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I was just reading an article about women that stay at home that don't have kids, that have degrees but prefer to stay at home because they can afford to... The first thing that came to my mind is I WISH!
But other comments on the article were interesting some women agreed with me others found it horrible and lazy.
I think about it everyday honestly I don't know if I ever want to have kids but I wish that I could work from home everyday! But I never dream of just sitting around the house I think because A. we could never afford it unfortunatley my FI is not a docotor and B I would be bored to pieces. I couldn't imagine not working from home this one lady just took yoga classes watched tv, had drinks with friends and cooked.
What are your thoughts?
@superplannerbee: I would love to work less/work from home so I could have more time to horseback ride.
Horseback riding is a HUGE passion of mine, and right now I struggle to make it to the barn 2 times a week.
Unfortunately horseback riding is very expensive. So until we either win the lottery or FI becomes CEO somewhere, we both have to work for me to afford my 2 lessons a week.
I couldn't ever sit at home and do nothing all day though. I need something to do.
I could easily spend all day every day at the barn riding horses though.
Heck yes. I'm a doctor. I love my job. But I'd totally be able to fill my time if I didn't work...I'm pretty sure I'd never be bored.
I could, but I wouldn't just stay at home. My dream would be to volunteer, start community projects, and positivley effect the world. DH and I make fairly good livings and we know that we can live on just one of our salaries, but we have come really acustom too our lifestyle, which would obviously be effected if I did that.
However, we do plan to have children and at that point I wuold stay home.
I think I would have to volunteer or at least have a part time job.
I also can't imagine not contributing towards say a better retirement fund, so when my husband retired we could go on great vacations!
Yes. My friends call me the Indie-Martha Stewart, I have enough hobbies to fill my time. I would write children's books and scrapbook and start an awesome baking blog. I would also have to get out of the house and volunteer or do something good for the world.
I could have such a rockstar garden.
Ugh, FI, why aren't you independently wealthy?
Hell yeah I would! That sounds amazing. I'd certainly pick up some hobbies, and start volunteering more, too.
I don't think I could be a stay at home wife. I would be bored out of my mind. I like my job for the mental stimulation, interaction, and challenges it brings.
I don't know if this is truly a stay at home wife, but I would love to be able to work part time at a job I loved, even if it didn't pay that well. The other half of the day would be spent walking the dog, keeping the house clean, and cooking dinner. That would be heaven!
Haha, totally! I did that for a summer (we weren't married... does that still count?) and I loved it! I would wake up, take my dog on a loooong walk adventure, go to the gym + swim, read a book/surf the net while laying out on the garden terrance, and then go to the local grocer to find things to prep for dinner. It was only for a couple of months so I was not bored at all. I was also in the best shape of my life AND it gave me a chance to work on my photography hobby.
I would love this if DH and I could afford it (but alas, we can not - although the goal is to be able to by the point we have kids).
I actually hate going to work 40 hours a week and would love to forget about my engineering degree and stay at home and keep everything clean and organized, have the time to prepare nice dinners each night, make it to the gym more consistently, and spend time volunteering (do I sound like the houeswife type - oh yes!) Trust me - there are way more than enough things that need done around the house that I would never be sitting around bored.
I'd also love to spend a fair bit of time volunteering with an animal rescue organization. If I didn't have a job, I could easily find ways to fill my days.
@ILikePink:Ah, yes....the garden I'd have.....
My sister does this. But she's not lazy about it, and fills her days with a lot of her passions. And she has a freakin gourmet meal on the table every night haha! I think this is okay as long as it's okay with the husband in the situation, and as long as you don't sit on the couch watching reality TV all day.
I could never ever not work. I'm just a believer that being productive is good for a person. When I was married the first time my ex his business came successful beyond what we had even hoped and we were able to be very comfortable. After a while, he expected me to quit my job (which I loved) and stay home or just do charity work or be a 'lady that lunches' type of thing. I was actually pretty offended that he felt that just because he had become successful at his career that it somehow meant that mine was now unimportant. Do you know what I mean? I'm not an extension of my husband, I am my own person as well, with my own degrees of success as a person. While we were partners and I was ecstatic that he was doing so well I didn't feel the need to throw my own career out the window and sit home all day in response.
