(Closed) Would You?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would You Pay to Go to Someone's Wedding
    Yes : (0 votes)
    Maybe : (14 votes)
    13 %
    Hell No! : (67 votes)
    63 %
    WTF!!? : (25 votes)
    24 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    4525 posts
    Honey bee

    Nope. Not like that anyway. I’d go to a close friend or family member’s DW if I could afford it, but I wouldn’t pay just because the bride is tacky and cheap. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    205 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I dislike weddings – I feel like I should be paid to have to go! Def would not pay to be there!!!

     

    Post # 6
    Member
    4609 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    The only reason I would pay to go to a wedding is if it were a DW for a close friend or family member. I would never pay just to go to someone’s wedding.

    Post # 7
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    3627 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I wouldn’t pay to go to someone’s wedding like an admission fee. It’s another thing having to “pay” bc it is a DW and you need a rental car/hotel room/etc. I supposed if it was a good friend/relative, I wouldn’t mind chipping in for something, like paying for the cake in lieu of a pricey gift.

     

    Post # 8
    Member
    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    In some asian countries, it’s the norm to pay for your plate (although I don’t think you’re expected to give a gift as well.. not sure).  So if it were a cultural thing, absolutely… if the couple were falling on really hard times and the wedding was not blatantly lavish, sure.  Any other situation… maybe but probably not.

    Post # 9
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    3627 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @elysion:  That’s sort of correct. It’s common that Asians gift an amount that would likely cover the plate and then some, but it’s not a blatant “Here’s our money. Thanks for dinner!” type thing. Typically, many Asians are used to the types of banquets/celebrations so then they get a semi-good idea as to how much it was per head. So with this in mind, it’s supposed to be a gift, rather than a strict “I’m paying for my meal” sort of thing.

    Post # 10
    Member
    2578 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    That is just plain wrong.

    I would LAUGH at anyone who expected me to turn up at a ‘pay as you go’ wedding.

    Post # 11
    Member
    141 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @Kee_Jay22:  To be fair, people often have to pay for travel/lodging to attend a wedding. I know that’s different, but this occured to me after hitting the “WTF” option. Anyway. If someone involved meant a lot to me, I’d probably suck it up and pay.

    Post # 12
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    11760 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    wtf are you kidding me? where did you see this?

    Post # 13
    Member
    619 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I went to a wedding last year where the couple requested we pay for our meal ($50 a head) instead of a gift, as they had an 18 month old and were expecting again. It was a very small JOP wedding with a restaurant meal after, and they only had their nearest and dearest attend, 25 guests. I had no problem with it.

    Post # 15
    Member
    904 posts
    Busy bee

    I’ve gotten two wedding invitations this year for destination weddings, which I feel is that same thing. I always decline.

    Post # 16
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    1786 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Nope, sorry.

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