Would this bother you?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Would it bother you if your SO shared a hotel room with a group including the opposite sex?
    Yes : (107 votes)
    55 %
    No : (62 votes)
    32 %
    It Depends - more information in comments : (24 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
    1327 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think it’s really tacky that the company is putting men AND women together in one room.  Putting the men and women into separate rooms I can understand (although, of course, if they had a huge budget separate rooms for each person would be ideal).  But putting men and women in a room AND making adults share a bed? Ugh!

    Post # 4
    5207 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @anonymousemiss:  it wouldn’t bother me. They are all adults. Grown men and women can occupy the same sleeping area without sexual tension. 

    Post # 6
    2527 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    i don’t know if it would bother me to have my DH in that situation but if i were one of the females on that trip, there’s no way in hell i’d share a room with 2 guys that i barely know. it’s awkward and i wouldn’t be able to relax in my own space.

    Post # 7
    6448 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think it’s strange that the company is making men and women share a room and also that they are making them share a bed, however, I wouldn’t be upset about the arrangement.

    Post # 9
    3596 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I put it depends but it wouldn’t bother me simply because it sounds like a small room and unless they were willing to have an orgy there isn’t going to be space or time for that.

    That being said I think it’s abotu respect and spouses are well within their rights to ask partners not to stay in hotel rooms with people of the opposite gender. 

    I live by the bars and downtown so often time after a night out I let my brothers and or male friends crash on my futon or couch. After a few months of dating I stop letting friends crash at my house just out of respect for my boyfriend and now husband.

    I see where you are coming from, your Fi responded in a respectuful way. Don’t let it bother you, if he started a huge fight over it would be another story.

    Post # 10
    2576 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @anonymousemiss:  Uh… wth? I can understand males sharing a ROOM and females sharing a ROOM, but one room with the males sharing one bed while the females share the other? Who on earth books travel at your FI’s company? I would figure that a normal company would just go for the budget hotel or a cheaper hotel outside the city limits before resorting to grown adults sharing a bed. That’s just creepy.

    ETA: OP – I think your FI behaved fine – it’s his company that has the messed-up planning. :/

    Post # 12
    2851 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    It would bother me; although I do trust FI and know he wouldn’t cross any lines. I think professional lines are already crossed when grown men and women are sleeping in the same room. We would probably pony up the cash for my FI to stay in his own room.

    Edit: I see this is a personal trip, all the more reason to book separate rooms. Since this is a vacation, I would expect alcohol to be present and when that’s present, things tend to get more rowdy. It’s just not right.


    Post # 14
    6666 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Meh- I would not be concerned.  In fact- I might be LESS concerned because no one is going to pair up when there is another couple in the same room.  It would seem more likely to me if they all had their own separate rooms.  But I am not much of a worrier.

    Post # 15
    4135 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Yeahhh no. Not appropriate IMO. 

    Post # 16
    409 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    It wouldn’t bother me.

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