Would it be weird to message someone you dont know asking to buy their dress?

posted 3 years ago in Dress
  • poll: what should I do?
    message her...it can't hurt to ask : (89 votes)
    82 %
    buy the same original dress and alter myself : (14 votes)
    13 %
    keep looking for other similar dresses : (6 votes)
    6 %
    other (comment...) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    3360 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    A little creepy, but nothing ventured nothing gained! The worst she could say is ‘no’!

    Post # 4
    2355 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I wouldn’t do it.

    Post # 6
    2535 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I Even if she says no  you can ask her about it at least 

    Post # 7
    3249 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @arg1202:  The worst thing she can do is say no/ignore you.

    Post # 8
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I would be flattered if someone offered to buy my dress because they thought it was so insanely gorgeous! Do it!

    Post # 9
    27 posts
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I would! Who cares, she doesnt know you. I bet you will be regretfull if you didnt

    Post # 10
    498 posts
    Helper bee

    @Duncan:  Ditto. It can’t hurt to ask. Even if she says no, I’m sure she’ll be flattered and you’ll make her night.


    I probably wouldn’t mention pinterest though, just say you saw the photographers page and fell in love with her dress. 

    Post # 11
    1662 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @arg1202:  Message her! Maybe she’s thinking about selling it but not really bothering to do anything about it. If the picture was me, I’d totally sell you the dress. My dress isn’t up for sale at the moment, but if someone offered me some money for it I would probably go for it.

    Just say you stumbled across the pictures, you think her dress is amazing and would she be interested in selling it at some point?

    Post # 12
    8518 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    *raises hand* I’ve actually done it, though it was on here, not facebook. The only thing though is that since its on facebook and (I’m assuming) you dont have any connections to her, you’ll either have to pay to send her a message to her main messages, or it’ll it be sent to the “others” box and theres no guarantee she’ll see it.


    Post # 13
    6958 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @arg1202:  Ditto what @CoCoCourtney said…. message her but don’t mention Pinterest. Yeah…. everything is out there and I have actually found a bride the same exact way, but she might feel weird about you tracking her down that way. It’s not a lie to say you saw the dress on her photographer’s site because you DID. 

    Post # 14
    1400 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @arg1202:  I say go for it, the worst that can happen is a total stranger thinks you’re a creep 😛

    But if she say no or doesn’t reply, you should look into having it custom made! That could be much cheaper than buying new and altering it the same way.

    Post # 15
    2562 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @allyfally:  ohmygosh. I had no clue about the “others messages” on my fb. I just checked actually have stuff in there people have sent me and I never knew about. Wow….and seriously, we have to pay to send people (that we arent friends with) messages now? When did all this happen…

    Post # 16
    357 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Just so you know, on Facebook, unless you pay, when you send a message to a person you arent friends with, it goes to their “Other” box and they may never see it.

    What I might recommend is emailing the photographer and asking if she can put you in touch, or comment on the picture the bride is tagged in and ask her to contact you if she is interested in selling it.

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