Would this offend you? Friend situation…

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
1190 posts
Bumble bee

Yeah! I would be upset too if I wasn’t invited to a friend’s daughter’s birthday party. Your feelings are totally valid, you were excluded.

What are you thinking you are going to do?

Post # 4
929 posts
Busy bee

@Deejayelle:  Maybe next time you go over, take her daughter a small brithday gift, give it to her daughter and ask why you weren’t invited? It obviously upsets you, just be honest about it.

Post # 5
297 posts
Helper bee

It would depend on the circumstances, I think. Are their children friendly, for example? If it wasn’t a massive party and it wasn’t a case of everyone BUT you being invited, then I would probably let it go.

Post # 6
2355 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I wouldn’t worry about it if the people she invited were all people with children. It may have just been a simple thing for the kids without much adult socializing. I have been there, though. I had a friend who had a baby, and our friendship slowly dissolved. I don’t think either of us was really at fault. She was married young and had her child at 20. I was just entering into my current relationship. Our lives were just different, and we grew apart.

Post # 7
1147 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Deejayelle:  My niece is 5 & I’ve only been to 1 of her birthday parties (her 3rd). They lived out of town for her 1st & 2nd b-days & did a family party for her 3rd. Her 4th & 5th b-days were parties with her friends not family (unless you are a family member with a kid.) I don’t take it personally, her birthday party is about her & doing what she wants. 4th bday was a gymnastics party & 5th was at the public pool. Both activities geared towards kids. I still give her a present & card but also respect my sister’s decision to make it a kid focused party.

Post # 8
1607 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

What kind of party was it?  If it was something kid-focused I’d assume that she only invited the other person so her kids could enjoy the party.

To be honest though, I don’t understand inviting adults to children’s bday parties once the kid has friends (a first bday seems more like an excuse to get family together, but by a 2nd won’t the kid be off playing with other kids?).  Take this with a grain of salt because I don’t have kids and neither do my friends yet, but why would you want to go to this kid’s bday party? Won’t it just be watching a bunch of little kids run around?

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