Post # 1
I posted my wedding vows a couple of weeks ago to get feedback, they were very personal and it took me awhile to write them. I had a couple of sources that I got ideas from, but for the most part I used my own words and thoughts. I just read a recent update from a reader who just got married and they are almost word for word what mine are, errrrrrrrrr.
In hindsight, I probably shouldn’t have posted them until after the wedding, I don’t know what I was thinking, but it annoys me a bit, I think because they were sooo personal for me.
Maybe I should be flattered and this aggravation that I have is just hightened by the fact that I am stressed and ready to cry at everything.
Thanks for listening hive!
Post # 3
Awe that sucks – I am sorry!
But at least your vows are still really personal you wrote them so even though someone else plagiarized it doesn’t take away how special they are to you!
Post # 4
I think as long as it isn’t someone you know personally you should be flattered
Post # 5
As a non-creative person, I have to say that you could take it either way. There are some things I still have left to do without a clue how to do it, and I would definitely copy something from here. However, those were vows, so I see where your apprehension is understandable.
Future Mrs. Martin is totally right. They are still your vows – no matter what happens. They mean everything to you because you personally wrote them. Don’t let anyone steal that joy from you.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
Yeah, unfortunately, if you didn’t want anyone to use your vows, probably shouldnt’ve posted them…Oh well, too late now so I would just try and be flattered that your words were so well-written that someone else wanted to use them…
Post # 7
I’m sorry that someone took your creative property. It’s for this reason i’m not sharing my vows with anyone who wasn’t at the wedding or is a very close friend. But no one had a chance to use them before us—we wrote them about a week before the wedding!
Actually an acquaintance of mine that attended my wedding ceremony asked me a couple months after the wedding if she could use my vows as hers. Because DH and I wrote them for eachother from our hearts–it just seemed to personal and ‘us” to share with other couples. (in my opinion) It didn’t really bother DH at all! But i was totally flattered that she liked them so much!
I echo Mrs Martin is saying that your vows are still your own. You should probably look on the bright side at how inspiring you were to another member! And no one at yoru wedding will have heard them before, so it will be special to them!
Post # 8
I f i didn’t know the person, and they weren’t attending my wedding, I don’t think I’d care too much. Maybe you chould go into business writing people’s vows 🙂
Post # 9
Aw, that does suck a lot. I guess maybe you shouldn’t of posted them but I read them when you did and I loved it. I thought it was great that you shared that personal part with the hive. I would of done the same because its a special thing and you want to share. I guess the good thing is that she’s not someone you know, so you don’t have mutual guests. I’d be annoyed a little but then I’d realize it meant the vows were that nice and you provided inspiration to someone who needed a little help. But a lil acknowledgment might of been nice, a private message or something.
Post # 10
I would be flattered! I just went and read your vows and I like them too.. but don’t worry, we aren’t doing our own vows so I won’t steal it!! But I would be flattered if I wrote vows and someone else liked them so much and felt so touched by them that they themselves used them!
Post # 11
I would be annoyed… although I get annoyed when I have what I think is a genuine idea and see other people do it! LOL! But this is a true case of a copycat so you are within your right to be annoyed!
Post # 12
I’d be annoyed. They say immitation is the sincerest form of flattery, but I never bought that. She ripped you off. I’d be extremely upset too.
Post # 13
Thats a little strange- but I agree with an above comment, if you don’t know them personally I wouldn’t lose sleep over it.
Post # 14
It’s pretty fabulous that someone thinks that you are talented enough to adequately describe all the emotions that go into love and marriage. Poets have been attempting to do just that for centuries, and apparently a reader thought your words were special enough to recite where other brides use Shakespeare and the such. You should be flattered…
That being said…. I may not take my own advice and play so nice 🙂
Post # 15
Imho it’s flattering yet a bit creepy.
vows are personal. A reflection of you and your Fi and your special and unique relationship.
While we’ll do very traditional ones with but only a slight twist, that’s OUR twist..not somebody else’s.
I’m sorry that happened to you. Look at it this way. Somebody thought you were THAT amazingly talented that they stole your words to make their wedding day happy.
True..but still somewhere way down it is a bit..teeny teeny bit creepy to me.
Since I blog, I will now be more careful than ever with unique style touches and won’t let the whole cat outta the bag with regards to the ideas I have. Some yes…but not all! I remember after I married my ex husband (had huge wedding and I pretty much designed the whole thing), my cousins both married the next year and had to have “certain” things in their weddings too, down to using my ceremony song choices. Seriously! Same songs were used for their processional (all were from my fave broadway plays at the time). A little obvious.
Post # 16
I agree with @bellenga! It is a little flattering and a lot creepy. Try not to take it too hard and know that they were still personal and true to YOU. Whoever stole them didn’t get the same truth and effect out of them that you did.