would u buy ticket from friend buck n doe when paying for own wedding ?

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 4
2209 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@DiamondnLovey:  How much is the ticket?  It sounds like it’s a lot o cash, I would probably skip it (if it’s not in the budget, it’s not in the budget) and let her know you’d love to be involved, but have obligations you need to fulfill for your own wedding. 

I would certainly hope she’d understand that.

Post # 6
1441 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

If you don’t want to, don’t.  It seems pretty simple.

Post # 7
1071 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club

What’s a buck n doe?

Post # 8
9525 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t think that you paying for your wedding has anything to do with it. If you want to go, and can afford it, then go for it. If you don’t want to go or just don’t want to spend the money then don’t. Either option is fine! Personally, I like parties, so I’d probably go. But that’s me.

Post # 9
2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@DiamondnLovey:  Unless one is destitute, begging amongst friends and family is appalling and embarrasing. They should have the wedding they can afford.

Don’t  but a ticket. Tell your friend you won’t ask her to help pay for your wedding if she doesn’t ask you to help pay for hers.

Post # 10
1022 posts
Bumble bee

@DiamondnLovey:  I”m assuming your from Barrie Ontario, so a Buck and Doe is like a Manitoba social right?

If it is then I would absolutly buy a ticket (or two if I was going to go) and support my friends. I’m from Manitoba, so it is customay to buy social tickets from  your friends even if you don’t plan on going.

I’m sure that $10-$15 is in no way going to break or blow your wedding budget.

Post # 11
1071 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club

Oh… so she wants you to pay money to go to her wedding?

Post # 12
5761 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

For the American bees, a buck and doe is a fundraiser of sorts, where the couple who are planning to marry sell tickets, drink tickets, raffles, whatever, and take the funds raised and put them towards their wedding expenses.  In most social circles in the US, that would go over like a turd in a punchbowl, but outside the US  (and even in some parts of the US or some cultures within the US, especially up north by the US/Canada border) that is fairly common and completely socially acceptable.

OP– it’s $15.  If your wedding budget is going to be made or broken by a $15 variance then you may have bigger budgetary issues to worry about than just if you should go to your friend’s party.  If you want to go, then go, but with such a small amount of money to be put up, I’d make the decision based on if I actually wanted to go and not on the price tag.


Post # 13
11588 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

As I understand, these events are very common and acceptable in Canada.  Given that, I would absolutely pay for it.  $15 for a night out for me and DH is a great bargain, and it also goes to help your friends. 

Post # 14
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Honestly just the act of posting this question up here makes it sound like you don’t want to go (and would like justification for skipping it).

So… don’t go!

It’s not the end of the world, and as you said – you have other financial obligations to take care of first.

Post # 15
2279 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@DiamondnLovey:  It’s horribly tacky (yes I’m going to use the t word) for her to have such an event so no, I wouldn’t go whether I was planning a wedding or not and even if I was wealthy beyond imagination. Pay for your wedding as she SHOULD pay for hers. 

Post # 16
4709 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@carolinabelle:  +1. I wouldn’t care if it’s socially acceptable there or not. It is, in my personal opinion, super tacky. I would not participate in funding someone’s wedding via a fundraiser or any other activity. 

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