Would this be a bad idea? Long, need advice!

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I had kids when I was in school and as long as you are good about time management, and you have your finances down, it’s easily do-able. Some people used to tell me “I don’t see how you can do it” but you do it because you have to, you know?

Just based on the things you said it might be best to try to start TTC August 2014. You’d have three months off to be with the baby and going to school is hard, but its not the same as working 40 hours a week hard. It’s just different set of skills and management. There’s just as much work its usually just bits and pieces here and there.

My concern would be if you had a baby when you were graduating, you put off getting a job and you’d be less likely to get one at a later time (though I don’t know what your degree is in). If they don’t know about your baby then there may be an impression that no one would hire you or who knows what – and some people are reluctant to hire new mums as they may need more time off etc.

So not knowing you or your situation, that would be my suggestion> 🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would try this summer! And if it doesn’t happen, it doesn’t happen. But I had CRAZY baby fever. And if you can afford the baby and handle it when it arrives, I say go for it!

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Depending wher eyou wanted to work with Speech Pathology it may be more do-able. If you were in a school, for example, you would be fine, as you’d have the summer off anyway.

I know no one is supposed to discriminate against pregnant or new mums but you are old enough to know that things like that happen all the time.

I had my two oldest when I was young and stupid and finished school while I was single. Now I’m finishing my Masters too (I graduate in May!) so I took some time off, but I’m glad I’m doing it.

Yes as long as you can multi-task it should be fine.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@MrsN14:  I’m an SLP too! Its a great job for moms, very flexible! I can tell you that when I was in grad school several women had babies and they made it through. Our teachers were willing to work with them if needed. I didn’t meet my husband until I was in grad school so we married and had our daughter after so I can’t offer any advice there. Right now I’m mostly a SAHM but do see private clients on the side. I was planning to go back to my previous job (part time though not full time until my kids are in school full time) and now I’m pregnant with #2 so I’m going to stick with my private clients, stay current on continuing ed and ASHA requirements and go back in about 18 months. Good luck with whatever you decide!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

@MrsN14:  Not an SLP here, but I have a friend who is one, and I agree with you that school will probably be a bit less stressful than when you are working to have a newborn at home especially since you have help from your mother right now. My friend said that she has to learn a lot of things on the job, and she is pretty drained at the end of the day. Obviously school was hard, but she is having a harder time of working in the field right now than she was with keeping up with the studying.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@MrsN14:  I’m not a mom but have been trying for a while. I’m also sure I’m WAY older than you so this is just my advice. School is important…it is what YOU do to make yourself better! 

However, there is NO real great, ideal time to have a baby. There will always be something you “think” is more important…more trips, nicer house, new car, money in the bank. 

I 100% think that having a child while in school can be done. My mom did it with 2 kids and while in her mid-30s. It was just that important to her. As long as it’s important to you, you will find a way! 

 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@MrsN14:  I see you’re in Illinois and I’m in New York so I’m not sure how different the programs are but I can tell you it wasn’t that bad. Everyone makes a HUGE deal ab how hard grad school is. It was difficult for sure but certainly not impossible. My program was a 2 year program and the first year we did clinic on site at school and only had a couple of clients plus I had class everyday. We needed to keep a 3.5 to stay in the program so a lot of study time also. My second year was harder because of full time internships. My first semester I had a child placement so I went to a school M-Th 8-3:30 to shadow the SLP then then eventually take over so that included lesson planning, grading, progress reports etc. Then I had class 3 night a week I think for around 3 hours. I think that would have been a tough semester if I had a baby. I got so many hours during my child placement that I didn’t need as many in my adult placement the following semester so I did 3 days a week at a hospital and still had class 3 nights a week. How old are you? Is your wedding date correct? When is your graduation from grad school date, spring 2016? See what your internship schedule is like at your school and then decide about the baby. It could be hard if you were interning and then going to class at night if you had a new baby at home. Whatever ends up happening though it will work out I’m sure.

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