Post # 1
Mr. S and I are still a couple years away from being ready to have kids, but we’ve discussed them and our ideal is to have two and adopt two. We haven’t discussed how we will adopt, be it from a private adoption, agency, or foster care. If anyone has experience, I’d love to hear your story!
I have several friends who were adopted, one friend who gave her baby up for an (open) adoption, and one friend who adopted a child. I know there are many paths to take, and would love to hear more about them. We want to adopt but I know that, with me being a SAHM in the future, there is no way we could spend tens of thousands of dollars on the process. I’m interested in what path you chose, costs, how long it took, how your experience was, and whether your employer offered adoption assistance (mine offers some financial assistance as well as a maternity leave) or if you got an adoption loan? I know some of these questions are very personal, so please just tell me what you are comfortable with!
Post # 3
My husband and I have not adopted ourselves, but my husband is adopted- it’s such a beautiful, wonderful thing.
My in-laws got my husband through a closed adoption from an agency, and he was adopted before he was even born. They never met his mother- the agency handled all the screening. They said going through an agency was a bit more expensive and time-intensive than when they had adopted his older sister. (Think several thousand dollars and lots of time spent in the screening process writing papers and doing interviews.) They’ll tell you every day it was worth it all.
My husband does not know who his biological parents are, though he is free to request information about them at any time. He hardly ever even thinks about the fact that he’s adopted right now, but I have a feeling that when we have kids of our own, he may want to meet his own biological parents.
Whatever path you choose, I think you’ll find it incredibly rewarding. <3
Post # 4
@rachelmichelle: Thanks for sharing! Everyone I know has had pretty positive experiences with adoption and it’s something that we really want to do, but haven’t decided which route to go just yet. I have a friend who was adopted, too, and had the information on his birth mother available, but never had the desire to find out. His birth mother ended up finding him and contacting him on facebook and it’s been a pretty weird and emotional experience for him since he wasn’t the one who initiated contact. I know he has struggled to figure out how involved he wants to allow her to be in his life now.
Also, bump if there is anyone else who has any input!
Post # 5
Hubs and I are in the process of adoption right now. We are using a reputable agency that helps the birth mothers in the process so it’s really great. Our home study will begin soon. I used to think we wouldn’t be able to afford it but honestly we make very basic incomes but have just chosen to be really careful with our $ and prioritize.
Our agency is neat because you pay as you go through each of the adoption steps. When all is said and done it will cost us $16,000 plus some fees here and there. We are doing a domestic infant adoption btw. It sounds like a lot of money (and it is) but it’s not as bad when you break it up. After the homestudy we will be able to apply for grants. There is also a tax credit you can use.