Post # 1
I dunno maybe I just had a long day. We are doing a demo on our bathroom so having to shower at FIL house for about 7 days. FI tells FMIL that we went for a tasting today and what we picked for the menus. She is usually very sweet I honestly love her. But tonight Her mouth dropped and she said geez guys I can’t imagine how much all of this is going to cost you. Mind you we are inviting 38 people and our wedding is under 10,000 including cake, limo, dress, food, alcohol, venue, officiant, attire etc. Then she starts saying well how come you guys didn’t do what we did? Something simple? I said “this is what we wanted and it’s worth it to us”.
No one is paying for this wedding not one dime but FI and I. I start to feel very awkward when people do this to me.
OMG really? i am just so annoyed. Would this bother you? I will be over it in a few but I am just really annoyed right now.
Post # 3
@jessyrez: I really think it’s just that generation. When we got married, my parents said they’d pay for the whole wedding…and gave us $3k 😀 I didn’t bother mentioning the average wedding cost is upwards of 20k. My MIL said we shouldn’t have a wedding reception because she and DH’s dad only had an ice cream and cake reception in the church basement and it was still too exhausting to “do the deed” afterwards…like seriously?? Why the heck are you telling me that? Anyway, we just chose to laugh it off and think of how crazy our daughter will think we are someday when we try to give her wedding advice! Good luck and have the wedding you want with no guilt– like you said, it’s what you and your FI have chosen to value and invest in!
Post # 4
Opinions are like assholes — everyone has got one. She’s just got an opinion that differs from yours. I’d just let it roll.
Post # 5
YES. My MIL did this with all the stuff my parents paid for, “I would have never paid that much for a dress.” “Wow, well I’m sure all those flowers will cost a bundle!” “You know, your FIL and I just went to the courthouse with our parents.”
Of course, this would be immediately be followed by a conversation where she would try to tack onto our guest list because every person she’s ever met NEEDED to be there. And never saw the irony in that.