Post # 1
A “friend” in my wedding has been a real downer throughout the entire process (complaining left and right, refused to walk with someone for no good reason, asking me to call around and do favors for her, the list goes on – this is just the tip of the iceberg). This friend told me today that she wants to stand out at the wedding and is wearing a “big white/off-white clip in flower” in her hair for the wedding. Yes, I think everyone should wear their hair how they’re comfortable and how they choose. Yes, I think it’ll probably look fine. But for some reason it just really annoys me that 1.) it has to be white (our colors are bright!) and 2.) she feels the need to stand out thus making the things about her, yet again. Be honest, what do you think?! Big deal or I’m just overly stressed and this is getting to me for no good reason??
Post # 3
@MrsD41503: Honestly, I think you’re very stressed and this flower is the proverbial straw that’s going to break your back. I really don’t think anyone will notice or consider it an indiscretion. You’re the bride, no single hair accessory will take attention away from you at your wedding. Take a deep breath, you’re almost there 🙂
Post # 4
@MrsD41503: Sounds like she’s geing a bit attention grabby.
I’d just let her know that you’d like the bridesmaids to be cohesive so maybe she could save the hairclip for the reception…
Or, better yet, get hairclips for the bridesmaids as BM gifts and ask they wear them for the wedding day.
ETA: It probably wouldn’t bother me, but there are ways to combat it if you want.
Post # 5
Sounds like an attention starved lady, but no it wouldn’t bother me.
Post # 6
Her wanting to stand out at your wedding would annoy me too, keep in mind no one will outshine you on your big day. Maybe ask to see a pic of the flower?
it sounds like she’s trying to get a rise out of you, I’d just let it go and ignore it as best you can 🙂
Post # 7
This would annoy me but I would just let it go. In the grand scheme of things, it won’t matter. I was annoyed when a BM insisted on wearing her hair down like I was I just let it go and now 4 months after the wedding it doesn’t matter. But I totally understand, who states they want to stand out as a BM?!