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I would be livid, too! I mean, fine, if you're going to hook-up in my home, whatever. I can't stop you, even though I still think it's a little disrespectful. Just don't do it on my couch! Because, well, that's just wrong!
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1 - I totally see why you're pissed. it's gross.
2- Unfortunately, there's nothing you can do about it, so I think you just have to tell them "not cool", and get over it.
Sounds harsh but I so see why you're upset! Are there stains?! God, I hope not!
I'm not sure if I should ask... but I have to... how did you find all of this out? Eww,
Well, was there anything... left behind? Any signs of usage. I'd be grossed out, and that's a lil messed up to do on someone else's couch, especially one just purchased. But, I don't think I'd let it get to me too much. It'd be a silly fight to have, ya know?
I'd be mad but, eh.. whatever. Its done and over with so just move on. If they hadn't told you would you have ever noticed/known??
Totally agree- that's disgusting. But if they had to tell you- and there isn't any noticable "evidence" left behind, I'd just have to blow it off. It's rude and gross- but what can you do? Except vent to the bee's because that's what we're here for!! :)
eeeeeeew I hope there are no stains or weird odors! I woud be beyond pissed. Besides the fact that it was brand new and expensive it is just disrespectful! BTW did they tell you they did it on your couch?
I found out because she told me. She thought it was funny. I clearly did not. this is not a college futon...its a brand new couch...there was even a bed they could have gone to...but I think they wanted to do it on teh couch because i specifically told them that not even Teddy and I have had sex on it because we want to keep it clean.
Gross, I would be a little pissed off. I would be respectful of anybody's furniture, that's just how it should be.
YUCK! Definitely nothing you can REALLY do or say to them now other than NOT COOL! Is there anyway you can take a cleaner too it? We have a carpet cleaner that has a couch tool on it that we use that could take away some of the "ick" factor in my head
edit: we must have been posting at the same time, didn't see that you SPECIFICALLY said something to her about wanting to keep it clean. Definitely uncool of her and I would say something if that was the case
That's major disrespect. I'd be pissed. Especially since you two were trying to keep it clean.
Normally I would say maybe she didn't know how you felt about it, but since you specifically told them that you hadn't in order to "keep it clean" that is really disrespectful.
I would be upset, talk to her about it, but there really is nothing that can be done at this point. At least she didn't leave a stain.
I would lean towards thinking it's just a couch..EXCEPT you specifically told her even you and your FI wouldn't do that because it was so important to keep it clean. And then she does that BECAUSE you asked her not to, then tells you about it, and laughs? It's almost like she is determined to be spiteful. I definitely would be beyond annoyed.
Unless, of course, they didn't and are trying to mess with your head. I have friends who would do that.
I voted wrong - I didn't read all of your posts! At first, I was like, "eh...who cares." But the fact that they had a bed and you specifically told her that not even the two of you have done it on the couch b/c you wanted to keep it clean, and she still did it? I'd be livid too. That is so not cool...it's clear that she purposefully did it AND told you just to get at you. Jerk.
Eh I'd just tell them that you're pissed and that was NOT COOL of them but ultimately it's not a friendship dealbreaker and you will get over it. But you should definitely give them a piece of your mind.
That's really really ignorant. I know for FI, he prob wouldn't let them in the house again ,if it were that kind of thing!
EWW. Why did they even tell you?? I'd be pissed. I wouldn't end the friendship over it but I'd definately tell them it wasn't cool. It's just disrespectful.
i don;'t i'd be livid but i would be very mad about it esp heaven forbid it's like suede or another hard to clean fabric eew
Ick, thats super gross. I'd be pissed too, and I'd make them have it cleaned.
Update: just came home and there definately IS a stain...now am i sure it was them? no...but I dont remember seeing that there before....and my couch is that microfiber material...very noticeable.
We just hung out for dinner and everything was ok...she is trying to make up for it and knows that she did wrong...still not happy about it though....
I think it would be fair of you to ask her to get the stained cushion (or all the cushions!) cleaned.
