Post # 1
Ok ladies, so would it be crazy to throw myself a bridal shower? I just moved to a new city and state last year. Most of my female guest and all of my female friends are not here in our new city but I am slowing making friends. I am having a shower back home in Atlanta next month but would I be selfish to try and organize a shower in my new city? I have a few girlfriends and co workers here and it would be nice for everyone to get together to meet and hang out, nothing big. Maybe just invite a handful of ladies over to the house and just have a good time. I figure since this is my new home state it could be nice to do but would this be weird? I don’t want to look crazy or anything because I am throwing it myself and I am still getting to know most of these woman. Now the ladies I am considering inviting would also get an invite to the wedding and bachorlette party so it may be nice for everyone to kind of meet.
Post # 3
It’s a no for me. There is no polite way to host your own shower. If you want to do something fun with these new friends, why not just invite them over for brunch, lunch, drinks etc?
Post # 4
I think it sounds great to get your new friends together, but I personally am uncomfortable with someone throwing their own shower because gifts are so central to showers. Why not just have them over for a nice get together that isn’t wedding related?
Post # 5
My answer is : HECK yes. Why not? Its totally normal for brides ( Where I come from ) To throw thier own briday shower parties. If you feel uncomfy that you dont know them and all, then no need to ” expect” gifts from them! You guys can have a nice party, have a nice cake and enjoy your day.
Post # 6
I agree. If you want to invite them all out just for a fun get-together, it doesn’t need to be your bridal shower. I really don’t see how you can throw yourself a bridal shower without it being weird.
Post # 7
@AlliRae: yes, this exactly! get everyone together is fun. but call it a girl’s night in or something, not a shower.
Post # 8
I woudlnt be comfortable and we moved to a new province about 10 months ago. I think organizing a brunch or something is a great idea but an actual shower is not.
Post # 9
Thanks ladies. I was thinking kind of the same. I may just invite the ladies over for apps and drinks but one of the ladies at my church asked if I was having a shower. I really wasn’t expecting gifts but I personally wouldn’t go to anyones home empty handed. I will at least bring a bottle of wine but thats just me.
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
Throw a party to get some friends together. Don’t throw a party to celebrate yourself.
Post # 11
If you’re just wanting people to meet then I agree with the other PP who said have brunch or meet for drinks.
Post # 12
Complicated situation – but I’m doing it too. Originally I’m from upstate and have no family here in the city besides Fiance family (whom I am close to) and my good friends. So to not have a bridal shower would 1. be strange to some of the people I am close with but not family and 2. would make me sad like I’m missing out on sharing this with the people I see regularly.
My situation was that none of my friends were financially capable of stepping up and arranging the event. I booked and paid for everything myself. I don’t think it’s strange at all – it’s not about gifts, it’s about celebrating and recognizing your upcoming wedding with all the women in your life.
Spin it as a party if you’re worried about people thinking it’s weird to host your own bridal shower.
At the end of the day the question is… Would you possibly feel sad or regret it if you didn’t have a bridal shower in your current “home town” with people you’re close with?
Post # 13
no to throwing your own shower. you can tell the church lady that your shower is being hosted in another city. she will probably get you a gift without attending a shower. for your other group of friends, you can just invite them over for brunch or dinner.
Post # 14
Do it! I don’t get this whole “don’t celebrate yourself” way of thinking. Call it a shower because you’re celebrating wedding, but if youre feeling REALLY weird about gifts just tell them not to bring any. You dont have to stick to some ridgid outline of what makes a wedding shower. Invite them over, throw back some drinks, celebrate your upcoming nuptials and slap the title of “wedding shower” on it. It’s really just. That. Easy.
Post # 15
Sorry, I agree that you can’t throw your own shower. What about throwing an engagement party instead (before anyone asks, the difference is that gifts aren’t expected)? That way you can get everyone together, and you don’t have to feel like you’re asking for gifts.
Better yet, just throw a non-wedding related get together 🙂
Post # 16
@MOADD: Wow, thanks for the post. I don’t want to miss out on my new friends in ABQ because this is my new home and most of they may be invited to the wedding. I am not paying much attention to gifts but it would be nice to get everyone together to celebrate my happiness and newest journey in life. Thanks so much for your post.