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Those are Nina shoes - right? You can get them a lot cheaper than $80 - just google the style. If you do your best to get them as cheap as possible and your BM can afford it, then its okay. If you think your BMs can't afford it, then just have them wear the shoes of their choice.
For me they are not rewearable. They kind of look shiny and whitish. Maybe the pic is off? But I think spending more than half of what the dress costs on shoes they may not be able to wear again is asking a bit much. Maybe if you paid half of each, then $40 wouldn't be too bad. Good luck! Have you sent them the pick and asked them if they would honestly rewear them? Maybe they would.
I wouldn't be happy being forced to pay $80 for shoes that I may or may not wear again. Honestly, nobody will really pay attention to their shoes so I would give them a color (I am assuming silver) and have them buy heels in that color that they WILL like and can wear again and if they choose to spend $80 and buy those shoes, great! If they can't afford it, you will have given them a better option for them.
Are you planning on having them dyed or wearing white shoes? Because I have never in my life (including my wedding day) worn a pair of white shoes. I do not even like sneakers that are white.
I would never wear them again, thus it would be money wasted to me. Why can't the bridesmaids just pick shoes they like in the color you choose? They won't even be in 99% of the pictures. That way, nobody secretly resents you for making them spend a lot of money on something they have to donate.
@busterbluth: They are SILVER. the pic does not reflect that very well I guess. I think they look slightly darker in this pic
@texasmeredith: yes they are...they used to have the silver ninas on zappos, etc but now they dont anymore...
I probably would not rewear them and I think $80.00 is a lot. That said, it totally depends upon the style your BM's wear (maybe they will love the shoes and totally rewear them), as well as their financial status. While $80.00 is a lot to some, to others it's not.
Oh, OK, They looked white in the pic. No need for all caps :)
Metallic color shoes can be hard to find. I had trouble with that because I wanted a goldish color that was not too shiny. I acknowledged the fact that people may not own or want to own gold shoes and I just gifted them to my BMs. Have you asked them how they would feel about buying silver shoes?
I personally would not be able to re-wear silver shoes, so $80 would be rather expensive for me.
Maybe talk to your BMs and ask what a reasonable range for shoe prices is and then try to find a pair of shoes that matches that price range. When you talk to the girls, if they say they will be able to re-wear silver dress shoes all the time, they may be willing to spend more. However, if they don't think they will re-wear silver shoes, I would try to find a much lower priced pair that looks silver - they will only being wearing them once after all.
Edit: I wanted to add that my wedding shoes were Nina's, and they were extremely uncomfortable. I wore them at home ahead of time to break them in, but still took them off ASAP on the wedding day. During the ceremony, I started to worry that I would have to take the off! Of course, that's just my experience. Have you had better luck with that brand?
@busterbluth: haha it was just emphasis...not yelling at you! I have asked three of them....out of 6 and they are all fine with this shoe
I am just worried about letting two of them pick their own shoes...I know this sounds awful but I dont trust their style and taste...maybe if I told them it needs to be peep toe silver and at least a 1" heel and they can go from there?
would it be weird if 3 of them had the same shoes and then the other 3 didnt?
LOL non-matching vs. matching shoes is one of those things that only we as brides even notice. It would not be a big deal if they did not match but if you want them to match then that is your decision ultimately.
@Ms.Teddy: i think you can't ask some girls to pay for the shoe and some not to... if that's what you meant by three wearing the style and three not. honestly, regardless of their taste, how badly can they mess up a silver shoe? unless they usually wear stripper style platform monstrocities, i think you are safe =)
(no offense to the strippers out there....your shoe choices are lovely and appropriate for your profession)
@Mrs. Meowerson: Im thinking that three of them like these enough that they would pick them on their own and buy them. Im thinking the exact opposite....I think two of them would actually show up in silver flip flops/flats...and I really dont think the dresses look good with flats.
lol at your last comment
@Ms.Teddy: Then why not ask them to choose their own shoes, but stipulate that they have to have a heel? Seems a fair enough compromise.
Also they may be telling you they are fine with the shoe and secretly thinking "why oh why are we being forced to pay so much for a shoe we will wear once?!". You're the bride, so they are likely trying to appease you.
@Ms.Teddy: oh then this is a very easy fix! just ask your girls to wear any strappy silver heels, or any silver heels...that's the best of both worlds. you get the style you want and the girls can already wear something in their wardrobe, or pick shoes they would actually wear again.
