Would it bother you if your SO didn't wear their wedding ring?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Would it bother you?
    Yes : (254 votes)
    72 %
    No : (78 votes)
    22 %
    Other... Because every good poll has an "other" : (21 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    258 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @linnylou_88:  I put yes but should clarify that it would only bother me because I was adamant that DH not have a ring because I don’t really like male rings and because I was sure he’d find it annoying and not wear it. And he bought one anyway, with good money! So yes, it would bother me that he ignored my advice and wasted our money!

    (So far, he wears the ring…!)

    Post # 4
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    354 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    If my husband didn’t want to wear his wedding ring, yeah that would bother me a little. Unless he has a VERY good reason for not wanting to wear it (like for example taking it off when he goes swimming so he doesnt lose it) or if his occupation absolutely makes wearing it impossible, then I’d be pissed about it.

    I don’t know too many women out there who don’t want to wear their rings; so I just feel out of respect to their partner married men should always wear it too. The “I dont wear jewellery” doesnt seem like a valid excuse.

    Post # 5
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    3077 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    One of my coworkers’ husband doesn’t wear his band so she doesn’t either. I mean, good compromise but that would bug me.

    Post # 6
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    790 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    My FI will not be wearing his ring at work; he’s a utility worker and doesn’t want to bang up his ring or ruin it.  It bothered me at first but than I realized, whether he has a ring or not, he’s mine and we both know it.  

    Post # 7
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    3097 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

    Yes but I want him to look “taken” >:) . Though I know he takes it off at work since he works with his hands, but aside from that it stays on 🙂 . Though I guess he likes jewelry (beaded bracelets, necklaces, and he said hed wear.one of my rhr lol).

    Post # 8
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    1822 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

    If he didn’t want to wear it EVER, I think I would be hurt a little bit. As it is, he already takes it off and sets it in front of his monitor while at work – along with his right hand ring and glasses. I’m fine with that!

    Post # 9
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    1261 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    yes, it does bother me.  I take pride in my wedding band/e-ring and love the fact that I married my best friend….I NEVER take my wedding ring off.  I bought my dh a new wedding band this past year and he never wears it…maybe he will put it on for church, but that’s it.  Now, my dh works from home…so it’s not like he’s going out where he could be getting hit on etc…but I would still love to see him wear his ring all the time. If he had a job were it would be dangerous to wear his ring, I would understand.  He doesn’t though…so yeah…I feel bad he doesn’t wear it.

     

     

     

    Post # 10
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    8917 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    It would bother me if he didn’t even TRY to get used to it.  He doesn’t ever wear jewelry and works with his hands a lot (nurse, drummer, DIYer, etc), so we weren’t sure if it would be too weird.

    He hasn’t taken it off since our wedding and we both really like to see it on his hand 🙂

    But if he had tried for a month and hated it, it wouldn’t bother me.

    Post # 11
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    3618 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @linnylou_88:  Unless for work or general safety then yes, it would bother me. 

    Post # 12
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    4395 posts
    Honey bee

    Couldn’t care less.

    Post # 13
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    8708 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    My husband typically doesn’t. He only wears it when we go out socially, if he remembers.

    Doesn’t bother me.

    Edit: It’s a work related reason.

    Post # 14
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    900 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    We get married next month and when we got engaged 9 months ago it came up and he asked if it would bother me if he didn’t wear one.  I said yes.  But now that time has gone by….I really don’t think I care.  He’s getting one but if he decided he didn’t like wearing it I would be ok with it.

    For some reason I just changed my mind.  It went from being important to me to not.

    Post # 15
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    1261 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @FleeSircus:  that’s funny because for me it was the opposite!! When we first got married I honestly could have cared less if he wore a ring or not…I knew we were married, that’s all I cared about. Now for some reason I really feel bad that he doesn’t wear his….maybe because mine is so important to me…not sure.

    Post # 16
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    900 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @megan331979:  That’s a good point.  If your ring is a powerful symbol of love (that’s how I view it) then you want his to be the same. 

    I don’t know.  I don’t think it’s wrong for a woman to be upset by it.  Rings are a powerful and meaningful tradition that a lot of people value.

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