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I would be freaking out too. I think that it is absurd, inconsiderate, obnoxious, rude - so many words to describe it - for them to have done that to you. You simply do not schedule weddings with major guest overlap on top of one another. I have a friend who got engaged and chose the weekend I was planning on (though at this point I was just planning with my FI and our families and hadn't told friends bc we were waiting for my ring to be custom made) and while I had a freak out to my FI and family about it, I didn't say a word to her and just bumped mine up to the end of August instead of the original October. Earlier than I wanted, but there was NO WAY I was scheduling mine close to hers because we have MANY of the same friends and I think it's ridiculous to expect that so many out of towners come right back for another wedding. I do now happen to be getting married before her, which may annoy her slightly though she hasnt said anything, but I don't consider that to be stealing any of her thunder because I moved mine up TWO MONTHS to accomodate her and our friends.

So, as for whether you have a right to be upset about timing of the wedding so close to yours - yes, I believe you do. Whether you should be upset they are marrying before you - errrrrrr I think not so much with that. I don't think it would bother you so much if it wasn't SO close. And I'm not one to judge people or say they are "rushing into things" because my FI and I started talking about marriage about a month after we started seriously dating and got engaged after about 5 months. I don't know your FI's brother's situation with his girl, so I won't make any judgments regarding their fast engagement, but I do think that for them to have done that is just so incredibly selfish. I couldn't handle that. I think I would try to break them up - at least until after my wedding ;)

I have to say, I would be upset by that.  I think, abashedly, I would also be somewhat judgemental about this couple knowing each other for 3 weeks, getting engaged, and then getting married so quickly.  (Is she pregnant?)  I think the fact that their timeline, is as it is, they will be drawing more attention to themselves, rather than the fact that they will be having their wedding a week before yours. 

If people are having issues making it to both, I would think they'll skip theirs, to come to yours.  Also, with such little time to plan, I would think that your wedding will be nicer and better organized. v Sorry.

Has your FI said anything to his brother about this? I don't think it's your place to say anything, but since your FI knows it is upsetting you, I wonder if he might sneak a comment in about it to his brother. I don't know what kind of relationship they have, but if they are close it might be worth mentioning - unless they've already booked location, vendors, etc. in which case what's done is done.

Also, I agree with Tanya123 that people who don't want to/can't come to both would come to yours first, and yours will totally be nicer.