Post # 1
So, my sister used to design stationery for an independent stationer. She randomly messaged me today because she’s thinking of getting back into the business and wanted to use one of my invites as a sample. (Clearly, she didn’t save the invite we actually sent her )
The problem is that we ended up needing nearly all the invites we ordered, and I only have one remaining. I was going to place it in a shadowbox, but haven’t gotten around to it.
She wants to take it to place in a portfolio for a job interview. I wouldn’t have a problem if it wasn’t my ONLY copy. She thinks I’m being difficult. I’m going to call my mother to see if she has an extra copy, but what do you think? Should I allow her to just take my only remaining invitation?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t. I have my invite in a frame and love it! I would check with family and see if they have one she can use.
Post # 4
Another one with my invite in a shadow box. It would be really hard for me to part with.
Can you talk to any of your guests and see if they kept their copy? I always keep wedding invites and bring them to the wedding so I have the times, locations, directions right with me.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t either. I specifically made sure I have at least one left so that I can keep it
Post # 6
I wouldn’t give her the hard copy. I would scan it and email it to her.
Post # 7
yes, she can bring it to the interview and bring it back. I think you’re being unreasonable.
Post # 8
Did she design your invites? If she didn’t she shouldn’t be taking credit for the work.
Tell her you’re sorry, but you are going to hang up that last invite in your home and she should have saved hers if she wanted it – especially if she worked on it!
Post # 9
@MrsTVLover: +1 is she able to bring it back?
Otherwise can you give her a copy?
Post # 10
@MrsEdamame: Oh man. If she was going to use it (loose- not glue it to anything) and bring it back I MIGHT do it… if she was very responsible and not someone who spills things! Otherwise, I would have told her I ALREADY put it in a shadow box or didn’t have an extra (because I don’t- I have one in a shadowbox, which is not “extra”!).
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
Definitely not if it is the only one you have and you want to use it to display. If she made them, can’t she make another? Or scan it so that there is a digital copy of her design?
Post # 12
If she designed the invite she should already have the files, and can print out a mock-up or an actual invite on the type of paper you used. Why does she need your actual last invite?
Post # 13
I would take it to FedEX/KINKOS or something and have it color copied onto similar weight and color stock and then trim it and give her the copied components for her portfolio. She can explain to her prospective employers (either directly or through a note added to the portfolio) that the invitation suite is a copy. I would not allow her to take the only one I have left of my invitations.
On the other hand, I am someone who keeps everything that is sentimental to me. I still have every wedding invitation of every friend who has married within the last two-plus decades. If you have a friend or family member like me — who keeps things like this — perhaps that person will still have your invitation and would be willing to part with it. I certainly would allow her to borrow my copy if I had kept yours.
Post # 14
My sister & I would probably do anything for eachother even if it sucks for us so I’m not a good person to ask! But can she borrow it for the interview & give it back and if anything happens to it, make you a new one? Or even make you a few more just to be on the safe side? Then she can hold on to a few herself if she needs them in the future.
Post # 15
Put it in a frame and have her take it to the appointment in the frame. It’s unlikely to get damaged that way.