Uh there is a stain? I'd be super pissed. I would invite her over, show her the stain, and ask her to pay to have it cleaned. If she balked at all, I'd kick her out of the wedding party. Sorry, but 2000$ brand new couch, and she specifically had sex on it after you said something??? I have NEVER had new furniture, and currently have a worn out old couch...if I had a brand new couch with a sex stain, I would be livid!!!
I'd be super annoyed and expect them to pay for cleaning off the stain. It is so disrespectful. When DH and I had our first weekend away (like after a month or two of going out) and stayed at his friend's place in the living room, his friend said "please just don't have sex on my couch." No worries - we did it standing up! There is *always* another option!!!
I'd be upset mostly because you made it clear that you wanted to keep the couch clean but they went ahead and did the nasty on it anyway. Plus she didn't even try to keep it a secret. It was like she told you to taunt you. How disrespectful!
Normally, I wouldn't care but it does ruin the novelty of your nice expensive couch. Have her get it cleaned especially since there was a stain. Sorry.
That is rude how dare they you have a floor for heavens sake!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh hell! I would totally ask them to pay for that stain! The fact that you told them you were trying to keep it clean because it was BRAND NEW and they had a bed they could use just makes me angry. They were intentionally disrespectful. Urrrghh.
I think that was VERY disrespectful, especially since you told her that you guys didn't even have sex on the couch because you wanted to keep it clean. Yuck.
I would be spitting nails at how mad i would be and i am one of those people that can't just let things go also. It's bad enough if it just happens but for it to happen on purpose. Because she laughed when she told you esp. since you told her u hadn't. I would be cursing her out now and make her pay to have it steam cleaned yuck.
I wouldn't be mad if I'd never said anything and I just found out because I could hear some... associated noises, and they'd been tidy about it.
However, I hate when people do things purposely to make me mad, so I would be if that makes sense.
I would ask her to have it cleaned. We have a guest room at my house, and all my girlfriends know that if they do anything in that bed, THEY get up in the morning and wash the sheets themselves.
I would rub fresh chili peppers on their underwear. That'll teach 'em and it'll put their equipment out of order for a while! (But again, I am spiteful. Don't be like me!)
I think she KNOWS she effed up, so it's good she's trying to make up for it, but the best way to make up for it is to CLEAN THE STAIN. I wouldn't care how she did it, but she needs to take care of that. (OH AND HIM TOO!! THEY BOTH DID IT THEY ARE EQUALLY RESPONSIBLE!) My microfiber couch has fleece throws on it so it doesn't get dirty...what jerks!
If you told her specifically ahead of time, you have every right to be pissed. I don't think it's cool when people do things specifically because they know someone else won't appreciate it-- it's immature.
But at least she feels bad about it and is trying to make it up to you. I would mention that she should scrub the stain (knowing she probably won't do it, but to see her "aw f---" reaction). Then I'd let it go.
In an update....she apoligized over text message only...and all it said was "sorry..." I was kind of pissed she didnt talk to me about it in person. Now she is back in another state and Im not sure what to do...i mean the guy who she slept with has callled my fiance twice apoligizing...sent texts and apoligized in person...he feels like an asshole and is definately letting us know that what he did was wrong...her on the other hand...not so much. and she is the one who I am close with NOT him. it disappoints me that she hasnt said anything about it...just kind of shrugged it off....did i mention she is one of my BRIDESMAIDS?
Im not sure what to do...should I call her and confront her about it? should I write her an email? im just hurt ...disgusted...and disappointed.
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So one of my future bridesmaids came into town from Ohio to visit me this weekend. Well we all hung out with Teddy and Teddy's roomates and one thing led to another and they ended up hooking up (the roomate and the BM). Well, whatever, it was in his room couldnt care less.
Well last night...I was telling them how much I loved my couch and how it was brand new and we barely eat on it to keep it looking nice....and guess what...that night he came over to my house and they had sex on my brand new $2000 dollar couch that I just paid off. I am LIVID. So is Teddy...are we overreacting?
Thanks ladies any input is appreciated.