Post # 1
We can go on about wedding etiquette all day.. Invite married couples and bf/gfs. Yes of course Im going to do that. However, the venue Im picking is an all inclusive pkg deal for 50 guests and w/ all that plus children included I got approx. 70 people on my list. Even when I do a list A and list B, on my A list I got 57 and on my B list there’s only 3 sets of couples I want to invite, not including their kids of course. I thought about all children or none at all but members in our wedding party have kids that they ALWAYS bring with them everywhere they go but they are middle school and up kids )plus they are my future nieces and nephews that I dont get to see too often). I was thinking would I be out of line telling my guests that children under 5 cannot come? Im not trying to piss anyone off but Im just torn on what to do. If I have a no children wedding, Im afraid not that many guests will show, including members of the wedding party. If I have adults and all children, Im going to have to pay $600 more just for the 20 extra people.
Post # 3
@lindseyl06: what kind of venue do you have?
i had a coworker that had an adults reception. it was an inn and she had the whole house.
she had a room off to the side with a hired babysitter (family friend) and all the kids were entertained in there–movies, games, etc. this way she didnt have to worry about cost when factoring them in per head. she just fed them chicken nuggets and borrowed games & movies. maybe you can have someone host a kids party somewhere on or off site. i think most people are just worried about paying for a babysitter. i know i wouldnt personally be offended by an adults only reception… but you know your social circle best.
Post # 4
I think it would be difficult to get away with “no kids under 5” but perfectly acceptable to say no children allowed. Do you really think members of your *bridal party* wouldn’t show up over this? It seems that if they are close enough to you stand beside you at the ceremony, they should be able to leave the kids with a sitter if that is your decision.
I really don’t think this is unreasonable, as I have heard of many weddings not inviting children.