(Closed) Would REALLY LOVE TO REGISTER without my FI!!!

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Earlybride: we did it all together. Just let him know that you usually get a discount at the end of the registry and that you can then buy it for yourselves. We registerd for a $2k bed just to get the discount at the end. LOL

Post # 4
1426 posts
Bumble bee

I was mostly in charge of the registering. The only part Fiance was involved in was before-hand we made up a list of what we needed and would like, and he was very adamant about two things – utensils and a spatula. Otherwise, he let me take the reins. He wasn’t even there when I registered.. went with my Mum, actually. We had a helluva good time zapping! 

Fiance wasn’t too keen on registering and showers at the beginning either, but once we started talking about what we needed, he gave in and is glad we registered – especially since at the places we registered, we get 10% off all items on our registry (at any sale price) ’til Dec ’12 (a year after our wedding date)

Post # 5
5498 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I went with Darling Husband once…he was the same way and he started to whine part way through. Talk about annoying! The second store I went with a friend and had so much more fun!

Post # 6
18645 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I registered on my own.  We only registered for a few things and my husband didn’t care.

Post # 8
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Haven’t registered yet, but will most likely end up going by myself (FI works long hours). Nothing wrong with that.

You should register for a few big ticket items and smaller stuff. That way if a group of friends/family wants to go in together to get you a more expensive item they can, or people can just get individual things in their price range. I know I usually prefer to be part of a group so we can get something bigger that the recipient will use more often.

Re: the Dyson. They are expensive but great! You will be amazed how much nicer than a regular vacuum.

Post # 10
699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Rumour has it that the best place to acquire a Dyson is at Costco in the US.


We went together, finally both agreed on a china pattern, easily both agreed on wine glasses, and “settled” on a silverware pattern.  That was virtually all we registered for.  Online, I also made a registry with small kitchen stuff that I wouldn’t mind and don’t already have.  SO doesn’t really want us to get anything off of that one, because we don’t really have space for it, and constantly alleges that I already own every kitchen gadget known to human kind (100% false ;-))

Post # 11
68 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Registering with Fiance was a pain in the ass.  That said, a woman who worked at C&B was very helpful.  She told us that we should look at what we own and figure out what we need/want to replace instead of view it all as crap on top of the crap we are trying to combine to begin with.  That was very helpful, as was her advice that even if we dont want people to give us things/feel like we are pressuring them to, they are going to give us stuff.  So it might as well be something that we want!!  Those two pieces of advice made all of the difference.

Post # 12
3049 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

We went to Target together and had a lot of fun. But you’re right… he had objections to a few things and I had to explain to him that money didn’t matter. If people didn’t want to buy it for us, they wouldn’t. It was only on a few items though. He started to get the hang of it. We registered at Sears for man stuff and he like refused to register for anything. I was so confused! So I asked him if I could register at Macy’s without him. It went more smoothly, but when gifts started coming in he was like, “That’s yours, I didn’t register for that!”

If I left it up to him to make decisions, we wouldn’t have the things we needed for the kitchen and house in general. He knows that now, but he’s still a little bitter. Oh well 🙂 The good thing is, with all of our gift cards we were able to buy him some stuff that he wanted. And he didn’t feel guilty at all!

Post # 13
5892 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I created the bulk of the registry online (BBB) with kitchen items that I wanted and had researched. He added a few items online (Amazon) that he wanted. Then we went to the store together for items that would be shared and we needed to agree on like dishes, silverware, glasses, shower curtain, bed spread, etc.

Post # 14
235 posts
Helper bee

I registered on my own too, Fiance added 2 things to it online when I got home.  No issues, easy peasy!

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