Post # 1
My fiance and I are planning a destination wedding in Bermuda for just the two of us. He says he wants to pull out all the stops and go first class for everything since we aren’t having a reception and things to pay for like catering, a dj and whatnot. Our actual wedding will probably cost $2-$3k and will include everything we need to get married (the resort will take care of legal fees, flowers, minister, etc.) instead of $20-$30k it would cost if we went a more traditional route, except my dress and his tuxedo. We actually bought a Ralph Lauren tuxedo for him (got a great score on a Macy’s holiday sale! Yay!). So I have a question for the bees here: I don’t have a dress yet, so should I go for an all-out designer one or buy a less expensive one? What would you do? My thinking was since no one will actually be there to ooh and aah over the dress in person, why waste the money on a designer gown, but I am concerned that it won’t look as good in pictures, and I want good pictures. Or, would you go ahead and splurge on the dress since you wouldn’t have to pay for other wedding-related expenses? I’m not counting the trip to actually go and stay in Bermuda, because it’s actually saving money because our wedding is also our honeymoon!
So what would you go for if you were me? Splurge or save?
Post # 3
@PinkSandBride: I’ve never seen a wedding pic posted that I thought “man that dress looks cheap”. I can’t see spending upwards of 1-2k on a dress but that’s me. Go try some on, see what appeals to you, but even if you end up buying a $400 dress from David’s you’re going to look amazing in your pics, no worries
Post # 4
@PinkSandBride: I think I would keep my options open & try all dresses at all price points.
I agree that to buy a very expensive designer dress seems a little odd since only your FI will see it in person, but I don’t think you should limit yourself on price because you never know what you will find & fall in love with.
I thought I wanted something with a lot of lace & detail, & I ended up getting a very simple dress & even had the train taken off since I didn’t want the hassle.
I don’t think you’ll know how much you are willing to spend until you try some dresses on & get a feel for what you love.
Post # 5
@PinkSandBride: My husband and I eloped, and I still purchased a Paloma Blanca wedding gown. It retailed for $3k, but I only paid $1152 for the sample so that was a huge deciding factor.
This is still your wedding day. If you find a designer gown that makes you feel like a princess and you KNOW that is what you want for your wedding day, go for it! If you find a less expensive gown that you love just as much, then do that! My point is, don’t sacrifice how happy you are with your gown just because you two are eloping. I’ve seen so many girls do that and it just breaks my heart!
It’s still your wedding, and you still deserve to feel like a Bride. Have an amazing wedding! I hope you come back and share photos with us. I’m sure it will be GORGEOUS!
Post # 6
The bride is what makes the dress, not the price tag.
Post # 7
I’d just look at the dresses you like and go from there. If it turns out to be 1k perfect! However since you won’t have the expenses of a traditional wedding if you like a dress that is worht a bit more and you feel that it is important to you than do so.
Post # 8
@PinkSandBride: many times u r paying for the name not the quality. Pretty much if ur in the 1k slot the dress is usually good quality (nt including sample sales). Sometimes the difference cn b in the crystals (Austrian vs Swarovski) or the material ( blended tulle vs silk tulle). It really depends on what your looking for. Just enjoy the dress shopping. Its a fun experience dnt get caught up in price
Post # 9
I’d suggest that you several bridal stores and try on dresses without regard to price just to see how they feel to you. I found the dresses closer to 3,000 felt better to me – the materials were quite different, but my main consideration was my very sensitive skin. You will know the dress you feel the most beautiful in!! And congratulations!! Your plans sound wonderful!!!!!!!
Post # 10
I think it depends on the type of dress and fabric you are looking for. There are some very pretty dresses that are less expensive, but some of the shiney polyester fabric dresses can look really cheap.
Post # 11
If it’s really important that you have a designer dress and would feel let down otherwise, I would spend the money. I personally am getting a Jasmine’s dress from China even though I’ll be wearing my dress three different times (elopement ceremony, City Hall ceremony and a brief appearance at our celebration party). I just want a dress that will look nice in pictures so a very very expensive dress didn’t matter to me. It’s all about what is important to you.
Post # 12
It’s what you feel the best in! it will be your big day! I would try on all types of dresses. It does not matter if it is a 500 davids bridal or a 5000 pnina you will look beautiful!
Post # 13
Find a dress you love. Just because it is expensive, doesn’t mean it’s beautiful. There are lots of unflattering expensive wedding dresses out there.
I would look for something suitable for a tropical wedding.
Post # 14
For wedding dresses in particular, a budget dress is often really obvious, and maybe I’m too sensitive to fabric quality and workmanship, but I can just tell.
So if you can afford it, and the dress looks great, I would say go for it!
Post # 15
@PinkSandBride: I spent 4k on a custom designer dress, and it started to come apart at the seams, before my ceremony even started! I had o change after my first dance becuase i as terrified the dress was just going to,fall apart!
So I would err on the side of caution when putting out the money for a really expensive dress! Two of my friends paid 400 and under for their dresses, and not only did they look amazing, but their dresses maEe it through their whole wedding 😉
Post # 16
If price isn’t the most relevant factor for you, then don’t let it be. If you find something thats $500 and you’re inlove, you’ll be stuning. Or if you come across a $3000 dress and it won’t break the bank and you can’t live without it, do it. I know mine was only $900 and I am INLOVE. And I think that’s all that matters.