@Mrs. Meowerson: yeah i guess so...
asking for a silver peep toe shoe with at least a little bit of heel would be too specific?
I think it's fine to want a cohesive look, but if I were asked to spend $80 on a pair of shoes, I would probably have to drop out of the wedding. I spent $18 on my wedding shoes! The only time I've ever spent $80 was on running/hiking shoes, and that was knowing I'd wear them frequently, and that they would help my joint problems.
@daydreamwanderer: Got it...i pretty much gave up on the same shoe idea now...lol
If three of your girls like the shoes you picked, would you consider having three of them one style, and three in another (cheaper)? Something like this or this?
Have you checked out Shoe Carnival? They carry a cheaper Nina brand called 'A Touch of Nina' and they run about $40. You know your bms best, but I would die if someone asked me to spend $80 on shoes :/.
@daydreamwanderer: yeah I could do that...would it be weird if three had the same and the other three had completely different?
My BMs are wearing silver shoes, and I told them just to get a silver strappy sandal. That way I am still getting the "type" of shoe I want, but still being broad enough for them to have a range of shoes to pick from, as well as price ranges.
I am not a big shoe person, so dropping $80 on a pair of heels is something I would never want to do. My MOH on the other hand loves shoes, and that would be totally okay with her. I just feel like silver is not a color most girls rewear often, so I feel like the $80 would kind of be a waste.
I also feel like since shoes fit everyone differently, I'd be upset if I had to buy a pair of shoes for $80 that didn't fit me super well. I can try on a pair of heels at a size 7.5, have them be a little bit too small, but then try on an 8 and have them be just a little bit too big. It happens, and walking around in slightly too small/large a shoe can be really uncomfortable. I think it's just easier for everyone to be able to find their own shoe that they like that fits their foot well.
Since your wedding is in April in SC, would the strappy sandals idea work? I'm sure it will be warm enough.. will strappy sandals go with your girls' dresses?
I think that's a bit pricey to ask them to spend. I'd see if you can find them cheaper somewhere or find a similar style that isn't as pricey.
@kt23525: Im not sure I like the strappy sandal look with the dresses that I picked...these are their dresses...i really like the look of a peep toe with them. My next question is can i just ask them to pick a silver peep toe in their price range?
@Ms.Teddy: cute dresses! I think just saying silver peep toe would be fine.. They should be able to find some at multiple price ranges.. I'm sure Target & Payless have some for $20-$30 and there's plenty of higher end stores that carry them if any of your girls want to invest in a nicer pair. You could maybe even find some pairs you like at various stores & send them the link to show what you were looking for if you think some of them may need a little extra guidance
That's asking them to spend over $200 on just a dress and shoes. Do you want them to buy jewelry too? What about hair and make-up? I think it's too much to spend, personally.
@Ms.Teddy: I was thinking choose 2 pairs, then maybe have them every other on the girls?
ps - those dresses are awesome!
Wow that is a lot for a shoe, no way if a Bride asked me to pay that much unless I could wear it again. Why don't you just let them wear what they want. Just tell them either a color or certain heel hight.
For some bridesmaids, 80$ for a shoe is a tad over the top. I would opt for letting them pick out a silver shoe.
I honestly, am not into the matchy matchy bridesmaid style now, and love to see some cute footwear on the bridesmaids.
Give them a color scheme, and basic idea, and let them pick it out. Most bridesmaids dresses are over $100 and then you add in the cost of shoes, and possibly a matching clutch or purse too, and it really does add up. And then some of your good friends and bmaids, also splurge to try to look their best for your wedding, and even pay to get their hair and makeup done.
$80 for shoes is A LOT. And chances are, they've already dished out quite a bit on dresses. I say either find some shoes for a more reasonable price (DEFINITELY under 50) or let them wear their own.
@bellenga: thanks for the input. I am actually already paying for their hair and make up :)
UPDATE: I just emailed all of my bridesmaids and told them to get silver peep toe shoes with at least a little bit of heel. I gave them 4 options as examples ranging from the Ninas that were $80, some that were $50 and two that were $20.
Problem solved! Thanks for the input ladies.
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I have picked out my bridesmaid dresses for about $140 per bridesmaid.....I was wondering if it would be too much to ask them to pay $80 for their shoes? They are wearing short dresses and I like the cohesive look..
This is the shoe I was thinking of...and I think they are totally re-wearable...thoughts?