Post # 1
This is honestly not that big of a deal, but it certainly has irritated me.
A few days ago my FIL told DH that he would be coming over to our house tonight. He lives an hour and a half away and we don’t see him all that much. He didn’t say what time he would be coming, just said “Friday NIGHT.”
I would at least like to know an approximate time, so DH called, texted, and emailed him with no response. 2 days later, we still hadn’t heard from him. So this morning I got up, did some laundry, cleaned a bit, and made a cake for tonight. At noon I got a call that I needed to go into work so I called DH and he told me that he would finish cleaning when he got home, and would put away the laundry.
At 1:00 FIL calls DH at work and says that he is on his way, and will be at our house in an hour! Now DH is leaving work early because he doesn’t want FIL to have to wait in our driveway for 3 hours, or worse, ask if he can let himself in with our spare key. And now FIL will be there waiting when DH gets home and our laundry is on the living room floor, including my bras and underwear, and the kitchen is a mess from the cake I made.
Of course this isn’t the end of the world but my IL’s have ALWAYS made comments about our home and it’s degree of cleanliness…I will think it’s spotless and they will find the tiniest thing to point out that I missed.
I guess I’m just annoyed that he wouldn’t let us know what time he was coming, then arrive HOURS before we expect him to so that DH has to leave work early. And on top of that the house is a mess. And I can’t do anything about it.
Post # 3
huh? 2 pm is not Friday night. LOL. I’d be upset too.
Post # 4
Yeah that is pretty irritating! I too like to have things cleaned up and well kept for company, and it helps if they come within the time they offered!
The joys of family 🙂
Post # 5
I’d be seriously irritated, bordering on POed.
Post # 6
@Miss Sorbet: I would be completely annoyed by that, too.
Post # 7
I would be mad, and at DH too for leaving work early, thus enabling your boundary-challenged FIL.
Post # 8
Ugh, this sounds like my boyfriend’s dad. He had an extra table, and instead of asking me if I even wanted it, he just told my boyfriend he was dropping it off at my apartment, but didn’t say when. Luckily, I had gotten off of work early, and just happened to check my phone, and I had a text from him saying his dad was on his way with the table. The place was a mess, and I hadn’t showered yet. Sigh. Some people just don’t understand the concept of not showing up uninvited.
Post # 9
Ugh. Are you sure that my father didn’t show up at your house? My dad is really bad about this. He also has a tendancy to call and say “hey, mind if we swing by tonight?” FI or I always say “Sure. Come on over.” but half the time he’s almost in our driveway when he calls so there is no time to straighten up.
Post # 10
I would so be upset. It is inconsiderate and rude. I am sorry!
My dad lives in San francisco which is about a six hour drive or an hour flight and sometimes he would call me friday morning telling me that his is at the airport on his way to see us.
Even though I know he was trying to surprise us, it was sort of inconsierate becasue what if the house is a mess, what if we have plans, what if were leaving for the weekend. I had to tell him that I love him and his visits but needed more notice then the day of.
Your DH should tell him in a nice way of course. 🙂
Post # 11
LOL Sounds like my ex’s dad. I would clean up before they’d come over (thankfully they had a long drive), and his dad would ask if I knew how to use a vacuum cleaner. I almost told him to fuck off once.
Post # 12
Honestly, if that happened to us. We wouldn’t rush home. That was their fault for not giving a time…
Post # 13
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I would be irritated! Major guest faux-pas! Guest and Host faux-pas are one of my biggest pet peeves! Unfortunately the man I live with makes them often…
Post # 14
That is so annoying. My FI’s dad does the same thing. Says he’s coming at dinner time.. shows up at 9pm! While I hide in my room in my PJs. I also always like to clean up the house when someone is coming… and I always feel like people drop in at the worst times. Like when I’ve just cooked something and there are dishes everywhere or whatever. So I know what you mean!
Post # 15
I’d be really irritated and I probably wouldn’t leave work early. I would have told him he’d need to find something to do until we were home from work. Doesn’t he realize you would still be at work at 2pm?