Post # 1
Would it annoy you if someone used their bf’s last name as their last name on social media? And/or if they called their bf hubby or husband? I just feel like this person is making such a huge symbolic thing a joke.
Post # 3
I think it’s a little weird but it wouldn’t annoy me.
Post # 4
Nope. What they do is their business. Marriage isn’t threatened by one person taking it lightly.
Post # 5
@Lepidoptera: nah, who cares 🙂
Post # 6
@Lepidoptera: If you get annoyed by every stupid choice on social media or life… youre going to spend your life annoyed!
Dont do it! It gives you wrinkles.
Post # 7
In my state, the moment you do that, you are common law married. Opposed to popular belief, there is no time limit at least not here. You just have to present yourself as man and wife.
I think I would be more annoyed as her BF if they weren’t married. I would probably also think of her as a crazie person, but mostly roll my eyes.
Post # 8
I’d probably think they’re an idiot but I don’t think I’d lose any sleep over it.
Post # 9
Nope. If I was the boyfriend and I didn’t agree, I’d be annoyed. But some random person – who cares? I’m not using my husband’s name after marriage, so who am I to judge if someone wants to go by their boyfriend’s name before marriage?
Post # 10
@Lepidoptera: I haven’t seen anyone older than 17 do that. My little cousin constantly calls her bf “hubby” on instagram but I just think it’s a silly/immature thing to do.
Post # 11
My dad’s fiance does this. She just looks childish. They have posted that they are engaged like 5 times in two years on Facebook. Idk if they broke up and got back together or just want attention because I don’t talk to them really. Again, people who make their last name their boyfriend’s on social media look childish, but I don’t lose sleep over it.
Post # 12
It doesn’t bother me. Chances are, I wouldn’t even notice. I know some bf/gf couples who have stronger relationships than married couples. I don’t pay much attention to statuses.
Post # 13
@Lepidoptera: I have two friends who do this and it annoys the heck out of me. When they first did it I almost deleted them off of facebook because I hadn’t the slightest who’s names they were.
One friend in particular really makes me grind my teeth for this reason. Whenever she changes boyfriends she takes on their last name not only on facebook but for any social reasons. She’ll change her nametag at work to have their last initial instead of hers, she’ll request we refer to her by their last name, she’ll change any account names she can to that name… and then she also calls them all “hubby” – as in “The hubby and I are out going grocery shopping today”. Which used to prompt some people to speak up and ask when she got married which then makes it awkward.
I would certainly be more cool about it if they were at least common law or engaged but to me it feels like they are making a joke out of the things other people take seriously and have importance.
PS. FI once called me his wife through social media and I had to get him to change it to at least fiancee. When people seel those terms flying out there they assume we got married and it bothers me to no end.
Post # 14
I just think it’s weird and childish. I think I would be tempted to make a big post on their wall “oh my goodness you got MARRIED!?!?!? I had Noooooo idea!!!! Congratulations! When was the wedding!?! Post some pictures, stat!” 😉
Post # 15
@Lepidoptera: IF it were a cousin or close GF I cared about…then I’d be like ‘Why are you being a crazy lady!!! IN PUBLIC?! Pump the brakes and turn it down…NO OFF’
Otherwise, no, what people do is their business.
Post # 16
It’s annoying and childish. And possibly going to scare the guy off. But that’s their problem, not mine.
I started answering to people calling me Mrs. MarriedLastName long before we were married because of people at the tire store or the dog groomer assuming we were. It was easier than explaining that we weren’t yet. I didn’t go out of my way to use his last name, though, and certainly never changed the name on any accounts or at work until after the wedding.