I pretty much am a stay at home wife. I have my own business set up, but nothing's really happened with it and I'm okay with that. I really enjoy it, and I plan on staying home once we have kids. I've started to look for a part time job, but my stipulation is that it has to be something really fun ;) I spend a lot of time cooking, tidying up the house (although I think that's a losing battle most days), running errands, grocery shopping... The list never seems to end. I can't figure out how I used to balance it all with working full time! I hope to open an Etsy shop soon to give me a little project to work on. I wouldn't change it for the world, I love it and DH loves it. The odd time I've mentioned maybe looking for another fulltime job he looks very panicked, LOL!
I would love to not have to have a full time job if we could afford that! I would do my own thing. Take classes, go out and do photography, cook more, etc. OMG it would be amazing!
@ILikePink: LOL, That sounds like fun would totally turn into Martha as well!
I'm a stay at home wife at the moment. I haven't worked since I graduated with my masters but my day is full. I volunteer in the same hospital that I would be working in if I was getting paid, doing the same job, I'm also on several local charitable boards and commissions.
I 100% consider it a luxury.
I don't think it would be boring and I deff don't think that being a SAHW = lazy. My days off (few and far between...) are filled with cleaning/cooking/errands, etc. At the end of the day, I still don't get everything done!! A good friend of mine is a SAHW and she is deff not lazy. She does a lot of work, volunteers, etc. Personally, I would love it! I hate that the apt is always a disaster and that we don't eat dinner til 8pm.
FI has also hinted that he would like this too. On my days off, he loves coming home to a clean apartment and dinner on the table. Ah, if only we could afford it!! :)
I already have a pretty bad-arse Square Foot garden. But I would be canning up the wazoo.
FI has been thinking about going to Q school for the PGA tour for a year or two, so if that actually happened, this could be a real possibility. Oh, wow, how I would love it. I would possibly just go to school forever.
@ILikePink: LOL! I am totally on the same page as you, too! I LOVE gardening and yes, mine would be rockstar too ;) If only.........
I would love to be a stay at home wife and run, shop, and lounge the rest of the day! LOL! That would be a dream come true. But seeing FI's career doesn't allow me to have that kind of lifestyle, to work it is! Actually, I am the type of person who would love it for a few weeks but then get bored out of my mind! I would want to get out, be useful, put my mind to work. I am a teacher and summer vacation gets old mid-July. Is that nuts or what? :)
@superplannerbee: I couldn't be a full time stay at home wife. I would be so bored. Without kids, it's like what's the point? What are you doing all day? Cooking, cleaning, organizing? Hell, I do that stuff and work 40 hours a week. FI has a meal waiting for him when he gets off work. He doesn't have to run errands. I don't need a full day to get it done. My house is cleaner than those houses you see in magazines. My OCD/panic disorder may have something to do with it but other than that I don't see the point. Gas is too expensive to just drive around town having adventures. The only benefit I could see is I would have time to go to a gym that's open during the day.
I would be happy with going to part time and being home the other half of the time. But 100% Nope. I couldn't 100% depend on my FI for income. I'd feel like I was underage asking my dad for an allowance to go get my nails done or something.
I think I'd have to have some committment that got me out of the house everyday. A part time job at least. It would be nice to have the option to not feel pressured about making money, but having no steady committment would drive me mad.
A million times yes. I have no idea how I'm going to function if I stay at this job once we have kids I seriously think all working moms have to be on crack or something. I can rarely find the energy to cook myself dinner and I have a months worth of laundry piling up at the moment I'd love to be a SAHW
I want to be the urban Pioneer Woman..haha. I have too many hobbies to work! And I love volunteering! I could grow food for the homeless!
I am bored in class and have an overactive imagination.
I would only do this if I had plenty of things to keep me busy. I would make sure my house was always and in impeccable condition, and I would do some volunteering and take lots of classes (yoga, pilates, zumba).
We'd be able to exclusively eat produce that I grew....I'd raise chicken and goats and use the eggs and milk....I'd can and pickle....I'd read for pleasure...
Totally. But not to just sit around, I'd love to devote myself to things I want to do that don't make money. Like look into owning my own store/agriculture farm and volunteering, writing, and traveling. That's not just staying home as a wife though, that's staying home as freaking LOADED wife!
