Would it be that terrible if we only had 1 child?

posted 2 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
1055 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Loft

FoxyBride14:  I think you really opened yourself up for varied opinions on this one. Also judging by how you are phrasing the question, I feel like YOU think it might be bad to only have one child. Ultimately it’s your decision, but yes, I do think having one child is unfair to the child.

* waiting over here for the flaming*

Post # 3
1500 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

I think having more than one child when the parents only want one is unfair to the parents.

Post # 4
5259 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013


FoxyBride14:  I plan on having one child only.. if any. I dont see anything wrong with it like peopld saying “oh the kid will be lonley” thats what friends are for!!

Post # 6
83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2000

I have one sibling, and I don’t even speak to her. There is no guarantee your kids will grow up being each other’s best friends.

Plus, one child is much more affordable. 

Plan for what you want as a parent.

I want two…maybe three…but if I only wanted one..I would just have one. 

If I could afford it, I would have ten! But, it isn’t in the budget lol 

Post # 7
3520 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I actually agree with missjz. Being an only child kind of sucks. I spent a lot of time as a child playing alone in my room, it would have been nice to have someone else to play with or at least be around. And I think my lack of interaction probably contributed to my shyness. I obviously had other family and my parents, but nobody around my age to relate to at home. 

Obviously you have to do what is right for you. If you feel like you can’t handle or afford more than one child, then you should not have more than one.

Post # 10
2580 posts
Sugar bee

Absolutly not I believe you should have as many/or as little children as you want. Never should anyone have children that they don’t want 150%



Post # 11
194 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I have a son and my husbands 2 brothers have kids the same age as our boy…we all live fairly close. But we only see them on holidays it seems. I have a friend who’s daughter is the same age as our son and sadly we see her more than our nephews. We makes plans to do things all the time and they always get canceled. So for us it doesn’t matter having family around. 

Post # 12
5259 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013


FoxyBride14:  My husband is an only child and he turned out fine. He didnt mind it at all cause his parents put him in alot of activities and he had lots of friends

Post # 13
1745 posts
Bumble bee

Its not unfair. I was an only child and wanted it that way. 

I think it is a silly concept that it isn’t fair to the children. The fewer you have the more devoted attention you can give!

Post # 14
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

privatequestions:  I agree with you, I have one sibling and we’re not very close any more. There are no guarantees.

I agree with other PPs that you should have as many children as you want, but no more, because (personal experience) it is probably the worst thing ever to hear, “Well, we wanted one kid, but then we had you also.” Especially if the parents (even accidentally) play favorites. 

Post # 15
5815 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

FoxyBride14:  I am an only child who didn’t live close to family. I love being an only child!! I was also shy, but I grew out of it. (I think you can have 10 siblings and still be shy) When I was young I played with neighborhood kids. I also played by myself a lot and it made me more imaginative. I can entertain myself in any situation. I didn’t have siblings torturing me. I dont have to fight over my parents estate when they die. 

Having siblings, there is no guarentee that you will get along. I hear just as many stories of siblings not getting along as I do siblings that do get along. 

Do not have another child just because you think you “should”. If you knew your kids would never get along, would you still want another child?

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