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personally i would want a new dress for a fresh start - at the very least i would modify the dress
Since you actually never wore it Id say its fine...as long as you are sure that you dont associate that dress with your past.
"That Man" (lol) was a very foolish moment on part and I should never had agreed to any of it. I barely knew him and just got caught up in the moment, but I remember thinking when I put it on, "I want to wear this to get married." It also cost me $1200. I don't associate it negatively at all because his leaving truly saved me from making a very large mistake.
Depends. Did you spend a lot of money on it? If not, maybe it wouldn't be a bad idea to get another one. However, if you did spend a lot of money on it, it was the dress of your dreams, i'd say wear it again. Economically, that would make more sense to me.
I just saw your last post. Maybe not everyone would agree, but $1200 is a lot of money to me. Not something that I could just "throw away". Keep it around. Who knows. By time you're in the same situation again, you might find a better dress that you just can't live without.
I think it's a lot of money too. It's a gorgeous dress and it fit beautifully. My BF doesn't know it exists, so I will probably wear it. It would save us a good bit of money and I love the way the dress makes me feel.
ohhh - if i was going to wear the dress again i would DEF tell the BF and see how he feels about it
i know my hubby, he would give me the $$$ to buy a new dress if i was in the same situation. your BF may be diffferent but i dont think wearing a wedding dress you bought to marry another man is something you should keep secret from your husband. its not a biggie but sometimes men can have funny egos about that sort of thing
If you still love it, if you think comparing it to other dresses would make you think that *this* is the dress, then it's still the dress! I vote that you wear it :)
If you still love it, then you should def wear it. I agree you should tell your man about the dress' history though before you make a final decision. My fiance wouldn't mind -- he's very practical and would want me to wear what makes me happy! Also, think about a belt or broach or flower that you can add to the dress to make it different and make it new again.
I would wear it! There's nothing wrong with the dress & well, I'm cheap. I couldn't justify buying a new gown when this one is basically untouched. It shouldn't remind you of the other man- its just what you wanted to wear on your wedding day! The groom may have changed, but the gown doesn't have to :)
I would want a new dress! New man, new dress!
It sounds like YOU want to wear it, and feel comfortable with wearing it, so that's what you should do! :)
I know you love the dress, but it really wouldnt be a good idea to keep it because it will only remind you of the man you were with. You dont want to enter a new life with a new man, and an old dress from your past. Not good...
I think I would wear it. As long as the dress didn't have too many memories of "the other guy" associated with it, I'd definitely be alright with wearing it again!
I would wear it. If you don't feel sentimental about why you got that particular dress, then who cares? Go for it!
Totally up to you! As long as there are no associations with your past (and be honest with yourself on that), and to you, it is truly just a beautiful, perfect dress, I don't see why not. Enjoy your dream dress. :)
hmmm ... if you had a sentimental attachment to it, you would have likely sold it by now. It is YOUR dress and you haven't actually been married in it - i say wear it.
I would try it on again and see how I felt in it. If I was reminded of the ugly past then I'd quickly rid myself of the dress and its attached reminders. If I put it on and was super excited about marrying the current guy then I would consider keeping it.
My friend had a nasty breakup a month before her wedding w EX FI.. She LOVED her dress, and a year later she wore it with new FI.
I would wear it under two conditions a) You love it! b) There is no negativity around it.
Please, let your FI know at the very least... I wouldn't want my man to be dressed in something he picked out when he was deciding to get married to someone else, and he may not either. You need to be that honest with him. Sell it if he's not okay with it, but if he isokay with it, then double yay! Savings and finding out your man is a secure and practical guy!
I do think I will talk to him about it when the time comes. I don't think he will be bothered. I think he will sense how much I love the dress and want me to be happy. The relationship with the other guy was very nontraditional and very short, so the dress has no connections with him for me.
Thats so supportive of him! By all means go ahead and wear that dress then, only you and him will know the history... as long as you feel beautiful in it thats all that matters.
And in meantime, what dress is it? Any pics?
I say wear it! It's not like you wore it down the aisle or anything. Save money where ya can. If you love it, then it would be silly not to wear it.
if you don't have negative feelings about the old guy associated with the dress, then wear it. think of it this way-old guy helped you find your perfect dress and you bought it back then, so when you wear it to get married in the future, well....a big part of the shopping and budget is already taken care of.
if you decide that the occasion needs a new dress but still love that style, you could possibly see if anyone is selling the same dress online -previously worn or maybe a sample. and then sell your dress. you'd probably lose money, but you get to wear the dress you love but still get to wear a new dress. here's a link to one being sold online:
http://www.preownedweddingdresses.com/dresses/9312/Oleg-Cassini-CT258-Size-10.html
I was engaged once before, but the guy left me the week before the wedding. Would I wear it when I married FI? No. I got a new one, and got rid of the old one as soon as I could.
As long as you don't associate that dress with that guy then I think you are fine. I mean it is your dress and if you still love it, in my opinion that is all that matters. Something similar happen to my sister and she is so madly in love with her dress that she will wear it again but she doesnt think of her ex when she thinks of that dress. She just sees its beauty and the thought of how she looks and feels in it. I would definitely go for it!!!
wear it! he is history and i think it's great that you have moved on and are able to separate the dress with it's former attachment to him!
If you dont think the dress brings back memories of the guy. Then, wear it and makes new memroies. Good Luck
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Hi. A few years ago, I was proposed to by a man who then disappeared, after I had bought the dress. I absolutely love the dress and plan to wear it in my wedding (should the occasion arise). Would anyone else do that?