I am a housewife without children (my husband and I are working on that). I hate it when people call me "lazy" when they hear about it. I constantly clean, cook, bake, and run errands so that my husband doesn't have to worry about anything when he comes home. There hasn't been a day that I haven't had a hot dinner on the table or lunch when my husband comes home from work. We both feel it's a very fair trade off and he prefers it this way. We both have traditional views on what the roles in a marriage should be and I'm grateful that we're well off enough to have it this way.When I do have free time I read or catch up with my family. I'm a 19 year old Martha Stewart without the snarkiness.
I'm nothing like my sister in-law that stayed home when she first got married and didn't do anything. Her apartment would be covered in everything you could think of, we didn't even know if they had carpet or wood. She didn't clean AT ALL (maybe that's why it stunk) and never cooked since she didn't know how to. She's pretty much the perfect example of what I don't want to be. So I guess I kind of understand why people make blanket statements about housewives being lazy, but she's the only person that I knonw that acted like that.
In theory, I would love to do this, just because my passions are crafts, cooking, decorating...and I could do all of those all the time if I didn't have to work. In reality, I think I'd go nuts and all those things wouldn't be my passions anymore because I'd have all the time in the world to do them and would soon grow tired of them...if that makes sense. lol
I was a stay at home wife for a few months a couple years ago. It was fine; not great, but fine. I still had work to do, it was just more of a flexible schedule than a regular job. I didn't have nearly as much free time as I thought I would!
I think I could be a stay at home wife, but not a stay at home mom (at least not indefinitely). My girlfriend is a stay at home mom with two kids and is the most stressed person I know. She loves her kids, but it is definitely not easy. It's not like she is hanging out doing whatever she wants during the day. At work, you at least get some time with other adults, and usually some time to yourself and intellectual stimulation. If I could be a stay at home wife though, I'd read a lot of books, volunteer, get a puppy. I actually left my job 10 weeks ago.. I thought I would be a lot more bored than I am!
I am a stay at home wife, mainly for health reasons. I have my masters, I had a job, and it was killing me. I was engaged to my husband at the time, and he encouraged me to quit as my health is more important. We had a goal of being pregnant soon, so I decided not to try to get another job. If I wasn't pregnant or trying, I would have looked for a less stressfull job.
I love being a stay at home wife! When I worked, there was no time to do normal things like clean and make dinner. Now I can do those things and my husband can just relax when he comes home from a hard days work.
Ok it appears we all have things we'd rather be doing instead of working so at what point should we say ok let's cut back on the materials things we want to make time for the hobbies that would give us more sanity? Maybe not all of us but some of us could easily take a part-time job instead of the full-time to do what we love and still survive but we aren't willing to take the materialistic cut ...
Thoughts?
Yes, but I would rather be a stay at home mom. I can't wait to have kids!! The only thing stopping us is finances, so if we had the money so that I could stay home, we would be starting a family immediately.
Most definitely would. I'd fill my time in with cooking, cleaning, and various hobbies. Eventually children would come into the picture though.
I wouldn't really. I'm having a hard time even accepting staying at home part-time when the baby is born. I like the work day and the set hours - although it would be nice to have time to do things around the house when needed.
So interesting that you posted this b/c my husband and I had a discussion about this topic recently!
My husband works for a successful commodity trading company, and is blossiming very well in this company/ in this business. Their corporate HQ is in Switzerland, so my husband and I decided to plan a trip to Paris & Swiss over NYE and I would stay for a week & then come back and work. Well he was telling his CFO about the trip and he said "oh she works?" my husband joked that if they wanted to pay him more then maybe I wouldn't work :)
Then when we get to Swiss, my husband had to go into the office for a min & I went with him, he was casually talking to one of the shareholders and said "my wife is leaving on monday to go back home, b/c she has to go to work." and the same response "oh she works?!"
We thought this was crazy! These people know we don't have kids, and my husband isn't rolling in the dough, but more so then the money, it seems like this is the lifestyle of wives of these exes at the company. For fun my husband and I started thinking about just the ppl in his office and anyone who is a director level or above, none of their wives work! kids or not!
Even though we are not in a position right now for me not to work, I told my husband I could never imagine not working. Now I'm not going to lie, a nice month or two hiatus every year would be awesome. But, I went to school for a reason, and although I am in the midst of completely changing my career direction, I have career goals for myself that I want to fullfill. I just couldn't imagine not working all year, year after year, when you have no kids!
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