(Closed) Would you?

posted 5 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Would you?
    yes : (16 votes)
    29 %
    no : (40 votes)
    71 %
  • Post # 3
    2759 posts
    Sugar bee

    Have you considered adoption? SO and I are both heavily considering this as our option, though we do want to try for at least one conceived child – he’s adopted himself and doesn’t know his medical history, while I have a pretty crappy set of genes I’m not positive I want to pass down.

    I’d definitely say get the testing done if you do conceive – but hey, if one child is already healthy, chances are that a second would be as well. *hug* I know it’s so tough to weigh the options for things like this.

    Post # 4
    9142 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    I would get the genetic testing done before deciding.

    Post # 5
    249 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @Porkchop:  it’s obviously a very personal choice to adopt, but i know that would be the direction i would take.

    Post # 6
    515 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Depends on how much it affected my quality of life and how much medical intervention would be required long term.  But, without knowing anythinkg about your condition, but from what you have said you have a fulfilling life, on balance I’d say yes.

    Post # 8
    5065 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I would just be happy with the blessing you have already. I really wouldn’t consider it personally. But it’s your decission and I wish you every happiness. *hug*

    Post # 11
    1416 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I don’t know enough about your condition (and am too lazy to look it up, ngl, haha) to know what your quality of life is with it. If you feel like you have a reduced quality of life and wouldn’t want to put a child through that, I would consider adoption (which is also a fantastic gift to both you and the child you give a loving home). If your condition is more of just a minor annoyance and wouldn’t drastically affect the life of a child who inherited it, then I don’t see a problem having a genetic child…

    Post # 13
    5547 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I would highly consider adopting! The choice isnt have a child or not, it is have a child who is biologically yours or not. And to me, family means a lot more than shared gentics. You could use a donor egg and still carry and birth a child, adopt an infant, adopt a child from the foster system, adopt internAtionally, all sorts of options that allow for another person in your family but without some of the genetic risks you carry. Good luck with wbatever you choose!

    Post # 14
    349 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2008

    I have a friend that went through something similar. She and her H wanted four kids, but after her second son was born, they found out both boys had a hereditary type of MD, only passed to males. She decided she didn’t want to have more kids, just in case future children might be male and had a high chance of not being born healthy.

    Post # 15
    527 posts
    Busy bee

    Well, first I would do genetic testing and figure out the odds of the kidlets getting these conditions.  If the odds were high, then I would either adopt or just not have kids. 

    Post # 16
    1293 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2018

    @Porkchop:  This is a very personal decision, but since you asked for feedback, here is mine. You already have one healthy baby and nothing says you won’t have a second or third healthy baby. Even people without genetic conditions can have babies who are born with medical issues. There are no guarantees either way – it’s always a risk (yes, I understand your risk is increased but it isn’t guaranteed as your healthy child proves).

    Provided you are comfortable caring for a child who may have medical concerns, then I say: GO FOR IT! 🙂

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