Post # 1
I’ve done something that I may think my FI’s family could be upset/irked about…i didn’t think about it when I did it but now I feel weird about it…..
I went to school for media communication and now have a job doing web design/graphic design. My dad has worked with computers my entire life, so i’ve been doing computer things my entire life. I was making websites at age 12, for example. All that to say – everyone in my family has their own websites. My family has ourlastname.com, i have my firstnamelastname.com, so do all my siblings…we all have lots of websites… and we have a really good time with our websites.
When I got engaged, I realized my name will be changing, so I looked to see if my firstnameNEWLASTNAME.com was availalbe, it was, so I bought it. I plan on having my current personal wbsite just point to that one.
I then started searching for domains related to my FI’s last name – i always wanted to have like a couple blog/website for our future family. I bought one in the form of thejohnsons.com except with his last name (which is a pretty uncommon last name, i had never met anyone with it before). FI was pretty excited. So was I.
But as i’ve been working on the website design, i realized…his family might find this weird. Do you think they will? Like will his mom and dad and siblings find it weird that “new girl” comes in and takes up their last name’s website? Or his grandparents? Or aunts or uncles? I have a great relationship with his family, I just don’t want them to feel slighted….I know I would be irked if my brother married a girl and then she took MY family’s last name’s website…
So now I feel weird about publishing this new website that I was so excited about and worked so hard on. I just don’t want his family to feel weird or be irked about it. Or maybe they will be excited….idk…
Or am I just overthinking it? Probably most people don’t care about websites as much as my family does lol…..
Post # 3
Overthinking it. As you said, I don’t think most families would care about websites the way your family does. Worst case scenario, you can just gift them the domain name if they really want it.
Post # 4
No, I honestly think you are overthinking it! I wouldn’t care – especially if you have a good relationship with them. Also, I do not know of anyone with their own personal website. Blogs? Yes, but not websites.
Post # 5
@Bexx: If they wanted the domain they would have it by now. The two of you are going to be “thejohnsons”, so you are certainly entitled to use the name.
Post # 6
@Bexx: Maybe they don’t see websites like you do, remember you have different background than they do. If your FI is exited and didn’t say anything about his family being weird, I don’t think they’ll have a problem. He should know if they would, and he would have told you, so relax!
I think you are just nervous of becoming part of the family and you want them to like what you are doing, I am sure everything will be great!
Have fun with the website ;D
Post # 7
Yeah- it would never even occur to me that this is a thing. And I’m married to a computer scientist. You are over thinking this.
Post # 8
@Bexx: You’re probably over thinking it. You should just ask them before publishing it. Then you can decide what to do.
Post # 9
haha okay good. There was a lot of drama when my brother’s wife joined our family, so I’ve always been sooo nervous about doing anything to step on anyones toes when I joined into my future husbands family….
ha and yeah, most people i guess don’t even care about websites lol.
Post # 10
My family would probably think it’s really aggressive and familiar…but that’s also because we don’t have the best of relationships with female in-laws. The men in my family tend to marry the quiet, I won’t talk to anyone, just cling to my husband types. I think if it were someone we had a a good relationship with and interacted with us, spent holidays, etc we’d think it was neat. I actually have one cousin-in-law like this, bubbly outgoing woman and we love having her around…she’s great. But she kept her own last name, go-figure. But someone like this, that wants to merge and be a part of the family…build/design away!
Post # 11
Yeah.. I think it’s pretty uncommon for families to have websites like that.. most of the time they are the blogging kind and don’t use their real first/last names since there are so many creeps out there.
Post # 12
You’re way overthinking it. You’re a part of his family now, you are a hislastname. I’m sure they’ll feel proud that you’re embracing his family name so much.
Post # 13
@QuirkySocialite: Thats probably why I feel weird about it too- because we have pretty aggressive SIL’s….I don’t want to be aggressive at all.
But I do get along great with his family – maybe I’ll just include a Legacy Page that talks about all of his family lol
Post # 14
What? Why would they care? If you are taking his name, then techinically you guys are “The Johnsons” also. I don’t think anyone cares about family websites, I’ve never even heard of that as a thing.
Post # 15
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
@Bexx: I think over thinking unless they are exceptionally private or just wierd.
Post # 16
Overthinking! You will have his last name in a couple months! I bet the fam will like it!