Would this bother you?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@peachacid:  I wouldn’t like it but I would ignore it…I am not one to start a conflict so I would probably just eye roll it all away BUT if you are really fruserated/hurt then maybe your hubby needs to talk to them because you ARE family! 

Post # 4
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9220 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@peachacid:  It might bother me – it would if it was intentional.  My SIL sometimes sends out family group emails and forgets to include me but she knows my husband will forward to me.  Sometimes she does remember so I don’t take it personally and I get along great with her and his whole family.  Once, though, my husband was irritated that she didn’t include me but I told him I was certain it was accidental.  She’s not very computer savvy.

In your case, yep, I’d be upset.  Have you said anything to them about it?  I also feel your husband should speak up for you. 

Post # 5
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1765 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@peachacid:  I think your husband needs to address this with his brother and be like WTF man thats my wife and it apparently is not “family only” since boyfriends and girlfriends are on the list….sorry hun but that hubby of yours needs to man up and stand up for you and say we are MARRIED and enoughs enough shes here tostay knock it off….

and yes i would be offended….

Post # 7
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808 posts
Busy bee

@peachacid:  Yeah, that would really piss me off, particlarly if he was including the other girlfriends and not me as the wife. I think you should care, and your husband needs to understand why it’s not on!

Post # 8
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1765 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@peachacid:  I know its hard to be away from family….and i truely believe EVERY family wether they will admitt it or not…has the “golden one”….fortunately for me….my FI knows it….I know alot of people will say you are over reacting….but it seems to be a history here, and it probably wasnt a one time “woops”….I know…my FSIL is the MASTER of manipulating the people around her….I have been excluded from alot with FIs extended family because it was “family only” because she pitched a fit directly about me! where as FIs cousin’s flavor of the month, was involved in EVERYTHING ( family wedding pictures of the cousins weddings in 8 photos he has 7 different girls in the family photos, FI and I had been seriously dating from the 2yr plus mark when all these photos were taken and she went on a vendetta to keep me out of them…..

it hasnt been until here recently where shes been kinda figured out because of her actions, (ex intentionally wrecking her car because FMIL and I were doing stuff that weekend instead of calling her….she later ADMITTED that this is what she did….only she was psycho enough to do it with her 2 & 4 year old children in the car….and finally one of FIs cousins wifes and I said hey WTF is wrong with her!!! did everyone go OMG she has a freaking screw loose, and ive since recieved several apologies for the way ive been treated if it lasts we will have to see! but for now its nice…and alot of her faults are getting called)

so trust me I know where your comming from….and it SUCKS and everyone is quick to say your “over reacting” but there truely are some malitious people out there who do messed up things!

Post # 10
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5932 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@peachacid:  My Aunt pulled this a lot with me, she would invite my parents, my brother, his wife…all of that…but never me, not directly, so one time, I think it was Easter…I just didn’t go, and when my Dad called me, on speaker phone from the restaurant asking where the hell I was…I said, “Why would I go someplace I wasn’t invited to?”

 

Post # 12
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5932 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@peachacid:  They have to happen so that your husband is accutely aware of his mortality…I’ve had the same conversation with Mr. 99…only I just tell him, “If this conversation doesn’t end, NOW…I’m not promising that I won’t kill you later.”

 

Post # 13
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2428 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

It would bother me because they make such a damn big deal about “FAMILY ONLY”…. so in that case it seems intentional that they left you out.

On the other side of the coin, I get group texts all the time from my fiance’s mom/her fiance/my fiance’s brother’s wife and it drives me banana sandwich! My fiance and I are one unit so texting either one of us would suffice. I hate when we’re together (which is 95% of the time) and both our phones go off with the same text. And then continues going off for the next 10 minutes because of everyone’s responses. SO ANNOYING.

Post # 15
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5932 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@peachacid:  ….I’m not exactly sure, but I think it has something to do with the fact that no other women can tolerate such nonsense….

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