Would a methodical SO be a dealbreaker for you?

posted 2 weeks ago in Relationships
Post # 46
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252 posts
Helper bee

Um….my boyfriend would be an ex-boyfriend if he ever called me “porky.” Also, I highly doubt you instantly got “porky” over 5 goddamn pounds. I suggest you leave and get him his perfect little blow-up doll who will never gain weight and do him no wrong. That seems to be what he wants right now.

Post # 47
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35 posts
Newbee

misscake :  

YES, dealbreaker. And I can prove it. I got a divorce over it. My exhusband was EXACTLY like this. He had to be at work at 11am, but left the house to go to the gym at 5am. He was so rigid. Its why hes my exhusband. Mine was a good man but we were incompatible. I cant be with someone so inflexible. It was fine in the beginning but that inflexibility and rigidity spilled into other areas and overall made me see we were incompatible. And mine had me on such a pedestal and thought i was perfect, he never called me porky, I wouldnt stand for that kind of treatment, especially over 6 pounds, seriously, WTF, how could a guy even tell that little?

Theres nothing you can do, we went to therapy separately and individually, someone that rigid is almost incapable of change and doesn’t think theres anything wrong with them.

 

Post # 48
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70 posts
Worker bee

Ladies, there’s a big difference between telling someone they’re a bit porky and that they should eat healthier and keep with a healthy lifestyle and telling someone they are no longer attractive and need to lose weight or else you’ll break up with them. The former is not bad. Sure, I can imagine someone being taken aback by the comment, but I don’t think it’s mean. Losing 5-6 lbs is way easier than losing 20. 

About the different schedules, I think it’s healthy to have different interests. Now if you don’t have anything you enjoy doing together, that’s a different story and it’s likely that you two aren’t compatible. 

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