
Post # 3
maybe the silver lining is that you got to be with your fiance during this ordeal.
Post # 4
Wow, I’m so sorry. Is there anyone else in the area? Family, friends, who can help take care of you? Is there a way you can have everything you need nearby while he’s at work?
Post # 5
Ohhhhhh no. How terrible. I am so, so sorry to hear all of this is happening to you. How overwhelming. Is there any way FI’s employer can cut him some freaking slack considering the emergent nature of your situation, given the fact that you had surgery etc? As for the medical bills, I think those fall under the category of an acceptable debt- you just pay them off a little bit at a time for as long as it takes you. I could be wrong, but I’ve been told that by many people. As for your job, do you have any short-term disability benefits?
Again, I’m so sorry for all you’re going through. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Post # 6
Oh no! That’s awful. I’m so sorry you guys are going through so much. I can’t believe his office is being so horrible about his needing to take care of you! Is there going to be more time that he’ll need to take off? I’m sure you’re trying your hardest to schedule everything around his job, they must be such jerks.
Its hard to imagine now, but the silver lining is that you’re relatively OK. The surgery could of found some more detrimental stuff. I’m glad it wasn’t life threatening!
Do you have savings? Or can you apply for temporary disability? The lack of income is going to be tough, if you have bills that can’t wait. Your student loan company should allow you to file for forebearance. Other companies may be willing to work with you, given your hardship. Try calling them ASAP.
Post # 7
we’re currently at his family’s house and they are amazing to me. my parents are picking me up from the airport saturday, but what the hell am i to do ab money? i feel so lost.
Post # 8
oh i forgot the worst part…i may be infertile (the alternative is early menopause). and i cant shave my legs…ok enough of being a debbie downer.
Post # 9
What the hell? Why is he on probation at work? It’s called an emergency! Hello what was he supposed to do..let you fend for yourself! That is absurd! What is wrong with those people! I am glad to hear you are okay, and I know how stressful medical bills can be. Do you have insurance? If not talk to the hospital. They should be able to work something out with you to reduce your bill or put you on a low payment plan! The best news it that you are ok! Good luck sweetie!!!
Post # 10
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Oh No!! I’m so sorry! I agree with Jennifer_espos…look into temporary disability. It will help lift some of the stress from your shoulders. Or could you talk to your employer about just working a desk/counter/customer service part time for now? Hopefully they are understanding.
The good news is that you are okay, and I’m sure it’s very frightening to be unsure of the future, but it sounds like you have a great support system. Lean on your fam and your fiance during this time and you’ll get through it, I’m sure of it!
Post # 11
Could you maybe find a part time job that didn’t require the 45 lb minimum for the current 6 weeks? What about just working at the mall or something?
Just curious, why can’t you shave your legs? Whats that go to do with it?
Post # 12
Ugh this SUCKS. I’m really sorry about all this. Hope everything works out and (I know this doesn’t seem like much maybe) it’s nice that you had your FH by your side and that he’s ribbing you about weddingbee even through all the stress! You guys will make it through!
Post # 13
Oh man! That IS the worst weekend ever 🙁
I hope that you have a support network that can be there for you in this time. My sister ran into a few medical issues not that long ago and was forced to rely on her credit cards and family loans to get by for a few months. Maybe something like that is do-able for you?
And I would try not to think about your big up comming move in July, focusing on today is the most important thing you can do right now. And stress hurts the body… You should probably call your loan co. and explain your situation to them, offer to fax over medical reciepts or papers and beg and cry until they give you a 3 month extention. If you haggle them enough you can probably get at least something from them.
Post # 14
I’m glad you’re okay – for money, would your parents be able to help you out at all for the short term? Or at least pay for you to go to a salon so you can get your legs waxed? That seems to be the easiest fix on the list of awfulness you’re facing right now (BTW- totally mean that in a light-hearted, feel better kind of way)
Post # 15
lolol ok – the legs is cause i just had surgery on my abdomen and i cant bend over that well =/
also i looked into it and my boss was like calm down you’ll be on short term disability lol apparently i misunderstood a convo. she and i had earlier today =)
Post # 16
Wow I’m so sorry. I’m glad that you are on disability from your work so you don’t have to worry about that part. Do they know what caused the cyst on your ovary? I have had endometriosis and it sucks but they do have a treatment for it. If they put you on Lupron, you will probably only be on it for 6 months or so (it isn’t approved for long term usage). I wouldn’t worry about infertility until you talk to a doctor and be sure because not everyone is infertile who has endometriosis.