Post # 1
I bought these gorgeous shoes for my wedding when I first started planning about a year ago and after standing in them for my alterations appointment last night, I realized that my feet are going to hurt like hell all throughout my ceremony. (It’s not just these shoes, it’s all heels that I wear. I love heels but I hate wearing them)
So my problem is that I’m going to be miserable during the most important part of my wedding. Now I’m thinking that I’m just going to wear flats for the entire wedding (I planned to take off my heels during the reception anyways), but that would mean I have these gorgeous shoes that would just be wasted. I can’t return them because I bought them a year ago and I would offer them to my mom but she has tiny baby feet so they won’t fit.
Here’s the point of this post: would it be weird to bring my shoes to the venue so I can take pictures with them before the ceremony (the getting ready/accessory shots) but not actually wear them for any part of the wedding?
Post # 3
Of course you can. It’s not as if people don’t do quite major editing on some wedding pictures! But why not wear them while you get ready so you could have shots of you in your dress and the gorgeous shoes but then take them off before the ceremony?
Post # 4
@IzzyBear: I voted yes, because for me personally, I’d look at the photos after and be like ‘Oh yeah: there’s the shoes I didn’t actually wear’. If I wasn’t wearing them, they’d just lose significance for me.
But that’s just me. I’m weird about things like this; I feel the same about brides who remove piercings/cover tattoos/ask bridesmaids to change their appearance, and about heavily photoshopped photos (eg where it was a grey, rainy day but in the futures it’s all beautiful blue skies). I want our photos to be a true reflection of the day.
Post # 5
I say: DO WHAT YOU WANT!!!
Post # 6
@Steampunkbride: that’s what I was thinking…wear them for the “getting ready” pictures and then just put on flats for the actual wedding.
Post # 7
I agree with PPs who are telling you to wear them while getting ready.
Good choice being comfortable during the ceremony! I wore high heels once as a Maid/Matron of Honor and was told that people could see me shifting back and forth for the entire ceremony (because my feet hurt). I decided right then to wear comfortable shoes for the wedding!
Post # 8
Comfort is so important for the wedding. You’re going to be on your feet pretty much all day, so I’d go with the more comfortable option. I think it would be a great idea to include your shoes in the getting ready photos.
Post # 9
You should be comfortable on your wedding day. the only issue with wearing your heels for photos will be the length of you dress. if you have alterations to fit your flats then your dress will be short for your photos! Heres what i’m doing bc i cannot wear heels either. I am wearing my heels for the ceremony and getting flip flop wedges (the foamy kind) to wear during the reception! That way my dress will not drag if i change shoes! hope that helps! goodluck!
Post # 10
I did the exact same thing! I bought expensive shoes , paid additional money to have them redesigned into a pair I saw on pinterest only to switch out to flats during reception. Be comfy! Even though I switched my feet were so sore it kept me from falling asleep!
Post # 11
@IzzyBear: NOT AT ALL!!!! Also, this is your wedding, do what makes you happy!
I feel the same way about heels, I can only last about 2-3 hrs depending on the heel height. So I made sure that my wedding shoes were a good height that I can last in, but i still bought slippers to change into!
Post # 12
Its your wedding do what you want! If taking pics with the shoes but not wearing them will make YOU happy then go for it! (I actually liove the idea myself)
Post # 13
@MrsBeck: I’m afriad I’ll be shifting back and forth the whole time and look crazy lol!
@sharky: the only pictures I would “wear” them in are getting ready pictures…i.e. sitting down putting them on, standing in them with the front of my dress lifted, them sitting on something with all my jewelry/accessories next to them. I wouldn’t wear them for any of the formal pictures so the shortness of the dress wouldn’t be an issue.
Thanks for the input! It makes me feel a little less crazy haha
Post # 14
Go for it! I know I would.
Post # 15
That’s weird to me. The pictures are supposed to capture the day, not be a stage just to take some fancy pictures. It sounds really superficial to me to just take pics with shoes that actually had no real function in the wedding day. If it was at least worn for the ceremony it’s make more sense to me.
Post # 16
- Wedding: June 2014 - Baby #2 due Sep 2017
@IzzyBear: I say as long as you don’t look back thinking ‘oh yeah, I didn’t wear those at my wedding’ in a negative sense, why not? I don’t know about your dress but my dress is so long noone would even know if I was barefoot!