Post # 1
I was just wondering if this would bother you or if I am just being sensative. Okay, so my fiancé was married before we got together. I know who his ex wife is in terms of what she looks like and whatnot but we have never met or anything like that. I sometims look at her Facebook page from time to time ( I know I shouldn’t but I usually just look to be nosey, not because I am jealous or hate her or anything). She changed her last name back to her original last name after they broke up (on Facebook, I don’t know about real life) and it has been that way ever since me FI and I got together. Well, last night I looked at her Facebook for the first time in about 2 months and she changed it back to his last name!!! And it has really rubbed me the wrong way! Like why did she change it back to his last name after she already changed it to her last name. And she did it within the last two months! UGH!
would this make anyone else annoyed or irritated? Or am I just being a baby about it?
Post # 3
I think its weird, but I don’t think I’d be mad about it.
Post # 4
@Jav4491: I wouldn’t be upset about it because 1. you can’t control it so what’s the point? It’s likely that she didn’t change her name legally and maybe she uses her facebook for work purposes or something and it’s hard for people to find her under her maiden name? At any rate, it’s nothing to be upset over. Stop stalking her!
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church
@Jav4491: It’s definitely weird. But I don’t think I’d get too bent out of shape over it.
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
I don’t think it would bother me. She probably did it for basic logistic reasons – didn’t want to legally change her name on every account she’s ever had, friends were having a tough time finding her on Facebook because they only know her under that name, etc. I seriously doubt it’s personal or she’s pining after him or anything. My mom kept her married name after divorce, and so did my aunt (and she went through a very messy, very abusive/threatening/horrible divorce)
How long were they married?
Post # 7
She probably just decided it was too much of a hassle to legally change her name back, so just changed her FB page back to her legal name. I wouldn’t be too upset about it. You’d never know if you weren’t stalking her! 😉 (I would do the same thing.. lol)
Post # 8
@adoc86: +1. Definitely weird but Facebook isn’t exactly a measure of real life. I wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 9
@Jav4491: I’d probably have a breif “WTF” moment, and then realize that I cant control other people, and I have no idea whats going on with her so I should try to give her the benefit of the doubt. Maybe after they broke up she was planning to change her last name, then decided against it after some time had passed. I’d change my facebook back too if that was the case.
Post # 10
@Jav4491: Lol, I am guilty of the same thing. My BF’s ex is not a threat, and actually I feel a little sorry for her; she doesn’t wear makeup or dress cute, being as nice as I can but she’s homely. She is the one who divorced him while he was in school (his NINTH yr of college) and now she regrets it. She sent him homemade cards for Valentines Day and his birthday, I am talking lovey-dovey cards! I ck out her FB page occasionally just out of boredom, sometimes with my BF right there with me. It doesn’t *really* bother me that she kept his last name, but in a way it’s kinda irritating. Esp b/c his name is a handful and 99% of people pronounce it wrong. Oh, AND he let me read a 7 pg letter she wrote him, admitting that she kept his name as a way to feel close to him. *gag* Lol.
Post # 11
@Future_Mrs_Dr_I: She doesn’t wear makeup or dress cute? Are we in 7th grade?
Post # 12
I’m guessing she decided not to legally change back to her maiden name and this is just easier so that people can find her. I would advise you to just so looking at her page.
Post # 13
@atacrossroads: Lol, sorry if I offended anyone who doesn’t wear makeup or dress cute, but that is how I am describing her without being mean and saying she is flat out ugly. My “adult” way of saying she couldn’t give two shi&s about her looks, and so I am not jealous. 😉
Post # 14
My Aunt kept her ex’s last name for almost 15 years after their divorce, and uses both her old married name and her new-ish one (she’s been re-married for about 5 years) on her FB account!
Post # 15
If it’s still her legal name it’ll be easier for people to find her.
Not really a big deal. She isn’t married to him, so why be upset?
Post # 16
Yeah I guess I’m not really mad about it, but when I saw it I had a ‘WTF’ moment lol.
They got married because she wasnt a US citizen and her visa was about to expire. Maybe that is why she changed it back? They were married for about 2-3 years though. Together for 5-6 years or something like that.
Still a little odd!
Thanks for all the feedback 🙂