(Closed) Would you allow someone to borrow your wedding dress?

posted 4 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Would you allow someone to borrow your wedding dress?
    Yes - but only someone close to me. : (130 votes)
    33 %
    Yes - even if we weren't that close. : (47 votes)
    12 %
    No : (161 votes)
    41 %
    Maybe - but it would depend on certain things (explain). : (56 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2554 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Nope, no way.

     

    Post # 4
    Member
    4528 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I said maybe, but in your situation it would be a no. I would, like you, not want it altered out of fitting me

    Post # 5
    Member
    14750 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I would but I’m not very sentimental,we don’t have girls, and we’re not having anymore kids. I would completely understand not wanting to though, but it is a huge compliment that someone would ask.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1169 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    It depends on the situation, and in this case I wouldn’t, she seems to be taking advantage of you to save $, nope. For a close friend or relative I would (as long as I was already married, I doubt I would while it’s in my closet un-altered before my wedding, but again, it depends on the situation).  

    Post # 7
    Member
    8020 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    It is just a dress which is just pieces of material. I would probably sell it to her or if it was someone that was finacially struggling I would just give it to her.

    Post # 8
    Member
    4525 posts
    Honey bee

    Eh. I’m really not that attached to my dress, so I probably wouldn’t mind.

    Post # 9
    Member
    4059 posts
    Honey bee

    Well, I am actually considering selling my dress because while I loved wearing it…I hate the idea of it sitting there for years and years doing nothing but collecting dust. If I had a friend or relative getting married soon, I would lend it to them in a heart beat though. 

    While I understand many women have an emotional attachment to their wedding dress, I personally do not. I have my photos and my memories. I just cannot justify putting a $1600 in the closet/a box to never see the light of day again. Even if I had a daughter, I know styles could change. 

    OP, you are perfectly within your right to say no though. It’s your dress and your decision.

    Post # 10
    Member
    1480 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I’m planning on donating my dress after the wedding. It seems so wasteful to let it sit in a box. Every woman thinks one day their daughter will want to wear it, but let’s be real…99% of the time, they want their own dress that is new and of a modern trend, just like we did. And so it sits in a box for another 30 years. I guess I just don’t understand it.

    So with that said, my answer to your question is yes. Although I admit it would be a tad weird to go to my friend’s wedding and see her in my dress.

    Post # 11
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    1638 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    For a fee. Let’s say 10% of your dresses original cost. She would also pay to get it cleaned and preserved again.

    I know a woman who wore her sister’s gown for the ceremeony and then slipped into her very own reception gown. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    2353 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I absolutely would not. It’s MY dress and no one will take that away from me by wearing it.

    Post # 13
    Member
    108 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I would allow someone I was very close to, like my niece for example. Someone I once was friends with that I now only talk to on Facebook? Nope.

    Post # 14
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    1638 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    If you plan on getting the dress back I wouldn’t let anyone alter my dress.

    Post # 15
    Member
    2325 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Hell no.

    My dress is only $1000…to some, that’s more than they could ever afford and to others my dress is on the cheap side of things.

    But…my money, my dress.

    Anyway, sorry that you have to deal with someone like that! Wow, the pressure!

    Post # 16
    Member
    6018 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I actually gave mine away to someone on CL.  What was I going to do, pull it out for my possible daughter or nieces to feel guilty for not wanting to wear it???   It will be SOOO SOOO out of style.

    The person on CL had her husband being deployed and her mom was sick.  Even if she was lying, I got the dress for free from a friend (who felt the same way I did, and made the “pay it forward” request)

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