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    accorn    June 9, 2012   Texas/Louisiana

    They would be silver shoes of their choice pretty much (flats or heels but not informal). If they already own silver shoes they can wear those...but I kind of doubt they own silver shoes.  I know one has already told me she only owns black shoes.

    I feel a little guilty asking them to buy something else.

    Their dresses were 40 dollars.

     
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    MissBoPeep       New England

    The last wedding I was in we were told we had to buy sparkley gold pumps, which I wasn't totally thrilled about because I'll never wear them again.  I ended up finding a pair for $15 so it wasn't a big deal in the end, and she also let us pick our own dresses which saved some money for me as well. Long story short, I think it would be ok to ask them to wear silver shoes!

     
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    abbie017    March 16, 2013  

    No, I don't think so at all, especially when the dresses were so inexpensive.  I told all my BMs that they're going to have to get the same color shoes, but I don't really care about the style, whether or not they have heels, or what.  But I do want the color to be all the same. 

    Plus, silver shoes are easy to find cheap and can be reworn again to sparkle up boring outfits!

     
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    Legallyblondiebride    June 2012  

    It's kind of expected when you accept a BM role that you will be buying your attire. I think your BM's will manage just fine....shoes don't have to be that pricey. They will live.

     
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    Sassygrn    June 4, 2011   Minnesota

    I say it is okay! Long as they can pick a style and are comfy in that shoe it is good. I did that for my wedding. I just told my girls they could pick any style in one of the 3 colors we did for the wedding.

     
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    I think it is pretty much accepted that the bridemaids will need to buy shoes.

     
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    Brielle    May 22, 2009  

    I asked my bridesmaids to purchase silver sandals for my wedding. They were able to buy whatever silver sandals they wanted, as long as the shoes had some sort of heel, and did not make a "slapping" sound when the person wearing them walked down the aisle.

     
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    MrsNerdy    April 14, 2012   Austin wedding, live in Houston, TX

    actually all my bridesmaids were asking if they needed to be looking for champagne shoes to match their dresses (I didn't want them to, too matchy matchy for my taste), so I think they won't be too surprised.  Plus you're allowing them to look anywhere, including clearance and sales at TJMaxx or whereever!

     
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    KeeKalena    September 22, 2012   Mississauga, Ontario

    I had to find silver sandals for my friend's wedding this past July. We didn't mind buying especially cuz it was so much fun to look for them! Our dresses were $160, custom made.

    Good thing is, I'm gonna ask them to re-use their silver sandals for MY wedding!

    I don't think it's bad to ask them to purchase shoes. I mean, their dresses were for a very good price already. I'm sure there are some sales that they could take advantage of!

     
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    MsPanda    August 17, 2013   Oregon

    http://www.shiekhshoes.com has shoes for really cheap you can search by color and size and find GREAT deals! They have them for as low as $10

     
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    SapphireSun    July 9, 2010   Vancouver, BC

    No, I pretty much expect to have to buy new shoes as a bridesmaid.  If I don't it's a bonus, but I would never be annoyed about it.

     
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    CupCakeMeg    December 18, 2011   Orange County, CA

    I asked my girls to wear red heels! =) Didnt seem to be a problem, they seemed happy to and thought it was a cute idea too!

     
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    WestieGirl    August 18, 2012   DC/MD/VA

    They're so many places to get great deals on shoes! DSW, Off Broadway, TJ Maxx, Marshalls plus various online sites.  I don't think it's too big of a deal.  I told my MOH she can wear the shoes she wore to her sister's wedding since they were gold or silver.  Doesn't really matter to me plus I gave her the BM dress.

     
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    misskoala    July 23, 2011   married in Georgia/living in Portland, OR

    I think it would be okay, esp. since the dresses are cheap and you aren't giving them a specific, expensive shoe to buy. I mean, they could go to payless and get something cute for a good price right now.

     
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    adnama    July 21, 2012   Langley, Britsh Columbia

    Usually  I would say no way, but since the dresses were so cheap I'd think it's acceptable

     
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    Alleycat    June 2, 2012   Chicago, IL

    Not a problem at all! It's a good rule of thumb not to require them to buy or pay for too much. But the dresses were relatively inexpensive. And it's not unreasonable to just ask them to wear silver--then they can find whichever silver shoes they want, might even find some on clearance!

     
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    Aure    October 6, 2012   Las Vegas

    No, I think you're fine. You told them they could wear ones they had, they don't have to buy them if they own a pair and the dresses weren't expensive at all.

     
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    MademoiselleL    August 24, 2012   Vancouver, BC (wedding in Maui)

    I think bm's usually buy their own shoes.  And since their dresses were only $40, I don't think they should mind :)

     
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    linguo42    February 27, 2011   Vancouver, B.C.

    Wow, those dresses were a steal! I think it's totally reasonable to ask them to find some silver shoes of their choosing.

     

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