Post # 1
My friend had a party for her daughter’s second birthday, and I wasn’t invited. I figured it might just be a family thing, which was fine. But it turns out she invited her other friend, and her kids. I feel a bit hurt. I went to her daughter’s first birthday party last year, and this other friend wasn’t invited (because my friend thought her kids were feral and didn’t want them destroying her house!). This is a friend I have posted for advice about before, we had neglected our friendship and communication, but caught up and talked, and since then we stay in touch frequently. We have been friends for years. Just feeling a bit hurt and offended, and wondering if other bees would feel the same?
Post # 3
Yeah! I would be upset too if I wasn’t invited to a friend’s daughter’s birthday party. Your feelings are totally valid, you were excluded.
What are you thinking you are going to do?
Post # 4
@Deejayelle: Maybe next time you go over, take her daughter a small brithday gift, give it to her daughter and ask why you weren’t invited? It obviously upsets you, just be honest about it.
Post # 5
It would depend on the circumstances, I think. Are their children friendly, for example? If it wasn’t a massive party and it wasn’t a case of everyone BUT you being invited, then I would probably let it go.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t worry about it if the people she invited were all people with children. It may have just been a simple thing for the kids without much adult socializing. I have been there, though. I had a friend who had a baby, and our friendship slowly dissolved. I don’t think either of us was really at fault. She was married young and had her child at 20. I was just entering into my current relationship. Our lives were just different, and we grew apart.
Post # 7
@Deejayelle: My niece is 5 & I’ve only been to 1 of her birthday parties (her 3rd). They lived out of town for her 1st & 2nd b-days & did a family party for her 3rd. Her 4th & 5th b-days were parties with her friends not family (unless you are a family member with a kid.) I don’t take it personally, her birthday party is about her & doing what she wants. 4th bday was a gymnastics party & 5th was at the public pool. Both activities geared towards kids. I still give her a present & card but also respect my sister’s decision to make it a kid focused party.
Post # 8
What kind of party was it? If it was something kid-focused I’d assume that she only invited the other person so her kids could enjoy the party.
To be honest though, I don’t understand inviting adults to children’s bday parties once the kid has friends (a first bday seems more like an excuse to get family together, but by a 2nd won’t the kid be off playing with other kids?). Take this with a grain of salt because I don’t have kids and neither do my friends yet, but why would you want to go to this kid’s bday party? Won’t it just be watching a bunch of little kids run around?