Post # 1
- Wedding: August 2012 - W Hotel Silicon Valley
My venue charges a $1,000.00 fee if outside food/drinks are brought into the reception room. I am mostly concerned about alcohol (especially since the drinks at the venue are not cheap and we are not hosting the bar). Would it be weird to make this known to our guests?
I am thinking I could put it on our wedding website, but I am pretty sure everyone has looked at it already and I am not sure that they will take a second look. I do have a Facebook group for wedding guests with general information about room blocks, etc. but am unsure if this will come off as weird/rude?
Is there a nice way of saying “don’t bring your bottle of Jack to our reception” ??
Post # 3
I think it would be weird to bring outside drinks of any kind to a wedding! (Am I the only one?!)
If there are certain groups of friends who you’re worried about doing this, heck yeah mention that you’ll be fined.
Post # 4
Is this something people might do? I never knew I had the option to sneak in my own drinks. If you think people might then I would post it on the website and group. Let it be known through the grapevine.
Post # 5
So if your venue catches someone pouring their own drinks they will fine you. Just wanted to make sure i understand that correctly.
I’m not really sure how you could make that known. Maybe try your website and word of mouth. I have to admit I’m totally guilty of doing that at weddings, including one this past weekend. If I know it will be a full cash bar I bring a mickey in my purse and just get club soda at the bar.
Post # 6
Why would your guests bring liquor???
Post # 7
@moniquaa: I wasn’t aware that people would do this. Like seriously? I get if it’s a backyard BBQ or something but people actually have to audacity to bring a mickey to a catered reception????
I wouldn’t mention it unless someone asks you.
Post # 8
I don’t know why anyone would do that. I think saying something would just bring attention to the expensive drinks and possibly plant the idea in someones mind (“oh if drinks are pricey, maybe I will bring a flask”)….if someone does, I doubt you (or the venue) would find out, they can’t charge you $1000 because one guest brought something, I’m sure they would simply inform them of the policy.
Post # 9
I’m confused. I didn’t think most people brought actual bottles of alcohol to a wedding. I have never seen this done before – nor even heard of this. I thought you meant that perhaps you were having the wedding at a hotel and the hotel itself has a bar apart from the one that would be at your reception and the hotel frowns upon guests bringing drinks from the hotel bar into the reception room or something. I don’t think you really need to worry about people bringing their own bottles unless I’m missing something and this is done all the time.
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2012 - W Hotel Silicon Valley
Okay, at least it seems like the majority of you think it’s strange to bring your own alcohol to a wedding!! I would never, but I could just see one of our friends thinking, “oh, drinks are expensive, I’ll just run up to my room and grab that bottle of _____”
One Bee above even said she’s guilty of bringing her own drinks, so I am nervous!
The contract specifically states“A fee of $1000 will be added to the final bill, if outside food or beverage is brought into the reception room.“
My mom happened to be at the hotel while they were hosting a high school reunion last weekend and one of the employees said that people had brought their own alcohol because there were empty bottles under the tables, so they would be getting charged for it. I’m just horrified at the thought of a “SURPRISE! You owe us $1,000 because one of your friends was taking swigs from a bottle under the table”
Post # 11
I think if people were to bring it, they would do it secretly anyway and probably wouldnt get caught. They arent going to know the price of drinks till they get there so they wont know ahead of time to bring their flask to save money. If you do get someone bringing something, as I said, they will likely keep it quiet anyway.
A highschool event with no drinking is very different then a wedding with a cash bar.
I would not mention it at all.
Post # 12
I’ve definitely watched people shotgunning beers from the trunk of someone’s car at a wedding with a cash bar. I don’t think you can stop people from doing it if you’re not having a hosted bar. I would just hope my friends didn’t get caught.
Post # 13
Hmmm… I’ve done this before and I know to be sneaky about it. I’ve gone to the bathroom to fill up my cup. I would think people would know this as a rule to not be blatant… Maybe you could have your MC or DJ just make a quick reminder announcement at the beginning of cocktail hour (so people will for sure hide it!).
I agree with the PP who said don’t mention it beforehand and plant the idea. If people know drinks aren’t free, they’ll bring their own – that’s why I’ve done it. Catered bars charge ridiculous prices if it’s a cash bar.
Post # 14
agh thats tough. if the bar wasnt hosted i would almost DEFINITELY bring a flask. perhaps yu can let your younger friends know by word of mouth if you suspect they might do this? but honestly, thats a slightly ridiculous policy. first of all, the venue is expecting you to control your guests behavior which i understand in the case of one of them punching a venue staff member or something…but if someone sneaks a flask to avoid paying for their drinks? no one is getting hurt there, right?
maybe talk to the venue & see if they can negotiate that down.
or maybe have them give the guest one “warning” before fining you? & if that happens, have the coordinator make sure to explain to the guest that YOU will be fined?