Post # 1
Hey Bees! The only kids we are inviting to the actual wedding are the FG/RB and their siblings (which I think is understandable). For those parents with kids–I have 4 couples with babies under 1 year old who are invited– I’ve prepared this letter to include in the invites (i’m going to handwrite it). I just wanted to get some opinions since I’m not a mom!
Thanks in advance!
Dear PARENTS NAMES
We are excited and hopeful that we will get to see the FAMILY NAME family very soon! Due to the circumstances, we’ve decided to have an adult only wedding as I’m sure you can understand. At the same time, we do understand that complicates things for you. We don’t want you to be left out of the fun, so I’ve talked to trusted family and friends and got a few babysitter recommendations. Please see the list below.
We are asking that you make arrangements if you choose to bring KIDS NAME to Boca. We’ve already confirmed that the babysitters will be available that day and that they will go to the hotel. Optionally, we’ve arranged for a room at the venue to be available, in case you would like KIDS NAME to be taken care of on premises. We want you to feel comfortable sneaking away to check on KID NAME whenever you want during the wedding!
We really appreciate you understanding and cooperating with us! We recognize this is an important decision to make and we want you to feel as comfortable as possible, so please feel free to give us a call if you have any questions.
We hope to see you in September!
Post # 3
@sunangel08: I think it’s great!!! Especially giving them the option to check on their kids anytime during the wedding! Great job.
Post # 4
I think it should be a phone call not a letter.
Post # 5
I think it’s fine except that I would change this line:
We really appreciate you understanding and cooperating with us! We recognize this is an important decision to make and we want you to feel as comfortable as possible, so please feel free to give us a call if you have any questions
We really appreciate your understanding. We recognize this is an important decision to make and we want you to feel as comfortable as possible, so please feel free to give us a call if you have any questions
“Cooperating with us” sounds pushy, IMO.
Post # 6
@sunangel08: Thats great very well written, you can tell you care about the people and their children and have even looked into sitters thats above the norm and the fact you even found a room at the venue
no one should be offened if they are they are looking to be and it has nothing to do with you
Post # 7
@sunangel08: I like it. I’m not a fan of the word “got” in the first paragraph. I know it seems silly to notice such a tiny thing, but I like strong word choice for a more composed finish.
Maybe you “compiled a list of possible babysitters”
Post # 8
I think it’s great you’re providing a baby sitter. I’d omit the part about “…as I’m sure you understand” Some parents wont!
Post # 9
I agree it shouldnt be a letter.
Post # 10
I like it. But would not put it in with an invitaion. More of an email or on the wedding website. I dont think kids belong at weddings. Good for you!
Post # 11
If you only have 4 couples to send this to, this should be a personal phonecall, not a letter. Something about a lot of the language bothers me. It’s overly flowery and kind of stuffy..
For instance: Due to the circumstances, we’ve decided to have an adult only wedding as I’m sure you can understand.
This should just be: We’ve decided to have an adult only wedding.
Honestly, I would not include this. I would just call the four couples.
Post # 12
errrrr. I would just call and chat with them and get a feel for their reaction.
Post # 13
I agree with calling them; we have about the same number of guests with children as you do, and have spoken to them all directly. We also haven’t apologised, or asked them to understand; we’ve been very matter-of-fact about it ie ‘We’ve decided to have an adult’s only wedding’; we don’t feel the need to justify or apologise for our guest-list decisions.
So, I would simply pick up the phone, and explain that the wedding will be adult’s only, and then let them know you have a list of baby-sitters who are available, etc, and ask them if they’d like you to send them the details.
Post # 14
I personally wouldn’t include a letter in the invitation (not my invitation that I’ve spent HOURS slaving over the design on!), but instead would call or email them. I think it’s a really great gesture that you’ve done all this legwork for the parents.
Post # 15
@sunangel08: how can you say that you are having an adult only wedding but still having a fg/rb and inviting their siblings? be careful how you word this. if your friends show up and see these other children, they may feel offended.
i would probably call them vs a letter to let them know the arrangements that you have made for their children, if needed.
Post # 16
It’s perfectly acceptable to invite only the children in the wedding party (and it is polite to invite their siblings), but this should be done in person or on the phone.