would this invite kind of irritate you?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: would this annoy you?
    registry info in the formal invite is gauche : (37 votes)
    11 %
    no postage on RSVP card would annoy me : (88 votes)
    27 %
    both of the above : (98 votes)
    30 %
    nah, it wouldn't bother me at all : (99 votes)
    31 %
  • Post # 3
    113 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    As a thifty soon to be bride sometimes you have to let the little things go unnoticed.  I’m sure they did the best they could with the resources that were available to them, I’d just be happy the couple thought enough of me to invite me to share that day with them.

    Post # 4
    6446 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    TBH the no postage would bother me a bit. We almost never have stamps because we rarely mail things. We also both work until after the post office closes so it’s just a pain to get in there to buy a stamp.


    Registry info doesn’t bother me though. I could find their registry by looking online or asking but I don’t mind when the information is just handed to me!


    Post # 5
    640 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I don’t care one single bit about the regsitry info being included, even if I ‘know’ it’s not supposed to be in there, I wouldn’t bat an eye.

    I would be slightly annoyed about the postage, bc we never mail things, and therefore, never have stamps…but I’d get over it as soon as I got it back in the mail.

    Post # 6
    1403 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I know everyone thinks that adding the registry info is a big NO-NO but it wouldn’t bother me. Let’s stop pretending that 90% guests don’t ask about the registry.   Everyone wants to know, anyway – it’s just more efficient to do it that way.

    The postage is kind of annoying….but only because my ass never has stamps.

    Post # 7
    2694 posts
    Sugar bee

    Register info doesn’t bother me but I would never include it. Postage is annoying but some people don’t understand that you’re supposed to include it.

    Post # 8
    697 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @ferdie224:  +100.

    We went to my niece’s wedding recently, and her response card envelope didn’t have postage on it. Good thing we had stamps handy!

    Including registry information isn’t a turnoff to me, though. I think it’s better than having to ask the couple directly or Googling it.

    Post # 9
    274 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2018

    Wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. Might be a cultural thing, bit every wedding I have ever been invited to had registry/wishing well info in it. Personally I think its great because then I don’t have to track down someone’s mother who I don’t know to ask what to get them. As for the postage thing… again,  I don’t think its really a “thing” here. And to be honest,  if they’re paying $100 each for me and my Fi to eat and drink, spending 60 cents on a stamp is the least I could do.

    Post # 10
    2889 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    no stamp would annoy me a little bit.

    registry info doesn’t bother me, but requesting money does.

    my sister in law didn’t put a stamp on her rsvp envelope AND on her invitation she put “no gifts, card box available.”

    those were just 2 of the many annoying/tacky things she did for her wedding. there were a lot of heads shaking on that day, haha

    Post # 11
    170 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I don’t see why RSVP’s can’t just be done all online or by text anyways with todays technology. One of my family members wedding had a site where you go type in your name to submit your rsvp, and it gives you your dinner plate option. Saves a lot of trouble to me! But that’s a whole different issue. I guess I wouldn’t be too irked to have to pay the little bit it cost to put a stamp on an RSVP they’re not asking me to spend $10 to rsvp.

    As for the registry info, I don’t see the issue. Pretty paper would’ve been cool, but I wouldn’t scoff at it being regular paper. Or that it’s included at all.

    Post # 12
    137 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    My friend isn’t including stamps in his rsvp because they want an online rsvp. I think he sent 2 out with stamps for elderly family members. maybe that was the idea as well?

    Post # 13
    837 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    The registry thing doesn’t bother me at all, it’s the norm in my area/circle. But the postage thig would bother me. We only have stamps when we buy them for something specific.

    Post # 15
    318 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    I won’t lie.. not having postage on the RSVP would irk me. I’m DIY-ing our invitations explicitly so we have enough money to buy alllll the postage we need for STDs, invitations, RSVPs, and thank yous.

    Post # 16
    3731 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I had already sealed and stamped my envelopes before I realized I forgot to put the stamps on the return envelopes. It wasn’t a malicious attempt to irritate my guests. I just didn’t feel like wasting the 64 envelopes (and the 128 stamps on them) to add stamps to the RSVP envelopes. 


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