Post # 1
I’m not pregnant yet, but we do plan on trying in about 6 months if so. I know that I want 1 child, but I’m not sure if I want any more than that. My husband and I always said that we would want at most 2 kids, and I for sure don’t want more than 2 – but the more I think about it, the more I only want 1. maybe ill change my mind once I have the 1, but I don’t know.
does anyone here have 1 child and is completely happy with their decision?
sorry in advance for any typos/grammar mistakes. I’m on my iPad.
Post # 2
- Wedding: December 2014 - Loft
FoxyBride14: I think you really opened yourself up for varied opinions on this one. Also judging by how you are phrasing the question, I feel like YOU think it might be bad to only have one child. Ultimately it’s your decision, but yes, I do think having one child is unfair to the child.
* waiting over here for the flaming*
Post # 3
- Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016
I think having more than one child when the parents only want one is unfair to the parents.
Post # 4
FoxyBride14: I plan on having one child only.. if any. I dont see anything wrong with it like peopld saying “oh the kid will be lonley” thats what friends are for!!
Post # 5
missjz: I actually don’t think that it’s bad. Just some people have said that it’s selfish. But I can see that it has positives and negatives, for the child as well as parents.
Post # 6
I have one sibling, and I don’t even speak to her. There is no guarantee your kids will grow up being each other’s best friends.
Plus, one child is much more affordable.
Plan for what you want as a parent.
I want two…maybe three…but if I only wanted one..I would just have one.
If I could afford it, I would have ten! But, it isn’t in the budget lol
Post # 7
I actually agree with missjz. Being an only child kind of sucks. I spent a lot of time as a child playing alone in my room, it would have been nice to have someone else to play with or at least be around. And I think my lack of interaction probably contributed to my shyness. I obviously had other family and my parents, but nobody around my age to relate to at home.
Obviously you have to do what is right for you. If you feel like you can’t handle or afford more than one child, then you should not have more than one.
Post # 8
sweetchiquita12: yes! Or cousins? My brother and FSIL will probably live close & are both teachers as well so we talked about going on vacations together with our future children.
Post # 9
privatequestions: I’m more undecided. I for sure want one, maybe want 2, definitely do not want 3. I guess it’s just a matter of seeing how we handle the first and just going from there.
Post # 10
Absolutly not I believe you should have as many/or as little children as you want. Never should anyone have children that they don’t want 150%
Post # 11
I have a son and my husbands 2 brothers have kids the same age as our boy…we all live fairly close. But we only see them on holidays it seems. I have a friend who’s daughter is the same age as our son and sadly we see her more than our nephews. We makes plans to do things all the time and they always get canceled. So for us it doesn’t matter having family around.
Post # 12
FoxyBride14: My husband is an only child and he turned out fine. He didnt mind it at all cause his parents put him in alot of activities and he had lots of friends
Post # 13
Its not unfair. I was an only child and wanted it that way.
I think it is a silly concept that it isn’t fair to the children. The fewer you have the more devoted attention you can give!
Post # 14
privatequestions: I agree with you, I have one sibling and we’re not very close any more. There are no guarantees.
I agree with other PPs that you should have as many children as you want, but no more, because (personal experience) it is probably the worst thing ever to hear, “Well, we wanted one kid, but then we had you also.” Especially if the parents (even accidentally) play favorites.
Post # 15
FoxyBride14: I am an only child who didn’t live close to family. I love being an only child!! I was also shy, but I grew out of it. (I think you can have 10 siblings and still be shy) When I was young I played with neighborhood kids. I also played by myself a lot and it made me more imaginative. I can entertain myself in any situation. I didn’t have siblings torturing me. I dont have to fight over my parents estate when they die.
Having siblings, there is no guarentee that you will get along. I hear just as many stories of siblings not getting along as I do siblings that do get along.
Do not have another child just because you think you “should”. If you knew your kids would never get along, would you still want another child?