(Closed) Would you adopt?

posted 6 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Would you adopt if you could not have a child that was genetically related to either you or SO?
    Yes, we would be open to any child who needed us. : (63 votes)
    32 %
    Yes, but we'd probably only do so if we could adopt an infant or toddler. : (115 votes)
    59 %
    No, adoption is not for us. : (8 votes)
    4 %
    Other (there's always an "other.") : (9 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    7779 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Yes. I would absolutely adopt. In fact, I have always planned to or to be a foster parent. It wouldn’t need to be an infant, or even a small child, I’d be open to a teenager too.

    Post # 4
    Member
    883 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Adoption is something I will always consider, even after I have my own kids (assuming no issues arise). Age makes no difference to me as well. I wonder if they all have some misconception about adopted children or the system that turns them off? 

    Post # 5
    Member
    1820 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I will voice the unpopular opinion here – I would not adopt.  I think adoption is a wonderful, selfless, amazing thing and I have huge amounts of respect and appreciation for people who adopt, I just know that it is not for me.

    Post # 6
    Member
    5496 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Absolutely. If IVF doesn’t work for us after a few tries, we will definitely be adopting. Somehow, someway, we will have a baby in the next few years! That’s what keeps me going on this long, frustrating journey to have a baby.

    Post # 7
    Member
    7299 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I would be open to adoption, but honestly, I would want to adopt a younger child- 6 or less maybe?  I know there are so many older children who need good homes, but I don’t know if I could do it for an older child. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    2142 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I actually think you are in the majority, on WB at least.

    I hear about all the ladies on here who say they will adopt even after having a child of their own. And ladies like Mrs. DG who are actively going through the adoption process right now. I have the utmost respect for them. Truly, I do.

    But it’s not for us.

    I want children of my OWN. For me adoption would be an absolute last resort after trying every other method of having biological children of our own.

    I’m not one of those that want kids because my clock is ticking or it’s the next step in life. I want kids because I truly have a urge and destiny to be a mother to my biological kids.

    It might sound selfish to some but that’s just how I feel.

    Post # 9
    Member
    413 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I would absolutely adopt. There are so many children out there that need forever homes. If for some reason I had a difficult time getting pregnant, and IVF did not work, I would totally be open to adoption. J’s parents have fostered over 100 childrenteens throughout their lives, and eventually adopted two (brother and sister). I’d love to do the same.

    Gwen.

    Post # 10
    Member
    5786 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We probably would not adopt, we’re on the fence about kids (at this point we do plan to try in 3 or 4 yrs) so if we can’t have our own we probably wouldn’t have any at all. I’m not even sure I’d go through IVF.

    Post # 11
    Member
    1231 posts
    Bumble bee

    Hmm I wonder what their reason is? I know they said because they were not meant to have children, but maybe it’s because they were meant to have a child that needs love and is already in the world. Its a tough decision.

    Post # 12
    Member
    1297 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Ok…I’m just going to throw this out there..could it be a financial reason as to why this couple is opting out of adoption? Adoption is very costly..I know a handful of people who have adopted and..it in all cases it has cost roughly in the upper 20K’s.  Maybe the couple doesn’t have this extra money lying around?

    My DH & I are going to begin TTC next June.  If we find out that we cannot have children, we would want to adopt, but we would not be able to start that process up next year..it would take a few years for us to save up for that…

     

    Post # 13
    Member
    7695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We would definitely adopt. I would not use IVF or sperm donor or surrogate or anything like that. My view is that if we dont have a child naturally then we weren’t meant to have a biological child and we should adopt. DH feels the same way.

    Post # 15
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    13101 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I would adopt but it would be after I exhasted every possibility to have a biological child.  I would also want to adopt an infant because I want the experience of raising a child from infancy through adulthood.  I want to experience those first moment with my child.  Teach them to walk, talk and read.  I’d miss out on those experiences with an older child.

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