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Hey, I know it sucks, but if it is still before the final reply by date. . .you can't let yourself stress about it. A lot of people think that the reply by date is like a postmark date. So even after it passes, wait a couple of days to see if anymore trickle in before you start calling people. Try not to stress about it, I know before I was a bride, I didn't realize how important it was to send back the reply by cards. :/
Thanks guys! I know it's before the due date, but I'm just getting so antsy with things and fighting with a vendor who sold me the floating candle vases I bought off of ebay. Right now, I just cannot wait until the reception, and the honeymoon! London here we come! :)
I completely understand, it makes me crazy too! There's a response card and a stamped envelope, how hard is it to mail back? One of my cousins sent me a text about offering to help with the wedding and I asked if she'd sent her response card and she said "well, no but you know I'm coming right?" Well, no, I don't know you're coming because you haven't sent the damn card back! Gah!
I was very, very surprised by the reply cards that never came in. What a waste of a stamp, right -- you'd hope they at least peel it off and use it for something else. I think it happens to all of us. Hopefully a few more will roll in by your date!
I can't agree more. We couldn't make it easier & yet unless we go to their house, check off the box & put it in the mail for them, it most likely wont get done. It's so frustrating but just remember the end result of you having a beautiful wedding is all that matters.
I treat response cards like time bombs - I get them in the mail almost the second I receive one. By the time you get the wedding invitation you've already decided if you are going or even booked a hotel, etc. so what's the problem??
Well ... your wedding isn't until the first week of November! You still have plenty of time. What is your rsvp date?
My wedding is October 24th .. very end of October ... and I just sent out our invites yesterday. The reply by date is October 3rd.
We set the RSVP date at September 18th, only because with the economy as bad as it is and a lot of people are struggling, if we didn't have enough people (we have to pay for 150 regardless of whether or not we have 150), we would need a second date just in case we had to resort to a "B" list. So, We have another 25 with a date in October. We already have about 6 'no's', so I don't think I was being too paranoid with getting the other response cards made with the October date. I know that there are a lot of people just struggling to pay their bills, let alone go to a wedding, so the earlier date at least gives them a bit of time to save money up, if necessary.
@sparkle, I totally agree with you! When I get an invitation to a party, let alone a wedding, I at least try to respond with a 'maybe' (if it was sent on evite.com), and then as the date gets closer, I'll send a definitive yes or no. But if it is a wedding, I will definitely send the response the next day. That way, I don't have to worry about forgetting it and sending it late.
The only time I didn't go to someone's wedding was a former co-worker who was having a very small reception. However, my mother died a few days before her wedding. When I called her to let her know that I wasn't going to be able to make it for obvious reasons, her reponse was, "well, ya gotta do what ya gotta do". Excuse me? My mother died! It wasn't like I wasn't attending because I didn't get a manicure or something!
i know exactly how you are feeling. our rsvp's were due last week, and we are still waiting for about 60 responses!
@L breezy: OH NO! I'm so sorry to hear that! Are you going to start calling them soon or just wait awhile longer?
oh poop i always feel guilty about this. since both myself and FH work in law enforcement and are technically always on call unless we have dedicated leave, its hard to RSVP definately on anything. Usually if its something we know is coming up we put in paperwork to get the leave but often dont find out until MUCH later whether or not its approved. so i appologize for all the late senders out there - since im a culprit - but its for a good reason! i dont want to RSVP for something and then find out i have to work that day and cant get it off.
I understand where your coming from. I have a feeling my family will completely disregard the response cards but in the guests defense, I have a hard time mailing things back. I live in an apartment so I can't just stick something in the mailbox and be done. I also have a 1 yr old daughter who fights putting clothes on so it takes FOREVER to leave the house and makes me not even want to go anywhere unless I absolutely have to.
I know it's frustrating though...just wait awhile before you call. Most people don't know how inconsiderate they're being and how they're messing up the flow.
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I understand that some people are procrastinators, and I usually am, except for when it comes to responses to weddings. I pretty much send mine out the next day if I can help it. However, we've gotten about 15 responses back and it's driving me crazy. I inevitably get the people who have said, 'oh I haven't gotten around to sending it back to you yet'. Why exactly is that? We provided the response cards with stamps just for this reason. Unless you're living in the arctic somewhere where there are no mailboxes for the next 300 miles, there's no excuse! I'm getting nervous with seeing who is and isn't coming and if we have to resort to a "B" list for lack of a better term. Is anyone else going through this dilemma? I spent A LOT of money on the stamps to avoid having people saying that they didn't have a stamp, they couldn't get to the post office, etc. Don't get me wrong, they still have time, but don't people understand that we're so stressed out as it is that the stress of not knowing who's coming just makes it that much more difficult? Sorry, I just had to vent over this!