Post # 1
Here’s a question which got me thinking.
A girlfriend of mine is getting married soon but her man is uncircumcised. She really would like him to do it but hasn’t raised the subject with him yet. She asked me what I would do and I must confess I had no answer. I don’t know what I would say.
Post # 3
why does she want him to be circumcised?
Post # 4
No, I would never. It’s his body and his choice, and if he’s happy and she loves him, it shouldn’t matter.
Post # 5
@kitzy: I’m with you. Being circumcised later on in life is very painful and not a necessary procedure…it actually isn’t necessary when they are a baby it is a choice.
Post # 6
HELL NO. If your future hubby asked you to get your clitoris sliced off, would you? That is a VERY sensitive spot, and it would mean a LOT of pain on his part for really no good. Unless he’s converting to Judaism, in which case it sucks for him.
OW. No. Your friend is insane.
Post # 7
I personally don’t think I would, just because I wouldn’t want FI to have to go through all that pain as an adult. I’ve heard there are a lot of benefits to remaining uncircumcised (more pleasure/sensation), and I feel like as an adult having already experienced that, it would be unfair to ask him to change it because I didn’t like the look or whatever.
That’s just my opinion though… I really don’t know what I would do because FI is already circumcised!
Post # 8
Umm… no, I don’t think I would ever ask someone to do this.
But, terrible somewhat related story about how mean highschool girls can be… I had a “friend” in highschool that broke up with a guy by telling him that she was grossed out by his uncut thingy, when in reality she just didn’t like him. Umm… yeah, one painful surgery later, still didn’t get her back.
Post # 9
That’s what I want to know.
You should ask her how she would feel if he asked her to be circumcised.
Post # 10
AAAAHHHH no. no no no. That’s horrible. I wouldn’t ask my partner to have ANY purely cosmetic surgery for me, much less such an invasive and painful one. Yeesh. I had a friend whose asshole boyfriend told her she needed to get breast implants, and that was offensive enough. This goes even beyond that.
Post # 11
No way, absolutely not! I wouldn’t ask him to something that is very painful and also unnecessary…
Post # 12
Absolutely postively NO! Not today, not tomorrow, never! I couldn’t imagine.
I consider it something that is unchangable as an adult.
(I still don’t understand why your friend thinks it’s such a big deal?)
Post # 13
Does she just want him to do it for “cosmetic” purposes? If their sex life has been fine with him being uncircumcised long enough for them to be engaged, then I say, “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.”
Post # 14
No! Definitely not – honestly I dont see the big deal about being uncircumcised – Ive hooked up with both and its not really that different…
Post # 15
I’ll admit, the first time I saw an uncut one it kind of freaked me out. But in reality, the only way I could imagine it being an issue is if he’s not keeping clean enough, in which case I think she could bring it up (delicately). No way would I ask someone to have unnecessary surgery for purely aesthetic reasons.