(Closed) Would the wedding process be any different…???

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
6598 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

The next time I see my mom I am going to give her a huge hug on her behalf!

I am really sorry for your loss!!!!

Post # 4
873 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Hugs to you!  I’m in the same situation, but with my father.  He died very suddenly 2 1/2 years ago.  Since I live in another country, he never got to meet my Fiance in person.  The wedding is going to be a very emotional time for my mother and I.  My dad never missed a ballet recital, a graduation, a riding lesson…and now he’s going to be missing one of the most important days of his daughter’s life.  It breaks my heart that my Fiance and my dad never got to meet each other.  I feel like a large part of my background and who I am died with my father, and that part of my life is something my Fiance can never really have access to 🙁  I am lucky that my mother has a large role in helping me to plan the wedding, but we both know everything would be much different if my dad was here.  We actually can’t even talk about what kind of reference we want to make to dad in the ceremony.  Every time we try to talk about it, we end up crying…so I’m not exactly sure how we will approach that subject when we get closer to the date….

Post # 5
314 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m so sorry that you can’t share this time in your life with your mom. I haven’t lost a parent in the same way you have, but I was raised by a single mom who is back in the States (as are all my bridesmaids) while I’ve been living abroad for the past 4 years. Aside from sharing with them via email, I’m going through the planning process on my own and can relate to how it is less than ideal. I can say that connecting to others on Weddingbee has helped me in the process because there is a community of brides here who become your family/friends for the duration — and the bonus is they don’t get sick of all your wedding talk!

Post # 6
898 posts
Busy bee

I’m sorry for your loss, and I’m sure it would be a lot different if she were here. My mother isn’t very involved at this point, but I’m going to give her a big hug whether she likes it or not!!!

Post # 7
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

awww, hugs to you! My mom wasn’t overly involved in my wedding process. She did stuff here and there, but nothing to the extent that I hear about from my friends and online.

Post # 8
3587 posts
Sugar bee

I’m not planning yet, waiting for him to ask, but I will hug my mom. I doubt she will help me since she said she’ll just watch and listen and not be “that” kind of mom.lol

I’m sure it would be different if she were here with you. I think everyone who has ever lost a parent, always thinks when there is something going on, good or bad, that if they were here, things would be different, and they would be. I lost my dad 6yrs ago. I try not to think about him missing that day. I know it will be quite emotional for me and my sweetheart (he lost his parents also.)

Just remember,she is still watching you and probably thinking what a great guy you chose to marry!


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