- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2012
So I just need to vent a little and maybe get a little advice. Fiance and I had just recently talked about how we might include our parents in the processional. Both of our fathers are remarried, however our mothers are not currently married or in long term relationships. I will be having both of my parents walk me down the aisle. This is very important to me and there will be no exception. So this is what we came up with, starting with who would be walking down the aisle first.
FIs mom and FIs dad
FIs stepmom and my stepmom
My father, mother and myself
I left it up to Fiance to choose who he wants his father to walk with and he originally picked his mother. I thought it was kind of nice to have both of his parents walking first, considering they are the ones that raised him (and because I will also be walking together with both of my parents). I also thought it was a nice to have both the step mothers walk together (kind of like a common interest type of thing I guess). Well anyways, Fiance happened to mention this option to his stepmother today and she started CRYING because she is not walking down the aisle with his father.
I feel like I should also explain that when his father and stepmother got married, they went to florida with a few people (NOT including FI) to get married but insists on me inviting HER (not his father’s) best friends of 20 years because “its the right thing to do” even though they have not contributed anything to the wedding (we have enough money between ourselves and my parents so its not a big issue. But they have never offered).I can’t help but think…well then why didn’t you invite them to your wedding?
Also, this is the woman who excused me out of a family photo at FI’s cousin’s wedding (which I stood up in as a bridesmaid) because she only wanted “family” even though me and Fiance had been dating 6 years at that point in time. She eventually apologized for this but only 2 years later once she realized I was planning a wedding. I know it is off topic but it hurt my feelings considering my parents have NEVER done this and they have photos all over their house of me AND Fiance. But, I realize this is not tit for tat and please don’t feel like we made the decision we did just to “get even” or anything. I just really feel like the more important people to us should walk down first, together, how we would like it.
Anyways, Fiance is now reconsidering his decision which is fine because it is up to him. But I feel bad that he has to reconsider just because this lady wants to cry about this situation, which to me really isn’t a huge deal. I was just wondering though, if we end up sticking with our original plan…..would I be a jerk?!
No wondering why I am having so much trouble with wording for my invitations lol